11/05/2025
Accountability is so important to me. Nobody is perfect but don’t try to flip the script and make my reaction the issue when your actions lit the match.
I can take responsibility for my tone, my words, even my emotions but I won’t let someone ignore the part they played and act like I overreacted out of nowhere. It’s easy to point fingers at someone else’s reaction and call them “too emotional” or “too sensitive,” but it takes real honesty to admit that maybe your behavior triggered it. Maybe you crossed a line, ignored a boundary, did something hurtful and instead of owning up to it, you shifted the blame to how I responded. That’s not fair.
I believe in communication, in working things out, in growing together but none of that can happen without accountability. You can’t heal anything if you keep pretending you did nothing wrong. You can’t expect peace while causing pain and acting innocent. That’s emotional dishonesty and I refuse to play along with that. I’ll always respect someone more when they admit they were wrong instead of making excuses or playing the victim. We all make mistakes but how we take responsibility for them says everything about our character. Relationships of any kind only work when both people are willing to admit and grow.
Because at the end of the day, I’m not asking for perfection. I’m asking for realness. And realness means not running from your part in the damage just because you don’t like how it made me feel. If we want something strong and healthy, it has to be built on truth even the uncomfortable kind. 🥀
— Dorothea.