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Victoria Easa, LICSW - Therapist & Relational Coach

02/04/2026

Making a request can feel risky.
It asks us to name what we want… and to tolerate the possibility of a “no.”

A true request isn’t a demand in disguise.
It’s an honest expression of need, paired with respect for the other person’s autonomy.

When we learn the difference between invitations, requests, and demands, our relationships get clearer, calmer, and more grounded in choice rather than pressure.

If asking for what you need feels scary, there’s usually a good reason. And it’s something you can learn to do differently.

Link to blog: https://unmessyourmind.com/the-three-modes-of-negotiation/

02/02/2026

We all carry stories about who we are, what we deserve, and what’s possible for us.
Some of them were shaped long before we had a choice.

Not every story is true.
Not every story still fits.

Awareness is where change begins. And with support, practice, and compassion, those old narratives can be rewritten.

What’s one story you’re ready to loosen your grip on?

01/11/2026

When love felt conditional growing up, self-worth often does too 💔

You may learn to earn approval, avoid mistakes, or stay small to feel safe. Over time, that can quietly shape how you see yourself and what you believe you deserve.

None of this means something is wrong with you.
It means something happened.

Self-worth work isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about understanding where these beliefs came from and learning a different way to relate to yourself 🌱

If this resonates, there’s more to explore.
DM me, let's talk.

01/10/2026

It’s easy to let self-worth drift into other people’s opinions 💭
Approval. Feedback. Reactions.

But worth isn’t something that gets assigned from the outside.
It’s something you relate to internally.

Learning to see yourself with clarity, fairness, and compassion is foundational work.
And it changes everything. ✨

01/09/2026

Some of the stories we live by were never consciously chosen 📖
They were inherited, absorbed, or shaped by circumstances we didn’t control.

Healing doesn’t erase the past.
It gives you the ability to respond differently to it.

You are allowed to rewrite what no longer fits.
And you don’t have to do that work alone ✨
DM me to chat!

01/08/2026

Discernment is a boundary skill 🧠🌿

It’s the ability to pause and ask:
Is this true?
Is this about me?

If the answer to either is no, it doesn’t get to live in your body, your heart, or your mind.

So much guilt comes from carrying things that were never ours to carry. Other people’s choices. Other people’s pain. Other people’s unfinished business.

As discernment strengthens, defensiveness softens.
You stop absorbing what isn’t yours.
And peace becomes more accessible.

This is learnable.
And it’s deeply freeing.
link → https://unmessyourmind.com/what-is-discernment/

01/07/2026

Real relationship change doesn’t start with winning an argument 💬
It starts with curiosity.

When defensiveness softens, something new becomes possible.
Understanding. Accountability. Repair.

Shifting from “I need to protect myself” to “I’m willing to understand” takes self-esteem, boundaries, and practice. It’s not about blame. It’s about learning a different way to relate.

If you’re ready to approach your relationship with more curiosity and less fear, there’s support available ✨
Visit unmessyourmind.com to book a FREE call with me!

01/05/2026

Self-compassion can feel surprisingly hard 🤍
Especially for people who learned early on to be strong, capable, or self-critical instead.

If you can feel tenderness toward a child or a pet, that capacity already lives inside you.
The work is learning how to turn it inward, gently and without forcing.

This isn’t about getting it “right.”
It’s about building a kinder relationship with yourself over time 🌱

If this resonates, there’s more to explore.
DM me to chat!

01/04/2026

Healthy workplaces are built on healthy self-worth 💼✨

When people understand their value, communication improves, boundaries strengthen, and workplace dynamics shift in meaningful ways.

I work with organizations to explore how self-esteem, boundaries, and relational awareness directly impact leadership, collaboration, and culture.

If your organization is ready for positive change, let’s talk.
link → https://unmessyourmind.com/speaking/

01/02/2026

Imposter syndrome and low self-esteem get confused all the time 🤍
But they’re not the same.

Imposter syndrome is the fear of being found out.
Low self-esteem is feeling less than, even when you know you’re capable.

And here’s the important part:
Someone else might do it better.
That doesn’t make you less worthy.

There is room for different voices.
Different styles.
Different ways of saying the same truth.

People aren’t just interested in what you say.
They’re interested in you and how you say it.

That shift lives in self-esteem and boundaries work.
And it’s learnable ✨
link → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MdwmPZa0LN4

01/01/2026

New Years can bring a lot up 🕊️
Hope, pressure, reflection, and sometimes the weight of what isn’t working.

Relationships don’t magically reset when the calendar changes.
They take honesty, effort, and support.

You don’t have to do this work alone.
Strengthening connection is possible, even when things feel hard.

If this feels like the year to approach your relationships differently, support is here 🤍
DM me or visit unmessyourmind.com

12/31/2025

Social media can quietly teach us that worth equals visibility 📱
Likes. Shares. Validation.

But that’s society-based esteem.
And it’s shaky ground.

Your value isn’t measured by engagement, productivity, or how you’re perceived online.
It’s inherent. It exists whether anyone is watching or not.

When you learn to step out of the “S” in the EASA lens, something steadier becomes possible.

If this resonates, there’s more to explore.
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