Coastal Counseling Children and Family, LLC

11/28/2023

The holiday season hurts. That's just reality. ⁣Whether you're missing someone who should be part of the festivities, or you are missing someone who shared your love of quiet acknowledgment over raucous partying - whatever grief you're carrying - this season will add to it.

But there are ways to make it gentler for yourself.⁣
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Please remember, whatever you choose to do (or not do) this holiday season, staying true to yourself is important.

To the best of your ability, seek out those places that companion your sadness, and avoid those places that ask you to pretend you are something other than you are. Life is too short for that. Make this season as much of a comfort to you as you can.⁣
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May your holiday season (or non-holiday, depending) be as safe and full of love and connection as it can be.

How about you? What are your strategies for making this time of year gentler on yourself? Others in this community can use your ideas.

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Do you stonewall during conflict?

Stonewalling, one of the Four Horsemen, is Dr. John Gottman's term for one or both partners shutting down when feeling overwhelmed during conflict. Rather than confronting the issue, someone who is stonewalling will be unresponsive, making evasive maneuvers such as tuning out, turning away, or acting busy.

Self-soothing is the antidote to stonewalling. When stonewalling happens, stop the conversation and take a break. It can be helpful to agree on a signal, phrase, or gesture to clearly communicate when you're feeling overwhelmed. By taking a break (Dr. John Gottman recommends self-soothing for at least twenty minutes), you can calm your nervous system and return to the conversation with a clearer perspective and a better ability to problem solve.

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