04/24/2026
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One of the hardest things about grief is how easily it becomes invisible to everyone else.
People tend to forget you’re still living with it. Or they assume that after a few weeks or months, you should somehow be ‘back to normal.’
But grief doesn’t work that way. There’s no predictable ending. No moment when the pain just stops.
Instead, we’re left trying to balance something we can’t control while continuing to live in a world that keeps moving forward without hesitation.
Grief is deeply internal. From the outside, life may look unchanged. Inside, everything can feel permanently altered. Thoughts, memories, and emotions rise without warning, often unseen by those around us.
This is exactly why I write so much about grief.
Because unless someone’s experienced significant loss, it’s nearly impossible to explain what it feels like.
How do you describe months of quiet sadness?
The tears that still come at night.
The persistent wish for one more conversation,
one more moment, one more ordinary day?
Here’s the thing…you can’t.
And this isn’t about blaming others for not understanding. It’s about recognizing how isolating grief can be, and how much better we could become at supporting those who carry it.
When someone we love dies, we’re not only grieving their absence. We’re grieving everything that came with them, the routines, the holidays, the laughter, the history, the shared life that no longer exists in the same way.
Grief isn’t built from a single goodbye. It’s built from a lifetime of moments.
With time, some edges of grief soften. But that doesn’t mean it disappears.
Especially after sudden loss, the mind has a way of replaying memories, holding tightly to what changed in an instant.
I don’t talk about my grief in everyday conversation. I tend to share it here, with those of you who understand without needing explanation. And I often wonder how many others are moving through their days feeling unseen in the same way.
Because I believe to grieve…is to remember what mattered.
Gary Sturgis
Author: ‘SURVIVING GRIEF – 365 Days A Year’
