11/13/2025
We all want to experience warmth, connection, and joy this season. Yet for most of us, stress, unmet expectations, and family tension are inevitable parts of our celebrations.
So how do we preserve a sense of inner wellbeing when our perfectionistic ideals collide with the messiness of reality?
We're sharing an article from Psychology Today that sheds light on how our brains sometimes sabotage our holiday spirit, and how we can restore a sense of authentic enjoyment, even in the messy moments.
Here are some key takeaways:
💝 Don't let perfect be the enemy of good. Notice if your expectations are rigid, and ask yourself if there's room to release some control. Consider whether it would be okay if some things were just that: okay.
💝 Create rituals that aren’t about big outcomes but about small gifts of self-compassion: a deep breath before you welcome guests, a pause when you reach for your phone, one moment of gratitude for the "just fine" parts.
💝 Remind yourself that you are in charge of your own wellbeing. So many things are outside of our control. Our real power lies in reclaiming our own authority: it's in the right to say no to an invitation; the potential to create a moment of quiet; the possibility of reaching out when we're feeling alone.
Read the article here:
The expectations we have for holidays are misguided based on wishful thinking and tradition, contributing to the disappointment of many when anticipation meets reality.