04/22/2026
Defensiveness isn’t always the problem. It can actually be information.
A signal that something in you felt threatened.
Instead of shutting it down or reacting to it, try asking: “What was I afraid of in that moment?”
Most men never slow down long enough to answer that honestly.
But when you do, it starts to reveal what’s actually driving your reactions.
Defensiveness isn’t something to just get rid of. It’s something to understand. Because underneath it… there’s usually a belief about yourself that needs attention.