Perfect Harmony Relationship Solutions, LLC

02/17/2026

As a relationship therapist, I see this dynamic a lot — and many people don't have language for it.

In the 1990s, Dr. Jennifer Freyd created the acronym "DARVO," which stands for: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender

It often looks like this:
You bring up something that hurt you → They deny it → They criticize you → Then somehow… you end up apologizing.

Over time, this cyclical pattern can deeply impact self-trust and emotional safety in relationships.

Accountability sounds like ownership.
DARVO feels like confusion.

If you've experienced this, it doesn't mean you're weak or "too sensitive."
It means the dynamic deserves a closer look, and a skilled relationship therapist can help you do that!

Awareness creates options. And options create change.

02/15/2026

Trust is rebuilt from consistent effort over time! Inconsistent and insufficient effort to rebuild trust translates to the heart as "unsafe."

The text you send back. The way you listen without multitasking. The follow through on the “I’ll do it.” The gentle tone when you’re frustrated. The repair after you miss each other. These tiny moments teach a nervous system, “I can relax with you. You’re paying attention. I matter here.”

01/24/2026

A lot of people think “secure” means you never get triggered, never get defensive, never shut down, never say the wrong thing. And then they use every messy moment as proof they’re broken, or that the relationship is doomed.

But secure attachment is the willingness to turn back toward each other after the misstep. To get curious about what happened inside you. To name your impact without collapsing into shame. To hear your partner’s experience without arguing it away.

01/16/2026

Are you and your partner exhausted from having the same arguments over and over again?
Do you feel stuck in a painful cycle of misunderstanding, defensiveness, or emotional distance?
Do you long to feel close again… but have no idea where to start?

You are not broken. Your relationship is not beyond repair.
You are just caught in a pattern that needs real time, focused support to shift.

My Couples Intensive Program is designed for couples who are ready to stop spinning their wheels and start creating meaningful change. This is not surface-level therapy. This is deep, intentional work led by a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has spent her entire career focused on relationships.

Since 2007, every part of my training and professional work has been dedicated to helping couples heal, reconnect, and build secure, lasting bonds. Relationships are not just something I treat — they are my specialty.

This Intensive will help you:
✨ Understand your negative cycles
✨ Feel emotionally safe and truly heard
✨ Rebuild trust and connection
✨ Learn how to show up for each other in new ways

If you are tired of:
• Walking on eggshells
• Feeling misunderstood
• Arguing without resolution
• Wondering where the love went

…this program was created for you.

Your relationship is worth the investment.
Your connection matters.
And change is possible.

Learn more about the Couples Intensive Program here:
👉 https://perfectharmonysolutions.com/couples-intensives/

You do not have to stay stuck. Perfect Harmony Relationship Solutions, LLC is located in Oxford, MA and is ready to help you in person or online! 💜

01/16/2026

Boundaries aren't walls, they're data!! Pay attention to how people respond to your boundary.

12/12/2025

Co-regulation is the "solution" for relational pain, not a logical-based fix 💞

From an attachment lens, this is the essence of co-regulation:
one regulated (or regulating) nervous system lending stability to another.
Not rescuing.
Not minimizing.
Just being the calm shoreline while the waves move through.

11/24/2025

More gold ✨️ from Jimmy on Relationships! This is why toxic relationships and trauma bonds are so difficult to "just leave."

09/12/2025

09/03/2025

"All feelings are welcome. All behaviors are not." This quote was made in reference to parenting, but this resonates deeply with me in the context of relationships (with adults)!

Your feelings are totally valid, but the way you express them will either help bring your partner close to you via emotional safety and vulnerability, or push them away via anger or abrasiveness and lack of emotional safety.

Learn more about this and get a much-needed relationship jumpstart with our Couples Intensive Program!

Email to get started: ashley@perfectharmonysolutions.com

08/14/2025

💔 Relationship struggles can’t wait. If you and your partner need help now, our new Couples Intensive Program might be exactly what you need. This is NOT your average couples therapy experience.

Now booking September dates for Couples Intensives! Don't wait for healing. Take action today! Full details are available on our website: www.PerfectHarmonySolutions.com

📧 Email to find out if you're a good candidate for our Couples Intensive Program today: ashley@perfectharmonysolutions.com

Transform your relationship with our new Couples Intensive Program!

Get ready for a comprehensive experience designed for accelerated healing and growth in your relationship. Our Couples Intensive Program includes a personalized workbook, a deep-dive Pre-Intensive session, an transformative 4.5-hour Intensive, and a follow-up session to solidify your progress moving forward.

Stop wishing for more time and start experiencing real change, faster. Details are available on our website: www.PerfectHarmonySolutions.com

Contact us to schedule your Intensive today: ashley@perfectharmonysolutions.com

05/27/2025

🚨Urgent Relationship Issue? Need a Major Jumpstart?🚨

Introducing our new Couples Intensives – designed for couples ready for serious change, now.

In a concentrated 4.5-hour session, you and your partner will immerse yourselves with Ashley Starzec, LMFT to directly address challenges like infidelity, chronic conflict, or relationship disconnection. This powerful, focused time is engineered to provide immediate aid and fast-track your relationship's transformation.

Don't wait for healing. Take action today! Full details are available on our website: www.PerfectHarmonySolutions.com

📧 Email to schedule your Intensive today: ashley@perfectharmonysolutions.com

05/24/2025

Love heals 💙