All Too Well Therapy

12/31/2025

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12/31/2025

12/31/2025

Men swear they’re great husbands and fathers
when all they bring to the table
is a paycheck and emotional abuse.

Like money is the only form of love.
Like providing cancels out disrespect.
Like paying bills gives you permission
to yell, manipulate, ignore, and embarrass your family.

A paycheck is necessary, yes.
But it’s not parenting.
It’s not partnership.
It’s not emotional safety.

Your kids won’t remember the brand of shoes you bought.
They’ll remember the fear in the house.
The tension.
The way their mother looked exhausted.

Being a husband is not just paying.
It’s protecting.
It’s listening.
It’s repairing.
It’s creating peace.

If the house is funded but traumatized,
you are not a great man.
You’re just employed.
And your family is paying the price.

12/31/2025

One thing about being a good woman is:
you gotta learn when NOT to be one.

Because being good without boundaries
turns into being used.

You can’t keep giving grace
to people who keep giving you pain.
You can’t keep being understanding
for someone who understands you perfectly
and still chooses to disrespect you.

Sometimes being “good” means walking away.
Saying no.
Matching energy.
Protecting your peace.

A good woman is loving, yes.
But she is not foolish.
She is not a doormat.
She is not a rehabilitation center for broken men.

So stay kind.
Stay soft.
Stay genuine.

But learn the difference between
a person who deserves you
and a person who only benefits from you.

12/31/2025

Wait til you find out there’s no reward for being a “good woman.”

No trophy.
No guarantee.
No protection from being played.

Because being good doesn’t stop people from misusing you.
It doesn’t stop men from lying.
It doesn’t stop friends from switching.
It doesn’t stop life from testing you.

Sometimes your kindness becomes their entitlement.
Sometimes your loyalty becomes permission.

And that’s the hard truth.

So don’t be good to be chosen.
Be good because you respect yourself.

But be wise too.
Have boundaries.
Have standards.
Know when to walk away.

Because being a good woman isn’t about suffering in silence.
It’s about loving with integrity
while protecting your peace.

Your reward is not people.
Your reward is the life you build
when you stop giving your goodness to those who don’t deserve it.

12/31/2025

Unfortunately I will never be the controlling woman.

My man should know how to control himself
or he’s not my man.

Because I don’t babysit adults.
I don’t monitor phones.
I don’t police behavior.
I don’t beg for respect.

Self control is character.
Loyalty is a choice.
Discipline is internal.

If I have to watch you,
you’re already not trustworthy.
If I have to remind you how to act,
you’re not ready.

A real man doesn’t need rules to behave.
He moves with integrity when no one is watching.

I want partnership, not supervision.
Peace, not paranoia.

So no, I won’t be controlling.
I’ll be selective.
And if you can’t control yourself,
you don’t get access to me.

12/29/2025

Dr. Will Cole

12/29/2025