CORE Relationship Recovery

01/28/2026

Rebuilding Trust: The Missing Key The Unfaithful MUST Know

One of the most overlooked drivers of infidelity isn’t desire, entitlement, or opportunity — it’s broken self-trust.

In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam dive deep into lack of self-trust in the unfaithful partner and why it quietly shapes secrecy, defensiveness, avoidance, over-sharing, resentment, and relational instability long before betrayal ever occurs.

This episode is not about excusing infidelity. It’s about explaining the internal dynamics that make betrayal more likely — and recovery harder — when the unfaithful partner cannot trust their own instincts, emotions, or values.

You’ll learn how early attachment injuries, emotional invalidation, and chronic shame fracture self-trust, how that breakdown affects trustworthiness with others, and why rebuilding self-trust is a non-negotiable foundation for real relational repair.

In this episode, we cover:

✅ Why “when you don’t trust yourself, no one around you feels safe”
✅ How broken self-trust leads to secrecy, defensiveness, control, and avoidance
✅ The difference between vulnerability and over-exposure
✅ Why unfaithful partners often fear vulnerability will be weaponized
✅ How mistrust activates the brain’s survival system (neuropsychology explained)
✅ Why chaos can feel like intimacy and stability can feel threatening
✅ How lack of self-trust retraumatizes the betrayed partner
✅ The cycle of over-trust, withdrawal, and reenacted betrayal
✅ Why recovery is about credibility, not perfection

This is a powerful episode for:

• Unfaithful partners committed to real recovery
• Betrayed partners seeking deeper understanding
• Couples working toward relational repair
• Therapists and coaches supporting betrayal trauma recovery

One of the most overlooked drivers of infidelity isn’t desire, entitlement, or opportunity — it’s broken self-trust.In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, Ja...

01/21/2026

Deconstructing Gaslighting: What Is It, Really? - With Special Guest, Sarah Morales!

Gaslighting after betrayal can make you question your memory, your emotions, and your reality — and that confusion is not weakness. It’s a trauma response.

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Rae sits down with gaslighting specialist and CORE Relationship Recovery team member Sarah Morales (SarahMoralesCoaching.com) to break down what gaslighting actually is, why it’s so damaging after infidelity, and how betrayed partners can reclaim clarity and self-trust.

Sarah shares her framework for identifying gaslighting behaviors without getting trapped in the endless question: “Did they mean to?” You’ll learn why gaslighting doesn’t always come from narcissism, how shame can drive gaslighting patterns, and the difference between gaslighting vs. a gaslighting attempt — a powerful shift that restores agency and reduces self-doubt.

We also discuss:

✅ The most common question betrayed partners ask: “Was that gaslighting?”
✅ Sarah’s core definition that helps you answer that question
✅ Why gaslighting produces deep self-doubt and loss of self-trust
✅ What is Self-gaslighting?
✅ The red flags of internalized manipulation
✅ Unfaithful partners: discerning between intention vs impact — and how gaslighting blocks repair
✅ Practical hope: how healing reduces gaslighting behaviors over time

If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I am too much” or “Maybe I’m crazy,” - you're not - and this episode is for you.

Please note: "Deconstructing Gaslighting" is a Trademark (TM) of Sarah Morales and may not be used without express permission

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Gaslighting after betrayal can make you question your memory, your emotions, and your reality — and that confusion is not weakness. It’s a trauma response.In...

01/14/2026

Is The Unfaithful's Self-Care Really Self-Indulgence?

Are you, the Unfaithful, truly practicing self-compassion… or actually slipping into self-indulgence?

In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam break down one of the most misunderstood parts of infidelity recovery: the razor-thin line between healthy self-care and avoidant, self-protective behaviors that harm relational repair.

We explore:

✔ The key differences between self-compassion and self-indulgence
✔ How shame loops derail accountability
✔ How “self-care language” is often used to avoid discomfort
✔ Why the betrayed instantly feels the difference
✔ The impact of emotional avoidance on safety, trust, and connection
✔ What REAL recovery looks like — even when the unfaithful is exhausted or afraid

If you’re wondering why your recovery feels stuck, why trust isn’t rebuilding, or why your efforts still feel unsafe to your partner… this episode explains exactly what’s happening and what needs to change.

➡ For unfaithful partners: Learn how to practice self-compassion without slipping into excuses, avoidance, or stagnation.

➡ For betrayed partners: Learn what self-indulgence looks like — and how to identify real growth when it shows up.

This is one of the most important distinctions in the entire recovery process.

Your healing — and your partner’s — depends on getting this right.

Are you truly practicing self-compassion… or actually slipping into self-indulgence?In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam break down one of th...

01/07/2026

STOP BLOCKING YOUR OWN BETRAYAL RECOVERY PROCESS...

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae unpack a surprisingly common barrier to healing after betrayal trauma — “Cat Poster Thinking" the mindset of believing “I already know how this works” or relying on clichés, platitudes, and intellectual over-control to cope. And while it may feel protective, it can quietly block real growth, connection, and emotional transformation.

This episode also helps the Unfaithful see how they self-limit their own growth in recovery.

Together they explore:

✨ Why betrayed partners crave control after trauma
✨ How trauma filters your perception and limits what you can “see”
✨ Why intellectual insight alone can’t heal a shattered heart
✨ What happens when you try to think your way out of pain
✨ How over-talking, over-explaining, and “knowing everything” disconnects you from help
✨ How to shift from head-level knowing → to heart-level healing
✨ Why receiving guidance from a trained professional is essential
✨ What real, embodied healing looks and feels like
✨ How betrayed partners can carry too much of the emotional load without being aware of it
✨ How to let go of the urge to lead, fix, or parent your unfaithful partner
✨ Simple questions & practices to move from superficial coping to deep, meaningful change

This is an episode filled with stories, real-life clinical examples, neurobiological insight, and grounded wisdom. If you’re stuck in trauma responses, struggling to trust your therapist, or feeling disconnected from your own healing, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, Sharon and Rae unpack a surprisingly common barrier to healing after betrayal trauma — “Cat Poster Thinking" the mindset of believing “I alr...

12/30/2025

The Hidden Turning Point For the Unfaithful In Betrayal Recovery

In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful - Shorts, James speaks directly to those who have betrayed their partner and are ready to become someone different. He unpacks what real new beginnings require. You’ll learn what a new beginning is not, what it is, and how to build a life your partner could eventually trust again.

This message is for:

• Those standing at day one after discovery
• Those who have relapsed and want to commit anew to their recovery
• Those in steady recovery wanting to take the next step: to recommit and level up their growth

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The difference between starting anew/starting over and starting to transform
• Why recovery stalls when the unfaithful coasts or “gets comfortable”
• The hidden turning point that separates performative effort from genuine change
• How to grow past maintenance mode into character transformation
• The Five Essentials for Rebuilding
• What rebuilding trust actually looks like to the betrayed partner
• Why recommitment is a normal — and necessary — as recovery evolves
• How to become the partner, and person, you are capable of being

https://youtu.be/TmHxs9qqaSo?si=DsVmJjf_O0wx8KEQ

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In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James speaks directly to those who have betrayed their partner and are ready to become someone different. He unpacks w...

12/23/2025

HOPE: CHOOSING TO BELIEVE THAT HEALING IS POSSIBLE AFTER BETRAYAL

https://youtu.be/g6X7wrrkJck

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed - Shorts, Sharon speaks directly to anyone feeling shattered, lost, or hopeless after infidelity. She explains why betrayed partners often cling to the hope that the old relationship can be restored—and why real hope comes from something deeper: rebuilding your sense of self, your worth, and your inner clarity.

Sharon shares personal insight, including the moment she realized she had to live for herself, align her life with her values, and rebuild a foundation strong enough to stand on—with or without the relationship. She teaches how to shift from living in reaction to living intentionally, how to reclaim the parts of yourself you abandoned, and how to find tiny sparks of hope even in devastation.

This is a message for every betrayed partner who wonders: Will I ever be okay again? The answer is yes. And it begins with turning inward, grounding in your truth, and taking one small courageous step at a time.

💛 In This Episode You’ll Learn:
• Why hope feels impossible after betrayal—and why it matters
• The difference between hoping for the old relationship vs. hoping for your healing
• How changed reality, secret lives, and grief shape the hopelessness you feel
• The moment Sharon realized healing required living for herself
• How to rebuild self-worth after betrayal
• Why focusing inward—not on the unfaithful partner—is essential
• How to shift from defense to offense in your own life
• Small daily choices that awaken hope again

Hope isn’t naïve — it’s choosing to believe healing is possible even when the path is unclear.

https://youtu.be/g6X7wrrkJck

12/17/2025

7 WAYS THE UNFAITHFUL MISHANDLE THE BETRAYED'S DISENFRANCHISED GRIEF

In this dynamic episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam unpack disenfranchised grief—the deep, invisible grief the betrayed partner experiences after infidelity. This is grief with no rituals, no casseroles, no support, and no social permission to hurt. Instead, betrayed partners often suffer in silence while navigating shame, fear, shattered identity, and the loss of safety, trust, and future dreams.

James and Sam break down why this grief is misunderstood, how it shows up in emotional waves, cognitive looping, hypervigilance, withdrawal, and overwhelming internal conflict, and detail seven ways unfaithful partners often make the grief worse.

Most importantly, they teach what the unfaithful can do to help heal this grief.

In this dynamic episode of Ask The Unfaithful, Sam and James unpack disenfranchised grief—the deep, invisible grief the betrayed partner experiences after in...

12/10/2025

CAN GRATITUDE AND THE PAIN OF BETRAYAL COEXIST?

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore what gratitude really looks like in the wake of infidelity — without toxic positivity, forced silver linings, or emotional self-betrayal:

• Not having to pretend you’re okay
• Not minimizing the trauma

Learn why gratitude gets complicated during the holidays where it seems to be expected, how survivors toggle between grief and glimpses of joy, and why holding two truths at the same time is such a powerful recovery skill.

You’ll hear stories of those first post-betrayal holidays… the bathroom escape plan… the moment when clarity becomes a gift, even if painful… and how betrayed partners can reclaim meaningful moments instead of pretending they’re “fine.”

💛 In this episode, we talk about…

• Why forced gratitude is retraumatizing, not healing
• How the brain uses small moments of goodness like traction
• The power of presence, honesty, and strategic choices during holidays (and, really, any other time)
• How to reset at any moment
• Why clarity — even painful clarity — is something to honor
• How to find “meaningful moments of comfort and joy”
• Ways the unfaithful can show appreciation that truly matters

Healing isn’t about plastering a smile over heartbreak — it’s about making room for hope while telling the truth about the hurt.

In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore what gratitude really looks like in the wake of infidelity — without toxic positivity, forced sil...

12/03/2025

LIMERENCE: CAN THE DAMAGE EVER BE REPAIRED?

Limerence is one of the most misunderstood - and devastating - experiences in infidelity recovery. In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam break down what limerence actually is, how it distorts reality, why the unfaithful become trapped in its neurochemical illusion and, most importantly: whether the damage limerence causes can truly be repaired.

Limerence is one of the most misunderstood - and devastating - experiences in infidelity recovery. In this episode, James and Sam break down what limerence a...

11/26/2025

SECRET WEAPONS AGAINST BEING MISUNDERSTOOD

In this vulnerable and transformative episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae dive into one of the most universal pain points for betrayed partners: being misunderstood. Whether it's feeling dismissed, judged, minimized, or simply unseen, betrayal trauma magnifies how deeply we need to be understood — and how hard it can be to communicate our truth.

Drawing from decades of clinical experience and lived wisdom, Sharon and Rae unpack why so many betrayed partners struggle to express themselves, why partners often misread our emotional signals, and how childhood conditioning, nervous system responses, and relational trauma shape the ways we share (or silence) our truths.

This episode gives you practical tools, compassionate insight, and scripts you can use today to help you be understood — without shrinking, apologizing, or losing yourself.

In this vulnerable and transformative episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae dive into one of the most universal pain points for betrayed partners: bein...

11/19/2025

What are No Lose Decisions In Infidelity Recovery?

In this episode of Ask The Unfaithful, James and Sam unpack No-Lose Decisions — the courageous choices that move recovery forward no matter the outcome. Learn how honesty, integrity, and emotional bravery retrain the brain, rebuild trust, and transform your healing after infidelity.

In this provocative and practical episode of Ask The Unfaithful, Sam and James break down one of the most transformative concepts in affair recovery: No-Lose...

11/13/2025

MYTH BUSTING - Exposing Blocks to Betrayal Recovery

In this practical episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae tackle some of the most common and destructive myths that keep betrayed partners trapped in confusion, guilt, and fear after infidelity.

From “This pain will last forever” to “If I can keep them from acting out, I’ll be safe” they dismantle the cultural and emotional myths that block healing—and replace them with compassionate, reality-based truths.

In This Episode You’ll Learn that:

✅ Healing from betrayal requires truth, not perfection.

✅ Repair happens through consistency, not control.

✅ You can love your family and protect your peace.

✅ Hope isn’t naïve—it's a survival skill.

✅ How to parent through betrayal trauma recovery

✅ When to seek help

✅ How to recognize the lies that keep you stuck in fear and self-blame.

Whether you’re early in your healing or well into your rebuilding journey, this conversation offers hope, insight, and practical strategies for moving forward with clarity and strength.

In this powerful and practical episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae tackle some of the most common and destructive myths that keep betrayed partners t...