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11/03/2025

**Step 1:**
If you have an anxious attachment style, you have to know what your attachment needs and if they are being met in this relationship. they are different from your compatibility needs.

Comment “free” and I’ll send you my free guide to help you understand what your attachment needs are

**Step 2:**
Once you know what you need, communicate it — clearly, calmly, and consistently.
Don’t hint. Don’t test. Just say, “Here’s what helps me feel secure.”

You and I both know that you struggle to do this.
You fear pushing your partner away. I believe you are not ready to date seriously if you cannot tell someone what you need from them without clarity and fear.

**Step 3:**
If your partner can’t meet you there — even after therapy, effort, and conversations —
you have to learn how to love and let go.

And stay single long enough to understand why you keep choosing people who can’t show up, who dont have the emotional maturity and awareness to just talk about whats happening, when it’s all you want.

If you want to be free of the confusion-
who’s right for me, who’s not right for me-
comment or dm me the word “free” and I’ll send you my free guide to help you understand your attachment needs once and for all

10/29/2025

Dm or comment the word “heal” for my free ebook on how to heal attachment wounds without spending thousands of dollars.

If you are in a long term with someone who has an style, it can be hard to not feel rejected or frustrated. If you have an style, it can be nearly impossible to not get triggered and start accusing, being critical, or demand reassurance. But if a couple can keep from falling into this pattern and learn to talk about it, healing can happen

Dm or comment “heal” and I’ll get that ebook right over

10/27/2025

DM or comment the word “attachment” for a quick video guide on the three tools that I used and us everyday as a therapist to overcome

If you have an style, you are less likely to know what you need or ask for what you need in a . This leads to relationships that feel flat, leading to fantasies of other partners who magically fulfill your needs without you having to ask.

Dm or comment “attachment” and I’ll send that guide right over

10/24/2025

Comment it DM the works “guide” to hear more about how you can your partner can achieve this too

What used to be two to three days has become just an afternoon now that the relationship is a place of safety

To be fair, this was not easy. Me with the style and my wife worked for at least a year to better understand this rhythm and to get me to finally feel safe enough to say what I needed.

I still default to, I’m good, and need to check myself on occasion but now we are in a beautiful rhythm that meets both of our needs.

Comment it DM the works “guide” to hear more about how you can your partner can achieve this too

10/22/2025

Remind yourself that their behavior is not about you and your worth or even how they actually feel about you

when he doesn’t communicate or wants to be alone or shuts down, it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong or even that he doesn’t want to be with you. Try not let the negative self talk drive you nuts

If he’s backing away, It just means he is in survival mode and the only way he knows how to survive is to be alone

talk about this pattern and work together to make the relationship a place so safe that he no longer needs to run away to center himself.

Thats what worked for my partner and me. and I can honestly say, it almost never happens anymore

But if you believe he’s abandoning you every time he needs space, he wont feel seen or understood

If you’ve noticed this is a struggle for you, you get disregulated, the critical thoughts start rushing in, I’ve written a short ebook to help you build emotional security within yourself so that you can then get the most healing out of your relationship. just comment or dm me the word “heal” and I’ll send it over to you

10/21/2025

Comment or DM me the word “guide” and I’ll send you a short video that explains how you can heal your attachment wounds without spending thousands of dollars in and finally have the secure relationship you’ve always wanted.

Every person with that I meet, whether that’s fearful or dismissive, tells me the same thing. They feel deeply misunderstood. That being said, it is not an excuse for hurting people.

If this is you, if you related to this, and you want an efficient and cost effective way to finally feel secure within yourself and your partnership, just comment or dm me the works “guide” and I’ll send you a quick video that explains it all.

10/20/2025

Comment or DM me the word “attachment” for a video on the three tools I used to heal my avoidant attachment style. These tools helped me and I know they will help you too.

I work with people everyday who have style and are navigating relationships in a healthy way. Even with partners who have an style.

take work, it’s true. But when you have the right tools, that work becomes healing.

I am now in a beautiful relationship and many of my clients are too.

08/28/2025

Protect your peace. Stay grounded. Feel secure

08/26/2025

If you want to discover the missing link between comparability and true connection, if you want to create healthier, safer connections, comment or DM me the word “Guide” for a free copy of my guide on why your relationships feel almost right (but never safe)

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Pasadena, CA
91101

Telephone

+18056268906

Website

https://www.therapywithnaj.com/contact/

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