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02/26/2026

7. Constantly apologizing, even for things that aren't your fault.

02/21/2026

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02/21/2026

02/19/2026

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02/18/2026

Starting small and recruiting friends can help build a routine.

02/12/2026

02/09/2026

Choose wisely

02/05/2026

02/04/2026

✨ The Inner Wounded Child in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Many people with BPD carry a deeply wounded inner child — a part of us that still holds old pain, unmet needs, and fears of being abandoned.
This part isn’t “bad.” It’s hurt, scared, and longing for safety. 💔👶

🌿 How the Wounded Child Shows Up:
🧸 Feeling intensely alone
💥 Strong emotional reactions
😢 Fear of abandonment
🤝 Craving closeness but fearing it at the same time
💫 Switching quickly between hope and despair
🌀 Feeling overwhelmed by emotions

These aren’t flaws — they’re protective responses that began in childhood when emotional needs weren’t met.

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🌱 How IFS Therapy Helps (Internal Family Systems)

IFS teaches us that we’re made of parts, not problems.
We all have:
💧 Wounded parts (like the inner child)
🛡️ Protector parts (the ones that shut down, numb, or lash out to keep us safe)
✨ The Self — calm, compassionate, grounded

In IFS, we gently learn to:
🤲 Sit with our wounded child rather than shame them
💗 Offer compassion instead of criticism
🛡️ Understand why our protectors react so strongly
🌤️ Build a relationship with all our parts
💛 Create inner safety, step by step

When the inner child feels seen and protected, emotional chaos slowly softens. Healing begins from the inside out.

02/04/2026

This is one of my favourite quotes, from the father of person-centred therapy.
Through an IFS lens, this is all about accessing Self energy.

When we can befriend and offer love and acceptance to all the different parts in our system, those parts are able to unburden and transform.

Change occurs organically in the compassionate presence of Self energy. We don't need to strive to make change happen, we just need to try and love ourselves (and all our parts) more.

As I consider this and take it in, I feel lighter. All the manager parts in my system breathe a collective sigh of relief as they remember that it's okay to relax. They don't have to keep trying so hard. They just need to leave enough space for me to be here too.
Meanwhile a sceptical part nudges me and says "yeah, but that's easier said than done!"

What happens inside you when you read this quote?