Eunice Lee Therapy, LMFT

08/01/2019

A long read, but a good one.

"The truth is that the midlife unraveling is a series of painful nudges strung together by low-grade anxiety and depression, quiet desperation, and an insidious loss of control. By low-grade, quiet, and insidious, I mean it’s enough to make you crazy, but seldom enough for people on the outside to validate the struggle or offer you help and respite. It’s the dangerous kind of suffering – the kind that allows you to pretend that everything is OK."

https://brenebrown.com/articles/2018/05/24/the-midlife-unraveling/?fbclid=IwAR2gnasiGtUrF28DbULN7l0ZUaYzvarsl7bgvvz-SBJKh8eNTg_ONrJPPxc

In my late thirties, my intuition had tried to warn me about the possibility of a midlife struggle. I experienced internal rumblings about the meaning and purpose of my life. I was incredibly busy proving myself in all of my different roles (mother, professor, researcher, writer, friend, sister, dau...

07/24/2019

To the parent who hopes for better things for their own kids.

"The biggest message Siqueland tries to impart to parents she works with is not to try to prevent anxiety, but instead promote their child's competence in handling it."

https://www.kqed.org/mindshift/42171/what-parents-can-do-to-avoid-passing-anxiety-on-to-their-kids?fbclid=IwAR1pVhqlmAl2ltVQwf-a1gvphtXzFdSJ7NhYU6YypEXVxQaaT83f9q5K5fY

Parents with anxiety disorders can unintentionally teach their children anxious responses to life. But parents can learn how to teach children coping strategies instead, a study finds.

07/10/2019

Small rituals to lean into intimacy.

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/emotional-connection-what-couples-who-stay-together-do-every-day-0425185?fbclid=IwAR0yJaD69oAwY-6aEO7o-9ifG2cdUppmXkHSHzFIbE0-Pt5h7Sq24x8iODg

In his research, Dr. John Gottman found that couples who emotionally connect by "turning toward" each other stay together longer. Here's what that means.

07/04/2019

If the idea of setting boundaries is scary to you, this may be for you. Setting boundaries means honoring ourselves. And you are worth it!

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/2019/01/how-to-set-boundaries-with-kindness/?fbclid=IwAR1tNhTIWIxGFrnjbvByLq7NORkN95BLVPayeAfajy_3cxwQvfgkJPfXB_o

Our boundaries should reflect compassion for ourselves and others.   What are boundaries? Boundaries create physical and emotional space between you and others. They show people how you want to be treated – what’s okay with you and what’s...

06/26/2019

To the parent who's struggling today: you are not alone!

https://www.mother.ly/news/its-harder-raising-kids-than-ever-before?rebelltitem=3

Many working parents are also hopeful that their employers will recognize the importance of practices that support healthy balance between work and life—with 78% of respondents to Motherly's 2018 State of Motherhood survey saying they believe it's possible to combine careers and motherhood. Of tho...

06/19/2019

This is why I love doing therapy! I've learned that it's not the severity of the trauma, but the absence of an empathetic person that causes us to feel so alone and traumatized. There is hope to heal, and I have seen it over and over with EMDR. It brings so much joy to see the light on people's faces after they feel the freedom to hope again.

https://www.facebook.com/NVRnorthampton/photos/a.723635221179193/1079687932240585/?type=3&theater&ifg=1

“Each interaction is an opportunity - to regulate, reward, teach and nurture.” Bruce D Perry

NVR can help - http://bit.ly/2TlRH2a

02/14/2019

According to research, men live longer with supportive partners, and women live longer when they have supportive female friendships!

https://www.ign.com/articles/2019/02/14/parks-recreations-cast-still-celebrates-galentines-day-together

A small portion of the Parks and Recreation cast got together this year to celebrate Galentine’s Day.

02/04/2019

Self-care can look like a lot of different things. A massage, a day off from work or school, going for a run, or even setting a boundary and speaking up! Find your self-care to help you be the best you. Also, enjoy this puppy!

Via BIRCHBOX

02/04/2019

Sometimes the symptoms of depression are more subtle than what we imagine. Sometimes depression looks more like anger and frustration. There is hope. Seeking therapy can help you figure out the root causes and the primary emotions that lie beneath.

If you are looking for a therapist, look at a reputable website like psychology today, or reach out, and I can do my best to find you a therapist that will fit your needs.

Physicians have been taught to look for signs of hopelessness, sadness and lack of motivation to help them diagnose depression. But anger as a depression symptom is less often noticed or addressed.

01/30/2019

Yes! So much of my work is with bicultural couples. Often, they come in fearing conflict and not feeling heard or validated. But conflict is an opportunity to choose connection. Let’s stay connected.

We all search for love, support, and care in our relationships. Whether you want to enrich a healthy relationship, refresh the one that started feeling like a roommate marriage, or to rescue a dying one, there is one thing to keep in mind: it is emotional distance -- not a conflict -- that destroys....

01/29/2019

I have heard many stories of PhD students struggling with mental health issues. Unfortunately, this is a huge issue in the community. While we pursue our passions, let's remember to take care of ourselves. Self-care brings the ultimate balance and gratitude.

Via Asian American Psychological Association

Strategies for graduate students experiencing anxiety and depression.

01/25/2019

Who else has been watching Marie Kondo on Netflix? I loved the book, and tidying up has been a great way for us to stay organized and connected in my house. It makes me think of what it looks like to be emotionally organized and connected, too. Here's some insight on how we can tidy from the outside in.

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/marie-kondos-tidying-up-improves-mental-health

Marie Kondo Has Us Looking For All The Ways Clutter Brings Us Down

01/11/2019

https://www.menshealth.com/entertainment/a20914834/the-rock-interview-depression/?utm_campaign=socialflowFBMH&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social-media&fbclid=IwAR25JxuNPa7CBDYcH7YxC8H3WXuvKyUWqzkJ869K5FjU20QnAcK3zn-BHtg

Dwayne Johnson is changing the way men talk about depression.

01/05/2019

One of my passions is helping patients understand the impact of intergenerational trauma.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-me-in-we/201205/how-trauma-is-carried-across-generations?fbclid=IwAR2g-J5Gjtp5HbDc65YCk5QVFNPxKc26en5bENLTElyYTpo84eYogZAZ4UY

Holding the secret history of our ancestors.

01/03/2019

Happy New Year! One of the common resolutions I hear often is a need to create boundaries with friends and loved ones. If this sounds like you, here's a good place to start. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-flux/201511/7-tips-create-healthy-boundaries-others

01/02/2019

Let's start the new year right, parents. Fostering empathy in your kids is worth its weight in gold.

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/10/well/live/how-to-foster-empathy-in-children.html?fbclid=IwAR1uGewkK4xbw5YyUPPTknAAsnpmLgJmH1hm-rs-hFhvUuOk9smq01FIm34

Research shows that we are each born with a given number of neurons that participate in an empathetic response. But early life experience shapes how we act on it.

12/28/2018

Real life is more than getting the grade. Often, we push our kids or ourselves to achieve. But there are hidden lessons in academic imperfection.

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/08/opinion/college-gpa-career-success.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&fbclid=IwAR1Vdp732ruqVgYoBxMc9U4NUBVlJKR7s_dJZEUAdeNQl8YC75pZCNvKY4s

If you always succeed in school, you’re not setting yourself up for success in life.

12/26/2018

What exactly is therapy? It's more than advice, it's empowerment, expertise and empathy. If you're looking to make a change in 2019, therapy provides lasting impact.

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/the-best-advice-a-therapist-could-get-stop-giving-advice-0205154?fbclid=IwAR2Bzb1c6YV3XWIGHrtOAHb0_ffo5sd0--aBlyhY6WJC3aN4b3WMVlNlG8I

If you're going to therapy for advice, you're probably in the wrong place. If you're giving advice as a therapist, you're probably in the wrong profession.