Tanya Gore Counseling

09/24/2025

If there is one thing we human beings crave after a relationship ends, it’s closure. We long for something tangible—a conversation, a reason, an explanation—anything that can

03/06/2024

On a recent hike, I spoke with a friend about the difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone is often a condition for peaceful solitude and introspection. Feeling lonely, on the other hand, is an emotional, existential, and social experience that can be profoundly debilitating. In my office, I’ve heard many people talk about loneliness, the kind that is timeless and familiar as well as the kind that seems specific to this era.

Every day, there are headlines, posts, and conversations that leave us feeling as if we’d rather be alone than engage with others on such sensitive and divisive topics—whether it's politically-driven, a schism in your family, or one of a million other topics we are collectively fighting about as a society.

My work, in part, is about helping you to disagree without disconnecting. It’s about helping you approach the unfamiliar with curiosity even if it scares or enrages you. It’s okay to respond to such overwhelm with self-isolation. But I hope you won’t stay there too long. I hope you will emerge and seek connection outside of yourself even if it’s hard, even if it means meeting new people or learning a new skill or going to a place you’ve never been.

I dive deeper into this topic in this month's newsletter, available through the link below. After reading, share your thoughts in the comments.

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02/23/2024

Make a little space for this. Talking about attraction within a relationship can feel confronting, even awkward at times. We’re mindful of its impact on one another, and (hopefully!) don’t want to be hurtful.
I’d like to offer you an alternative perspective that you might be interested in exploring (I’m not suggesting this is the answer always, just an alternative path to go down). What if the challenges you’re facing with attraction are actually issues you’re having respecting your partner?
It’s hard to be connected to attraction when we don’t respect someone, or we’re struggling to respect a part of them. Take a moment to reflect on that. Is there any part of my partner that I’m struggling to respect right now? How is that impacting my relationship with attraction to them/desire for them? See what comes up for you.
Because maybe trying to resolve issues around attraction is really an invitation to begin discussing the ruptures in respect and the attention those areas might need.

11/23/2022

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11/23/2022

7. Constantly apologizing, even for things that aren't your fault.

11/23/2022

➡️ So when your child comes home after a hard day at practice, a bad game, or a big loss, remind them: It’s ok to quit. Quitting will always be an option, but not on a bad day.

✨ In this week’s parenting guide, “What to do if your child wants to quit a sport”, you will find this tip and how to share it with your child:

11/23/2022

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11/23/2022

NEW PODCAST OUT 🎉

In this episode I answer your questions about how and when to set boundaries with friends. I also discuss:

🧠How to recognize your unique warning signals telling you it’s time to set boundaries

🧠What setting boundaries does in the brain

🧠Statements you can say to friends to set boundaries

🧠How to ask a friend for space and navigate the uncomfortable feelings that follow

To listen just look for Cleaning up the Mental Mess wherever you listen to podcasts or visit: https://anchor.fm/cleaningupthementalmess/episodes/Podcast-436-When--How-to-Set-Boundaries-with-Friends-e1r2ed0

You can also watch the episode on my YouTube channel- just look for Dr. Caroline Leaf on YouTube!

11/23/2022

Ignoring reality and leaving too many feeling guilty.

11/23/2022

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11/23/2022

Be clear about your expectations early.