All I Can Be, LLC

11/12/2025

11/11/2025

Happy Veteran’s Day to all who served. This population has a special place in my heart and it’s truly heartbreaking that not every returning service members gets the adequate support they need. Veteran’s mental health matters and PTSD is a very real and very symptomatic disorder that impacts people’s quality of life. Sometimes it’s not even the battles fought but the mistreatment by other military leaders and soldiers that still haunt veterans.

If you feel you need a safe and supportive environment to process past trauma and experiences within your service, I am available and would be honored to walk with you in your healing journey.

11/11/2025

This!!!

11/10/2025

When your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, it can swing between extremes. One moment, “My partner is horrible!” The next, “It’s all my fault; I should be grateful.” This is called splitting, a trauma response rooted in insecure attachment. It’s your body’s way of trying to protect you from pain and uncertainty.

When your nervous system feels safe, something new becomes possible: emotional integration. You can feel anger without losing sight of love. You can see your partner’s strengths and hold them accountable for their impact. You can honor your pain while staying connected.

11/06/2025

When I talk about burnout at work, I want to first acknowledge that capitalism is the primary culprit. There’s also a reality that most of us struggle to advocate for and prioritize ourselves due to trauma, systemic oppression, and unhealed attachment wounds. We might feel ashamed, insecure, or unworthy of needing rest and support. I work with individuals to earn a secure attachment within themselves by healing past wounds which improves daily life-including a healthy work/life balance. I do this by creating a safe and compassionate environment where we can explore who you are and what you’ve been through. It’s not easy work but it’s so rewarding to create a life you don’t feel the need to escape from.

11/04/2025

Vulnerability always involves risk—there’s no way around it.
But when emotional safety is present, being vulnerable doesn’t feel like danger; it feels like truth.
That’s where real closeness begins.

10/28/2025

We often hear attachment styles used to explain everything from personality traits to how someone spends money, but that’s not what attachment theory is about.

Your attachment style doesn’t determine how tidy your home is or whether you love small talk at parties. It helps you understand how you connect and respond emotionally in relationships, what triggers you, how you reach for closeness, and how you respond when your partner reaches for you.

Learning about your attachment style isn’t about labeling yourself; it’s about recognizing the patterns that shape emotional safety and connection and finding your path toward secure attachment.

10/28/2025

10/28/2025

When our child shows difficult behaviour, it’s really a message: “I’m struggling, not bad.”
How we respond in those moments shapes what they learn about emotions and connection.
When we validate, empathise and help them calm, they learn to regulate — and behaviour naturally improves.
When we ignore, punish or isolate, feelings grow bigger and regulation becomes harder.

✨ Connection teaches regulation, not correction.

📘 Guidance from The Therapist Parent — available on www.thetherapistparent.com and Amazon.

10/28/2025

💭 When a child “acts out,” it’s easy to assume they’re doing it on purpose
But all behavior is communication — it tells us what’s happening beneath the surface. This doesn't mean we don't set limits on the behavior but it does mean we set those limits with compassion and understanding.

Instead of asking “What’s wrong with this child?” try asking,
👉 “What is this behavior trying to tell me?”

Every behavior is a message — we just have to learn how to listen. 💫

CREDIT: Adapted from the original infographic created by

10/26/2025

When a child’s behaviour makes us want to pull back, that’s usually the moment they need us most.

It’s easy to stay close when they’re calm, kind, and cooperative. It’s harder when their pain shows up as defiance, disrespect, or distance.

But beneath every outburst, every slammed door, every “leave me alone,” is a nervous system crying out for safety.

Connection doesn’t excuse the behaviour — it explains it. And once we understand, we can guide with empathy instead of control.

Because a child who feels safe doesn’t need to fight for power.
A child who feels seen doesn’t have to shout to be heard.
And a child who feels connected learns that love can hold space for even their hardest moments.

When we meet their chaos with calm, we become the anchor they can return to. That’s not permissiveness — that’s leadership. It’s what teaches them that love doesn’t disappear when they’re at their worst.

So the next time their behaviour pushes you away, pause before you step back. Take a breath, soften your tone, and reach in — not to fix, but to connect.

Because the behaviour is just the language.
The real message is always the same: I need you. ❤️


Quote Credit: Kelly Bartlett❣️

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