Cassandra Falby Psychotherapy - Learning New Rules of Engagement

10/31/2025

Look who showed up for the re-release of Sinners at the in San Francisco! 😮 What a nice family photo, n’est-ce pas? And we just thought we’d be watching the film (in all its 70mm glory). My extroverted friend secured one of the giveaway items they had. Très cool.

Right after the previews, they raised the lights and we heard this voice coming over the speakers. It was Ryan Coogler‘s voice! And his wife Zinzi was there as well. They are an amazing creative team!

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06/15/2025

Hey hey! It’s the final day of the free Q***r Women of Color Film Festival in San Francisco! Films start @ 12p! Then there’ll be a screening @ 3p, celebrating the 25th Anniversary of w/ community+food+music @ 5p, and then our closing screening @ 7p. Don’t have tickets? That’s okay! You can register on-site. We’d love to see you! 🧡💙💜

ID = A selfie of a dark brown skinned Black genderqueer femme wearing a pink shirt, blue glasses, a black mask and a red baseball cap that says, “Stunts.” Behind them is a backdrop with the QWOCMAP film logo in a repeated pattern.

02/06/2025

The vagus nerve is involved modulating digestion, breathing, mood, and heart rate. When stimulated, this nerve can help calm your body which can be helpful during moments when you’re feeling nervous or unsettled.

One way to stimulate your vagus nerve is to hum. You can hum a random tune, a song that you love, or hum various tones of your own choosing. Feel into the sensations as you hum.

Take a moment to give this a try!



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10/21/2024

04/02/2024

When we enter into a romantic partnership, one rooted in love, we are opting in to communicating, being vulnerable, exploring, and more. We have many opportunities in a day to turn toward, turn away, and turn against our partner(s). We can be critical, or not. We can be defensive, or not. The more we are able to demonstrate care for our partners and treat them like we love them (even when they frustrate us), the easier it will be to have thoughtful communication as a core part of the relationship.



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03/26/2024

When you're arguing with your partner, how old are the emotional parts that are speaking? Like frfr.



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05/06/2020

05/03/2020

Got video chat fatigue?

04/30/2020

Greetings, everyone!

04/22/2020

What helps you feel most safe and at peace?

Is it a place, an object, a person, a song, or...?

04/17/2020

What activities are you finding helpful to when it comes to your emotional wellness?