12/02/2025
๐๐จ ๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ ๐
๐๐๐ฅ ๐๐๐ซ๐๐ข๐ ๐จ๐ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐ฐ๐ง ๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ?
Like if you really let yourself feel them, something bad might happenโฆ
Youโll fall apartโฆ
Lose controlโฆ
Or say something you canโt take back?
Youโre not alone.
Most of us were taught to โbehave appropriatelyโ while controlling or ignoring our feelings.
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When you suppress emotions, they donโt disappearโ
they build pressure. And eventually they come out sideways as emotional blow-ups, shutdowns, reactivity, or relationship-damaging behavior. Or just plain overwhelming.
These reactions are the real problem
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These reactions happen because we were never taught how to move through emotions in a safe and effective way.
๐๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฌ, ๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐๐๐ฅ๐ (๐๐ง๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ !) ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐๐ ๐จ๐ ๐จ๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ .
Here are three simple steps you can start using to engage with your emotions in a way that reduces fear, increases stability, and supports real emotional wellbeing:
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Naming how you feel gives shape to the emotion.
It turns an overwhelming blur into something you can actually work with.
Start with the Big 3: are you feeling mad, sad, or afraid?
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Most of us were taught that certain emotions are bad โ and that we are bad for having them. This is a ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐๐ฅ ๐๐ซ๐ซ๐จ๐ซ. We were taught incorrectly about emotions.
Emotions โ ๐๐๐ emotions โ are human.
And when you work with them in a direct and conscious way, they arenโt just manageableโฆ
theyโre healing.
Gently remind yourself:
โข ๐๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐๐ง ๐๐ง๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ฅ๐ญ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ.
โข ๐๐ก๐๐ซ๐โ๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ โ๐๐๐โ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐โ๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ .
โข ๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ข๐ญ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ ๐ข๐ฌ๐งโ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐๐ฅ๐๐ฆ โ ๐ข๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ ๐๐จ ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐งโ๐ญ ๐๐จ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ข๐ญ.
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Give yourself space to ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก โ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐.
Privacy is essential.
It allows you to be uninhibited with your feelings,
keeps you from spilling your emotions onto others,
and protects you from judgment.
These are the steps we were never given โ
and this is how healing actually begins.
If this seems difficult, there is nothing wrong with you. Youโre simply missing the evolved and emotionally intelligent instruction you deserved.
๐ป๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐. There are more essential skills for creating the emotional peace and deeply connected relationships you crave. Iโd love to guide you further.
โก๏ธ ๐๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐๐ญ๐๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ๐ซ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ข๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ โ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ซ โ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ฅ๐, ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐๐ง๐ญ โ๐๐๐๐๐โ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐๐ ๐ ๐ฆ๐.