10/30/2025
💔 Redefining Love 💔
For a long time, I kept choosing relationships that felt familiar... not because they were healthy, but because they reminded me of what I thought love was.
Growing up, love meant chaos. It meant walking on eggshells... trying to fix things that were never mine to fix... confusing intensity for connection. So naturally, that’s what I kept finding. The same patterns... different faces.
Each time, I told myself it would be different. Each time, I tried harder, gave more, lost more of myself... until I finally realized something... I wasn’t searching for love, I was searching for home. And I was looking for it in the places that mirrored my pain.
It took a long time to see that the love I was chasing wasn’t real love... it was repetition. It was the little boy in me still trying to earn what he never received.
That realization changed everything. I stopped asking others to fill the void, and started healing the parts of me that kept calling pain love. I met my younger self. I listened to him. And slowly, he stopped needing to be rescued.
And then, when I was finally ready... I met Suey. ❤️
For the first time, love didn’t feel like a storm. It felt like peace. It wasn’t about proving anything... it was about being seen, understood, and safe.
Now, my mission is to show my girls what that kind of love looks like... the kind that doesn’t destroy you, but rebuilds you... the kind that heals generations.
Because this is why we’re here... to stop confusing pain with love... and to build a new world where love means peace. 🌎💜
ZF 🔥
Fisher