Bully Prevention Partners

05/11/2021

I just published a book - The Fight Against Bullying https://books2read.com/u/bOREDg

Coming soon will be the follow up to this - Parenting the Bully & the Bullied

06/16/2018

It is so important for parents to know as soon as possible when their child is being bullied. Here is a list of the warning signs. http://bit.ly/Warningsignsofbullying

06/05/2018

Deaths by Su***de and Fi****ms Are Rising Sharply Among Kids


It is time we start thinking about the hopelessness and lack of resilience in many young people. This report reinforces that this issue has not gone away.


After years of progress, deaths by su***de, homicide and other means of injury are way up among kids, according to new data from the CDC’s National Center for Health Statistics. The overall death rate for children between ...


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After years of declines

05/15/2018

This is a heads up for all parents: On Friday, June 18 the Netflix series "13 Reasons Why" will begin season 2. Even if your child does not watch it on Netflix it is likely that there will be conversations about it in school among students who have the freedom to watch Netflix shows.

Beginning last year in season 1 when it was released there was an increased number of students with many questions about the subject of su***de and many times their own feelings. BE PREPARED!

Here is some of the best information I am aware of for parents to be ready to talk to their kids.

The fact that popular culture has increasingly been raising the topic of su***de tells us that the subject is on people’s minds. At AFSP, we have decided to take part in the discussion – to help lead it – and to use it as a powerful moment within the national conversation to share what we …

06/03/2016

Gifts of Character: Kindness
Aggressor: Kindness is needed by the attacker to resist the temptation to be cruel. Some have learned to criticize, tease and pick on others because the same has happened to them. To call on the kindness that is within them, those who have been aggressive towards others can look at what need they are missing, then decide to fill that need in a positive way.

Target: The target of aggression can use kindness toward themselves by not waiting to reach out for the help they need from others. As they reflect on the meanness shown to them, they will refuse to retaliate with similar conduct. Instead, the target of aggression will use assertiveness and resources available to support them and stand up for their rights in school, workplace and family.

Bystander: The bystander in any situation of aggression will use kindness to help the attacked individuals and the aggressor. The bystander will be thoughtful by inviting others to join standing against bad behavior, while not returning a mean response to those still working on kindness. They will resist the urge to join the attack out of fear of being picked on themselves. When in doubt of what to do, bystanders will ask those adults they respect for how they can display kindness.

05/29/2016

Gifts of Character: Resilience
Aggressor: Resilience is about recovering from adversity, so when an aggressor finds themselves lashing out against others they want to ask themselves how they are suffering. Are they also attacked by a bully? Is there someone who is abusing them verbally or physically? If the aggressor is enduring attacks, they can use resilience and courage to overcome and grow.

Target: The target of aggression can use resilience to overcome their disappointments with those attacking them. They will use their community of supporters to find comfort and strength. Resilience is made up of optimism which is key to believing that the days to come will get better. The targets of aggression can allow the hardships to beat them down or to cultivate stronger character.

Bystander: The bystander in any situation of aggression will use resilience to stand strong with their companions. They will be determined to change the culture of their community to one of peace and tolerance. Even if they are made fun of for standing up to the aggressor and standing for the cooperation of all in the community, bystanders have faith that they will prevail. Bystanders will use resilience not to give up in their determination to support their friends.

05/06/2016

Gifts of Character: Determination
Aggressor: Determination is about focusing on a task and completing something even when it is not easy. Determination is a perfect example of how any virtue that comes naturally to us has both negative or positive ways of being demonstrated. An aggressor may express their power or influence in a negative way and be determined to do so. They could use this same determination and willpower to transform themselves and learn to treat others respectfully.

Target: The target of aggression can use determination to stand up to the attacks of others. Others can support their decision, but the goal is working on being assertive and to setting boundaries. They will keep going when times are tough and ask for help when they need it, without being embarrassed to do so.

Bystander: The bystander in any situation of aggression is determined to help the target of attacks by speaking up for them. They are determined to bring about peace for the individual and the community. Their goal is to bring relief to the oppressed one and to help them gain the strength they need to believe in themselves. They may also be determined to change the culture of their community to one of peace and tolerance.