All I Can Be, LLC

04/02/2026

Love this breakdown of self abandonment!

04/02/2026

None of this is about blaming yourself or pretending your relationship needs don’t matter. Your needs do matter. The work is to stop second guessing them while also learning how to express them in ways that create more safety, more clarity, and more connection.

04/01/2026

Building your self-esteem is an integral part of therapy, but sometimes it comes at a cost - your relationships. Setting boundaries, walking away from hurtful behaviors, and growing into your power can threaten relationships that were built on your insecurities or need for connection at any cost. I firmly believe relationships can grow if all parties are willing and able to do the work but some don’t make the cut. But like I always say the relationship you have with yourself is the only one that will last your whole lifetime. 

04/01/2026

Part of the pain of healing anxious attachment lies in what was tolerated when you were looking for love. Healing comes when we recognize who we are and how we can be the person we’ve always needed. Healthy relationships form when we recognize what we have to offer and how we can show up authentically. This isn’t easy work but the peace on the other side is worth it. ❤️

04/01/2026

In case no one has told you - your worth is inherent. Your value does not change based on someone else’s perspective. Acknowledging that someone’s capacity for closeness differs from what you want and letting the relationship end is a sign of respect. And it allows you to seek relationships that are more fulfilling.

04/01/2026

I love educating on the power of empathy and compassion because I truly believe they are the foundation of all healthy relationships. Empathy is not only seeing the world through someone else’s lens but removing your own lens first so you can see more clearly.

I have a variation of this exercise I use with clients where we take a piece of paper and draw two circles and write or draw answers to questions. At the end we turn them in the sunglasses at compare what we might have in common and what we see differently. It’s a great way to understand each other’s world views, and how they might show up in our therapeutic relationship. (Other therapist feel free to steal!)

04/01/2026

I love educating on the power of empathy and compassion because I truly believe they are the foundation of all healthy relationships. Empathy is not only seeing the world through someone else’s lens but removing your own lens first so you can see more clearly.

I have a variation of this exercise I use with clients where we take a piece of paper and draw two circles and write or draw answers to questions. At the end we turn them in the sunglasses at compare what we might have in common and what we see differently. It’s a great way to understand each other’s world views, and how they might show up in our therapeutic relationship. (Other therapists feel free to steal!)

03/31/2026

Absolutely despise conversion therapy and it is absolutely unethical. Thank you ACA for speaking out

The American Counseling Association (ACA) is profoundly disappointed in today's ruling from the U.S. Supreme Court overturning Colorado's ban on conversion therapy. Despite the ruling, the evidence remains clear: conversion therapy is harmful, discredited, and unsupported by science, and its risks to client well-being are well documented. ACA, SAIGE and other leading mental health organizations remain committed to ethical, evidence-based, and affirming care, and will continue to oppose practices that violate these standards of care.

Learn more: https://bit.ly/4bUJdbE

03/31/2026

03/31/2026

When you let go of trying to control the other person, you make room for your own growth, their own choices, and the truth of the relationship. ❤🪴

03/28/2026

Betrayal doesn't just break trust in a specific act. It breaks the version of the relationship the injured person believed they were in. That's why rebuilding after it is slower and more disorienting than most people expect. You're not just repairing a moment. You're reconstructing a sense of safety that no longer has a foundation.

Real rebuilding looks like radical transparency even when it's uncomfortable, consistency between words and actions over a long stretch of time, and letting the person who was hurt set the pace without rushing them toward forgiveness. You don't get to decide when they're ready. You only get to decide whether your behavior earns the chance.

Trust isn't given back. It's built back, slowly, one followed-through moment at a time.

03/27/2026

As humans, we’re narrative beings. Our ancestors have told stories since the beginning of life. Telling stories is how we make sense of our life and what happens to us.

When we tell our story we shape neural pathways in the brain. The more we tell that story (to friends, family, or anyone who listens) the more those pathways become solidified. Meaning, the more true it becomes. What actually happened isn’t important. It’s the story we tell ourselves that becomes our reality.

People with high narcissistic traits have issues with emotional processing. This means when something highly triggering happens to them, they become emotionally rigid. They can’t see outside perspectives. They struggle to listen and hear another’s point of view. And if they’re challenged, they can become very aggressive or shut down. This black and white thinking makes their narrative skewed. They will become a victim, unable to acknowledge their role or unable to see a part they played.

Because people with high narcissistic traits have an addiction to external validation, they spread narratives to anyone who will listen. They cannot rely on their own knowing or internal experiences, they need people to mirror their version of reality back to them. This becomes delusion. Delusion is a fixed false belief. When someone has a fixed belief, they are the only person who can ever change that belief. Not you.

Your reality of the experience might be completely different. You may want to set the record straight, to argue your point, or to prove them wrong. But, safe yourself the cortisol spike. Unsubscribe. Silence is your most powerful response because it keeps your body regulated and it’s the best boundary you have.

Trust the truth. Protect your body and nervous system. Gift yourself the power of peace.

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