01/16/2026
Not every hard moment is trauma — and that’s actually good news.
If you spend enough time online, it can start to feel like every difficult experience must mean something is wrong with you.
A stressful job. A painful breakup. A rough season that still lingers in your body.
Here’s the reframe that often brings relief in my work:
Hard moments are part of being human.
Trauma is something more specific.
Trauma happens when an experience overwhelms your nervous system and leaves it stuck in survival mode long after the danger has passed. Many painful experiences don’t do that. They hurt. They stretch us. And over time—sometimes slowly, imperfectly—we recover.
That recovery matters.
When we label every hard experience as trauma, two things can happen:
• real trauma gets blurred
• people start to feel more fragile than they actually are
You can have:
– a painful childhood without being traumatized
– a stressful season without being broken
– strong emotions without something being “wrong” with you
And if you are dealing with trauma, naming it accurately can be deeply freeing.
Sometimes the work isn’t healing an injury.
Sometimes it’s trusting your nervous system’s capacity to respond, learn, and recover.
Being human is hard.
And that doesn’t automatically mean you’re wounded.
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