Unmess Your Mind

Unmess Your Mind Victoria Easa, LICSW - Therapist & Relational Coach

Healing doesn’t stop with you 💛The work you do today quietly shapes what comes next.Breaking cycles is rarely loud or dr...
12/28/2025

Healing doesn’t stop with you 💛
The work you do today quietly shapes what comes next.

Breaking cycles is rarely loud or dramatic.
Most of the time, it’s made up of small pauses, different choices, and learning to meet yourself with compassion.

Your healing matters.
More than you may realize. ✨
DM me to chat!

Generational legacy isn’t about blame.It’s about awareness 🌱Patterns get passed down not because people are bad, but bec...
12/27/2025

Generational legacy isn’t about blame.
It’s about awareness 🌱

Patterns get passed down not because people are bad, but because they’re unseen. When something gets activated in the present, it’s often echoing something much older.

The work begins when you pause, turn inward, and ask:
“What is mine to tend to here?”

You can’t control another person.
You can learn to comfort yourself, interrupt old patterns, and choose differently.

That’s how cycles start to shift.
link → https://unmessyourmind.com/generational-legacy/

The holiday spirit hasn’t quite packed up yet.And that’s okay with me. ☕️🎄The calendar can move on if it wants to.I’m ta...
12/27/2025

The holiday spirit hasn’t quite packed up yet.
And that’s okay with me. ☕️🎄

The calendar can move on if it wants to.
I’m taking my time.

There’s something about these in-between days that feel softer.
Less pressure. Fewer expectations. More room to just be human.

Last Christmas mug of the day.
Lingering joy fully intentional.

Christmas is over…but the mug game is still strong. ☕️😄The day after Christmas has its own energy.A little quieter.A lit...
12/26/2025

Christmas is over…
but the mug game is still strong. ☕️😄

The day after Christmas has its own energy.
A little quieter.
A little messier.
Still very real.

No rushing. No fixing. No “shoulds.”
Just easing back into regular life one sip at a time.

Mug of the day: Merry & Bright (even if the day is more… mellow).

☕️

I hope you had a gentle, meaningful Christmas 🎄Whether it was joyful, complicated, quiet, or all of the above.The holida...
12/26/2025

I hope you had a gentle, meaningful Christmas 🎄
Whether it was joyful, complicated, quiet, or all of the above.

The holidays can stir up a lot. Old patterns. Old roles. Old beliefs that started long before adulthood.

This is the heart of how I work.
Together, we uncover the hidden beliefs formed early on that still shape how you relate, decide, and show up today.

You don’t have to keep carrying what no longer fits.
Let’s dive deep 🤍
Link in bio, book a free call!

12/25/2025

Every December, a special candle makes its way into our home. 🕯️🎄

When I was growing up, my mom kept an Advent candle like this one burning from December 1st all the way to Christmas. It wasn’t about perfection or timing it just right. It was about marking the days. Slowing time. Letting the season unfold one small ritual at a time.

My mother used to often mess up the burning schedule (my husband would say I mess ours up, too, but I think I'm pretty good about it!). She'd forget to burn it for a day, then overburn it and have to skip a few days, then overburn it again. 😂

Traditions don’t have to be flawless to be meaningful.
They just have to be returned to.

It's a nice memory with my mom and a Christmas tradition I love, so I wanted to share it with you!

Wishing you the Happiest of Holidays from the Easa Family! 🎁














Christmas doesn’t need to be magical or perfectly planned.It can be low-key.It can be quiet.It can begin with a mug and ...
12/25/2025

Christmas doesn’t need to be magical or perfectly planned.
It can be low-key.
It can be quiet.
It can begin with a mug and a deep breath. ☕️🎄

Before the day gets busy (or before you decide it shouldn’t), there’s something grounding about starting right here.

No pressure. No performance.
Just you and your mug.

Today’s mug of the day is serving a little Grinch energy 💚☕Whether you’re feeling full of cheer, a little “meh,” or some...
12/24/2025

Today’s mug of the day is serving a little Grinch energy 💚☕

Whether you’re feeling full of cheer, a little “meh,” or somewhere in between, there’s room for all of it today.

Holiday pajamas + a warm mug = acceptable coping strategy ✔️
Show me your mug 🎄✨

Merry Christmas Eve!

Being human means holding both strengths and flaws 🌱Not one or the other.Self-esteem isn’t the same as confidence.Confid...
12/23/2025

Being human means holding both strengths and flaws 🌱
Not one or the other.

Self-esteem isn’t the same as confidence.
Confidence is about what you can do.
Self-esteem is about who you are, even when things feel messy.

When those two get confused, people often end up chasing performance instead of grounding into worth.

If this distinction feels important, you can explore it more on the blog ✨
link → https://unmessyourmind.com/self-esteem-vs-self-confidence/

Relational Life Therapy offers a different way of understanding relationships.It’s not about staying neutral or sitting ...
12/22/2025

Relational Life Therapy offers a different way of understanding relationships.

It’s not about staying neutral or sitting above the work as an “expert.”
It’s about being real, direct, and relational.

This approach focuses on healthy self-esteem, clear boundaries, and meeting one another from a place of equality. Not better than. Not less than.

Living relationally means learning how to show up with honesty, accountability, and connection.
And yes, sometimes that includes being challenged as well as supported.

If you’re curious about this lens and how it shapes the work I do, you can read more on the blog.

Link-> https://unmessyourmind.com/relational-life-therapy-was-born/

Difficulty making decisions isn’t always about the decision itself.Often, it’s driven by perfectionism.And perfectionism...
12/21/2025

Difficulty making decisions isn’t always about the decision itself.

Often, it’s driven by perfectionism.
And perfectionism isn’t about high standards, it’s about self-esteem.

When decisions are made from a place of Better Than or Less Than, there’s fear underneath.
Fear of making the wrong choice.
Fear of messing up.
Fear of falling into shame.

Healthy decision-making comes from your Center of Equality.
A grounded place where you accept that you’re human, fallible, and still worthy.

From there, you can choose.
And trust that even if a decision doesn’t turn out perfectly, you’ll be okay.

Link in caption to learn more.

When you say “yes” while hoping for approval, relief, or something in return, it rarely feels good for long.Over time, t...
12/20/2025

When you say “yes” while hoping for approval, relief, or something in return, it rarely feels good for long.

Over time, those yeses can turn into resentment.
Not just toward others, but toward yourself.

That pattern often comes from society-based esteem.
Basing your worth on being liked, needed, or useful.

Real self-worth comes from knowing you stand equal.
Eye to eye. Toe to toe.
Your voice matters because you exist, not because of what you give.

Learning to give your yes freely, or not at all, is how you begin to step out of feeling less than and into your Center of Equality.

Link-> https://unmessyourmind.com/give-your-yes-freely-or-dont-give-it-at-all/

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