A Set Chance

01/19/2026

01/19/2026

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.”
— Martin Luther King Jr.

01/18/2026

It’s been a wonderful five days here in Arizona, flying back to WV today full of gratitude and so thankful I get to provide equine assisted psychotherapy in my little area of the world.
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First Eagala training of the year ✅

First Skillsets: Intensive training of the year ✅

A great group of Eagala certified members and trainers gaining skills, making memories, creating connection? ✅ ✅ ✅

Thank you, San Tan Valley, for three terrific Eagala days!

01/18/2026

Imposter syndrome:

I actually feel this way a lot of time in session both in the clinic and in the barn.

Imposter syndrome shows up quietly—even for people who are trained, experienced, and deeply committed to doing their work well.

That inner voice that says:
“I should know more.”
“I’m not doing enough.”
“Someone is going to realize I’m not as capable as they think.”

Here’s what I want you to know—both as a clinician and as a human:
Imposter syndrome is rarely about lack of skill. It’s often rooted in high standards, responsibility, and a nervous system shaped by past experiences.

In trauma-informed work, we understand that when someone grows up needing to stay alert, perform well, or avoid mistakes, the brain learns to stay on guard—even in moments of success. The body doesn’t always recognize safety right away.

Healing isn’t about forcing confidence or “thinking positive.”
It’s about creating regulation, safety, and trust—internally and externally.

At A SET CHANCE, the work is about helping people reconnect with their strengths, quiet the inner critic, and move forward without pressure or shame.

If this resonates, you’re not behind.
You’re not failing.
You’re human—and growth doesn’t require perfection.

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01/17/2026

So Much Truth……

There’s a lot of noise when you’re about to try something new.

The voice of pride says don’t risk it.
Experience lists all the reasons it could go wrong.
Reason tells you it’s pointless, that it’s safer to stay where you are.

And then there’s the quieter voice.
The one that doesn’t shout.
The one that doesn’t need proof.

The one that simply says… give it a try.

That voice isn’t reckless.
It’s brave.
It knows fear, but it also knows possibility.

So if you’re standing at the edge of something right now ... unsure, hesitant, tired .... let yourself listen to that whisper. Not because the outcome is guaranteed, but because staying still isn’t always the safest option either.

Sometimes growth doesn’t roar.
Sometimes it whispers. 🌙🐎

01/17/2026

Observe ..... don’t absorb other people’s energy.

You can notice without carrying.
You can be aware without taking it on.

Their stress isn’t yours to hold.
Their urgency doesn’t need to become your nervous system.
Their mood can pass by you, not into you.

Like standing at the gate of a field ....
you see what’s happening,
but you don’t have to step into the mud.

Observation is grounded.
Absorption is exhausting.

So today, let yourself witness…
and keep your own energy where it belongs
steady, protected, yours. 🌿

01/16/2026

🌿 The Importance of Self-Regulation 🌿

Self-regulation is the ability to notice what’s happening inside your body and respond with care instead of reacting from overwhelm.

When we learn to self-regulate, we can:
• 🧠 Calm the nervous system
• ❤️ Reduce anxiety and emotional overload
• 🌱 Improve focus, relationships, and decision-making
• 🛑 Pause before reacting, even during stress or triggers

Self-regulation isn’t about “controlling” emotions—it’s about creating safety within yourself so emotions can move through without taking over.

You don’t have to be calm all the time.
✨ You just need tools to help you come back to calm.

01/15/2026

Choosing yourself isn’t selfish.
It’s sacred.

Sometimes choosing yourself looks quiet.
It looks like stepping out of old patterns.
Like standing in the middle of your own life and deciding this is where I begin again.

Choosing yourself means honoring your needs, your healing, and your worth—even when it feels uncomfortable. Even when it means setting boundaries. Even when no one else is cheering yet.

This path isn’t about perfection.
It’s about presence.
It’s about coming home to yourself—one intentional step at a time.

✨ You are allowed to choose you.
✨ You are allowed to take up space.
✨ You are allowed to begin again.

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A SET CHANCE
Every being can succeed if given a set chance 💛🐎💙

01/15/2026

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Sometimes healing looks like this.
A pause. A breath. A moment of perspective.

When we slow down enough to connect with our body, our breath, and the world around us, the nervous system begins to settle. From that place, clarity grows. Strength returns. Healing becomes possible.

At A SET CHANCE, we believe growth doesn’t come from pushing harder — it comes from feeling safe enough to be present. Whether through trauma-informed therapy, EMDR, or equine-assisted work, our focus is creating space where regulation, reflection, and resilience can take root.

You don’t need to rush your journey.
You just need a set chance.

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Every Being Can Succeed If Given a Set Chance

01/14/2026

There are bonds that don’t need words.
They can’t be seen with the eyes — only felt with the heart.

Between a human and a horse exists a quiet language of trust, calm, and acceptance.
No fear. No roles. No masks.
Just two hearts beating in the same rhythm.

A horse feels more than we think.
It knows when you’re hurting.
It knows when you’re silent but screaming inside.
And in that moment, it simply stays — without questions, without conditions.

This is not magic.
It is a pure connection of souls.
When a human heart and a horse’s heart find each other, the world becomes a little brighter. 🧡🐎

01/12/2026

The way of the horse is simple—and powerful.
Be present. Be honest. Stay regulated.

Horses don’t ask who you were yesterday or what you carry from the past.
They respond to what you bring right now—your breath, your body, your energy.

In their presence, there is no rushing.
No forcing.
No pretending.

The horse teaches us to slow down, listen inward, and lead with clarity instead of control. When we soften, they soften. When we ground, they follow. When we regulate, connection becomes possible.

This is the way of the horse:
Safety through consistency.
Trust through attunement.
Growth through relationship.

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Every being can succeed if given A SET CHANCE.

01/10/2026

Sometimes the horse knows before we do.

Before we name the feeling.
Before the tears come.
Before the words ever find their way out.

Horses respond to what’s true, not what’s said out loud.
They notice the subtle shifts—our breath, our posture, the heaviness we try to carry quietly.

There’s something deeply grounding about being with an animal who doesn’t ask you to explain…
they just meet you where you are.