12/08/2025
Managing Family & In-Law Stress During the Holidays
The time between Thanksgiving and Christmas can intensify family tensions. Here's how to navigate these relationships with compassion and boundaries:
Common Family Stressors:
• Unresolved conflicts resurfacing during gatherings
• Differing values and life choices being criticized
• In-law dynamics and divided loyalties
• Parenting disagreements with extended family
• Financial or lifestyle judgment
• Forced proximity with difficult relatives
• Pressure to maintain peace at any cost
Setting Healthy Boundaries:
• Decide in advance which topics are off-limits
• Have exit strategies ready (take breaks, step outside)
• Use phrases like "I appreciate your concern, but that's my decision"
• Limit alcohol consumption (impairs boundary-setting)
• Plan activities that reduce one-on-one tension
• It's okay to leave early or skip events
• Communicate boundaries calmly and respectfully
Self-Care During Family Time:
• Schedule personal time before and after gatherings
• Practice grounding techniques when stressed
• Connect with supportive family members
• Maintain your regular sleep and exercise routines
• Remember: You cannot control others' behavior, only your response
• Seek therapy support if family dynamics are overwhelming
At Kent Psychiatric Services, we recognize that family relationships can be complex and challenging. Our board-certified providers offer support for managing family stress, improving communication, and establishing healthy boundaries.
Currently accepting new patients with appointments available within 1-4 weeks. Evening and weekend appointments available, both in-person and via telehealth.
You deserve to enjoy the holidays on your own terms.