02/12/2025
đš đ Womenâs sexual desire is not a light switchâitâs way more complex involving emotions, connection, hormonal shifts and a whole lot of context.
Ever wondered why you donât just âfeel in the moodâ out of nowhere like they do in movies?
Thatâs because spontaneous desire (aka âIâm turned on just becauseâ) is only one type of desireâand for most women, itâs NOT the norm.
đĄ Meet Responsive Desire!
Instead of desire striking before arousal, responsive desire kicks in after sexual stimuliâlike affectionate touch, emotional connection, or even just allowing yourself the space to relax and tune into pleasure. Itâs normal to need a little something to get you in the mood!
⨠Think of it like this:
đ Spontaneous desire = an instant-on light switch.
đĽ Responsive desire = a simmering potâit heats up with the right ingredients.
And guess what? Neither is âbetterâ than the other! But society often makes us think spontaneous desire is the ârightâ way to experience libido, which can lead to stress, shame, or the feeling that something is âwrongâ with you (spoiler: itâs not!).
đ Want to learn more? These must-read books break it all down beautifully:
đ âCome As You Areâ by Emily Nagoski â The ultimate guide to female sexuality & how to work with your desire, not against it.
đ âYou Are Not Brokenâ by Kelly Casperson, MD â A science-backed, no-BS take on libido, pleasure, and ditching the shame.
đ Struggling with low libido or feeling disconnected from your desire? Youâre not alone, and you donât have to just âdeal with it.â At bePowerfuel, we help women navigate hormone changes, sexual health, and everything in between.
đ Letâs talk â book a consult at www.bepowerfuel.com or DM us! Because your pleasure & well-being matter. đ