Soulfly Therapy

Your Soul is Your Authentic Expression. Your Body is Here to Harness It.

Sarah Bustamante, C-IAYT, helps people navigate life change and find greater ease within challenging transitions. Sarah specializes in trauma and grief in relationship to pregnancy and childbirth, a recent diagnosis or ongoing illness, leaving a long-time job or relationship, coping with the loss of a loved one, acclimating to the demands of parenting, stress and stress-related illnesses, depression, anxiety, and in the process of death and dying.

04/07/2026

Not knowing doesn’t mean you’re lost.
Sometimes it means you’re in the space where something new is forming.

You don’t have to rush the answer.

Scared and Moving begins April 25.
Link in bio.

04/05/2026

Speed is being demanded of us right now. Here’s why slowing down — even briefly — is one of the most strategic things you can do.

04/04/2026

More information and more distraction are the two things we reach for — and neither is what the nervous system actually needs. Here’s what helps.

04/03/2026

Your breath reflects your body’s state. Notice it, observe patterns, and allow it to guide you toward regulation.

04/01/2026

Witnessing yourself is different from judging yourself. Here’s what it actually means — and why it’s one of the most courageous things you can practice.

03/28/2026

Urgency and truth can feel the same in the body. Here’s how to tell them apart — and why it matters for every decision you make.

03/24/2026

The window of tolerance — one of the most useful frameworks I know for understanding why we react the way we do, and how to build genuine capacity.

03/22/2026

Kindness toward resistance.

When you meet resistance — that feeling of hitting a wall, pulling back, or getting stuck — your first instinct might be to push harder.

To force your way through.
To override what your body is signaling.

But research in trauma recovery shows that self-compassion — treating yourself with care instead of force — actually supports nervous system regulation and healing.

What if kindness toward your resistance was part of the work?
What might that look like?

Noticing when you're pushing too hard and choosing to pause
Acknowledging that resistance is protective, not obstructive
Giving yourself permission to move at your own pace
Treating the parts of you that are scared or hesitant with gentleness instead of judgment

When you approach your body with force or criticism, you reinforce the disconnection you're trying to heal.

Befriending your resistance doesn't mean giving up.
It means recognizing that your body is doing what it knows how to do to keep you safe — and that deserves respect, not battle.

Your body isn't the problem.
Your resistance isn't the enemy.
What would it feel like to meet both with kindness?

03/20/2026

Twenty seconds with resistance.

You don't need hours of meditation or therapy sessions to begin shifting your relationship with resistance.

Brief moments of awareness — even just 20 seconds — can create meaningful change.

When you pause and gently bring attention to the sensations associated with resistance, you're doing several things:

Activating your prefrontal cortex
Signaling to your nervous system that you can be with what's present
Creating the conditions for choice

You're not trying to make the resistance go away.
You're just noticing: Where does resistance live in your body right now?
Is it tightness in your chest?
Tension in your jaw or shoulders?
A pulling back sensation?
Heat or heaviness somewhere?
Name what you notice.

That simple act of acknowledgment — "I notice tightness in my chest" — begins to shift resistance from an unconscious driver to something you can work with.
Without these micro-moments of presence, resistance stays invisible.
It runs the show without you realizing it.
Awareness of resistance is the beginning of choice.

03/18/2026

Your nervous system is constantly scanning for safety and threat.

It moves through three primary states:
Connection. Mobilization. Shutdown.

When you feel present and engaged, that’s your ventral vagal system online.
When your heart races and urgency rises, that’s sympathetic activation.
When everything feels heavy, numb, or far away, that’s dorsal vagal shutdown.

None of these states are wrong. They’re adaptive responses designed to protect you.

But when you don’t recognize which state you’re in, it’s hard to know what you actually need.
Regulation begins with awareness.
And awareness creates choice.

Grounded in Polyvagal Theory (Porges, 2011; Dana, 2018).

03/16/2026

Befriending your body.
What does it mean to be kind to your body — genuinely kind, not performatively well-behaved?

It might look like:
Rest when you're tired, not when you've "earned" it
Movement that feels good, not punishing
Nourishment without rigid rules
Gentle touch — your own hand on your heart
Simply listening to what your body is asking for

Research shows that self-compassion and body-oriented kindness can support nervous system regulation and reduce the physiological effects of chronic stress and trauma.

When you treat your body as something to control, fix, or override, you reinforce the disconnection you're trying to heal.

Befriending your body doesn't mean everything feels good all the time.
It means you're willing to meet what's there — sensation, discomfort, tightness, ease — with curiosity instead of judgment.

What would it be like to approach your body as an ally rather than an obstacle?

Address

1900 Northwest Expressway Suite R206
Oklahoma City, OK
73118

Website

http://soulflytherapy.com/

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