02/11/2026
What if the real root of your anxiety is self-abandonment, not overthinking?
A lot of high-functioning adults aren’t “fine.”
They’re just well-practiced in self-abandonment, especially if they grew up in narcissistic or emotionally immature households.
My clients will say things like:
➤“I can’t relax. I’m constantly on edge, waiting for something to go wrong.”
➤“I second-guess everything I do, even the smallest decisions.”
➤“I always feel like it’s my fault when something goes wrong.”
➤“I feel responsible for everyone’s emotions, like it’s my job to fix them.”
➤“I don’t know how to say no without feeling like I’m doing something wrong.”
➤“I always need reassurance that I didn’t mess up.”
➤“When someone’s upset, I assume it’s because of me.”
➤“I feel guilty for wanting things, like I’m being selfish.”
These aren’t personality traits. They’re self-preservation strategies.
And unless they’re examined, they keep running in the background.
In my latest blog post, I break down:
➤How childhood roles (like Golden Child or Caretaker) shape adult behavior
➤Why anxiety often stems from early emotional conditioning
➤What it actually means to “abandon yourself”, and how to stop
➤The one question that helps interrupt these patterns in real time
This is the core work inside my group coaching program, Anxious to Anchored, where we rebuild your relationship with yourself from the inside out. Not mindset hacks. Actual rewiring. The next cohort starts February 18th, so apply now!
