03/20/2026
Find a therapist with a deep understanding of trauma who has strategies and techniques that make a difference beyond just coping!
If you are looking for a therapist, ask them “How do you approach trauma? How do you help people with trauma? What training (beyond college) do you have on trauma?”
Trauma literally changes how our brains function, but people are really out here saying "release your past".
They act like trauma is a choice you're making, like you're just holding onto things because you enjoy being stuck. As if you can flip a switch and suddenly your brain works differently. But trauma isn't something you're choosing to carry, it's something that rewired your entire nervous system. It changed how you process threat, how you attach to people, how your body responds to stress. It's not in your head, it's in your brain chemistry, your neural pathways, your physiology.
So when someone tells you to just let go of your past, they're revealing they have no idea how trauma actually works. You can't just decide to let go of something that fundamentally altered how your brain functions. Healing trauma takes time, takes therapy, takes literally rewiring the pathways that were created during survival. It's not a mindset shift, it's neurological repair. And dismissing that with "let go of the past" is ignorant at best, cruel at worst. Your struggle is real. Your healing is valid. And it takes as long as it takes.