12/03/2025
Doing it alone has never been the blueprint for motherhood.
Somewhere along the way, American culture packaged “self-sufficiency” as a badge of honor and told moms, “You’ve got this… alone.”
But historically? Women survived, healed, and thrived because they didn’t.
We were never meant to recover from birth while cooking dinner, healing stitches, waking every two hours, managing toddlers, answering emails, and somehow staying emotionally regulated.
𝗪𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐧. 𝐓𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐝. 𝐓𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝.
This idea that mothers have done it alone “for centuries” is a fallacy.
Communities raised babies. Aunties stepped in. Grandmothers guided. Sisters showed up. Villages circled around new moms like instinct. Wisdom passed down from generations.
So if you’re building your support system now—friends, doulas, therapists, family, neighbors, anyone who lightens the load—please know this:
You’re not “weak.”
You’re not “spoiled.”
You’re not “too dependent.”
You’re doing what generations of women before you always did: 𝐘𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚 𝐯𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐚𝐠𝐞.
And that is how we protect our mental health, our physical recovery, our identity, our relationships, and our joy.
Build your village, mama. Not because you can’t do it alone…but because you were never meant to.
