Naj Alikhan, LMFT

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01/24/2026

Comment or DM me the word “call” if you’re ready to have a 1:1 conversation that will show you exactly what you need to have the relationship you long for

01/23/2026

Comment ATTACHMENT and I’ll send you a quick video on how I overcame avoidant attachment.

Understanding attachment doesn’t change attachment.

You can watch every reel, have every conversation, and really be making an effort and still shut down the moment closeness shows up—because insight doesn’t rewire a nervous system.

Most people try to fix insecure attachment by talking it through.

But when the body doesn’t feel safe, conversation just adds pressure—and pressure makes the system retreat, not open.

Real change happens when someone learns how to stay present as emotions rise and regulate their nervous system. When closeness no longer feels dangerous, behavior changes naturally—without forcing it.

Comment ATTACHMENT and I’ll send you a quick video on how I overcame avoidant attachment.

01/22/2026

If you want help understanding whether someone is right for you comment or DM the word “GUIDE” for me free compatibility guide.

3 rules for ever anxious-avoidant relationship to create more accountability. Accountability is the one of the biggest i...
01/21/2026

3 rules for ever anxious-avoidant relationship to create more accountability. Accountability is the one of the biggest issues facing this dynamic. Not because people don’t care. Definitely not because people are narcissistic. Because we feel@the need to protect ourselves when there is a lack of safety.
Try these three rules and follow for more

01/21/2026

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Here’s why you want to break up every time there’s a conflict.”

You don’t actually want the relationship to end.

But you don’t see how this will stop.

And you’re overwhelmed

• You don’t feel heard — but you also don’t know how to explain what you’re feeling

• Every conversation turns into a list of what you’re doing wrong

• You feel misunderstood, cornered, or like you’re failing at being a partner

• So your body looks for the fastest exit: distance



That urge to break up isn’t clarity.

It’s just managing overwhelm.


And running works…

until it becomes your only move.


Here’s the part no one tells you:

You can learn how to stay.

You can learn how to name what’s happening

before your nervous system hits the eject button.

01/20/2026

Comment or DM me the word “attachment” for a short video that explains how I healed my avoidant attachment style and how you can too

The truth is, avoidance isn’t a lack of love
Or even a lack of desire to be a good partner
All too often it’s simply a lack of knowing how to stay present
When the feelings and the intimacy come rushing in

My approach addresses the three major challenges with by helping the stay present and build safety, first within themselves, then with a partner

Comment or DM me the word “attachment” to learn more

01/19/2026

If you’re ready to stop outsourcing safety to relationships,
comment ATTACHMENT and I’ll send you a short video that explains how I healed and how I can help you do the same

At some point, survival strategies stop protecting you
and start costing you connection.

Attachment healing isn’t about finding the right person—
it’s about becoming a safe place for yourself.

comment ATTACHMENT to get started

01/19/2026

If an was honest with themselves, this is what they’d say:

When you showed up emotionally, I met you there—but I wasn’t fully present.

I was doing what I knew you needed, not what I genuinely felt.
It looked like attunement, but it was performance.
I wasn’t acting from desire or love—I was acting from obligation. Trying to do love instead of feel it. Because that’s what I know”

“I’m not disconnected because I don’t care.
I’m disconnected because connection is hard for me.
I don’t always know how to meet your emotional needs
because I’m disconnected from my own.”

“So I turned you into a task.
A checklist.
A role to perform well enough to avoid conflict or disappointment.
That stripped the relationship of depth and authenticity.”

“You felt confused because you could see me trying
but you couldn’t _feel_ me with you.
I felt frustrated because I was putting in effort
and not getting the emotional feedback that keeps me engaged.”

“And instead of recognizing that as a signal to slow down and reconnect,
I read it as failure—
and disengagement felt safer than staying exposed.”

01/16/2026

is gift to yourself and those around you. Here’s how to do it in three steps:
1️⃣ calm the body before you calm the mind.
Journal, move, vent, dance, breeeeaaathe etc. anything that engages the fight or flight response and
2️⃣ simple cognitive tools like using a thought record (see my YouTube channel for an example and DM if@you want a copy) will teach you how to challenge and stop those circling thoughts
3️⃣ then be with and name what you are feeling.

You know have choice back. You know have your life back

01/12/2026

an style has several parts. One of the biggest ones a partner can help with is attunement: noticing what your partner is going through, sometimes even before they do. When done right and with both partners taking part, it speeds up healing through providing us an experience that most of us with insecure attachments lacked: someone who is focused on deeply understanding our experience instead of assuming it.

01/06/2026

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