01/21/2026
Boundaries don’t automatically mean someone has it all together because boundaries are not about being “fixed” or flawless they’re about awareness and intention.
You can be overwhelmed, anxious, healing, or still figuring things out and also have boundaries. In fact, most people develop boundaries because they’ve struggled, been hurt, burned out, or learned the hard way what they can and can’t carry anymore.
Boundaries mean:
“I know my limits.”
“I’m learning what drains me and what restores me.”
“I’m choosing myself even when it’s uncomfortable.”
They do not mean:
- You never struggle
- You’re emotionally perfect
- You don’t get tired, triggered, or messy
Having boundaries just means you’re practicing self-respect, not that your life is neatly wrapped with a bow. Most of us with strong boundaries are still doing the work just with a little more protection around ourselves.