11/29/2025
Betrayal Affects Kids Too …
I remember this day like it was yesterday! Nov 30th 2019. Around a year since my husband and I had come back from nearly divorcing..
My daughter, 14 at the time, had agreed to come with me for a lunch date. She wanted to try the new Popeyes Chicken sandwich. Our relationship had been really strained for months.
She had been having a lot of anxiety (of course she was!) about the state of her parents relationship, stress with school, hormones changes, middle school, and a lot of other “stuff”..
Her anxiety came out as “mean”. She was agitated most of the time- it seemed like over- night that we went from “cuddle me” to “don’t touch me”.
My momma heart broke many many times over during this season!
The year before God spoke to me sooo clearly!! I was putting up Christmas lights in my kitchen and ruminating about how Kayla wanted me to put up Christmas lights in her bedroom..
“Why”…I thought to myself.. “why should I put up lights for her? She’s been sooo mean to me”!!
I heard the Lord in my Spirit sooo strong!!
“So, love is conditional huh”?!
😳 woah!!!!
I put up Christmas lights in her room, committed to keep fighting for her heart, no matter what …
I stopped being in my “flesh” and allowed the Spirit to lead me and became the parent!!!! That’s right! I was acting like my wounded teenage self in my reactions to her!! My feelings were hurt and I wanted to retaliate!
Ummm… 🤔
No, my daughter (all kids) need parents to be strong for them and manage our own “stuff” so we can be strong enough to hold theirs!
I cringe at how often I’ve been a hypocrite- yelling at my kids to “get control of themselves” when clearly I wasn’t modeling that well! 🙈
My daughter is almost 19 now and while it took more time and a lot of tears, therapy, prayers, recovery work, and mistakes along the way…
We have a beautiful relationship!!
I’m so so glad that God spoke to loud to me and if you are waking through something similar.. maybe He’s using me to share this message with you!!! ❤️🩹🙏🏼🫶🏻
