Lauren Auer LCPC

Lauren Auer LCPC Therapy should be one of the best parts of your week. Illinois based therapist

Understanding rumination as a physiological blocker rather than just a mental habit shifted everything for me. We talk a...
12/19/2025

Understanding rumination as a physiological blocker rather than just a mental habit shifted everything for me. We talk a lot about stress management, but we don’t talk enough about stress completion.

Your nervous system wants to return to baseline after stress. It’s designed to adapt, to learn, to get more efficient at handling repeated challenges. But rumination essentially jams that process. It’s like trying to heal a wound you keep reopening.

This is why some people can go through incredibly stressful situations and bounce back quickly, while others get stuck on smaller stressors for days. It’s often not about the size of the stress. It’s about what happens in the hours after.

The research shows this isn’t about willpower or positive thinking. It’s about understanding how your nervous system works and working with it instead of against it. Your body already knows how to recover from stress. Sometimes we just need to stop interfering with that process.

Research: Gianferante, D., Thoma, M.V., Hanlin, L., Chen, X., Breines, J.G., Zo***la, P.M., & Rohleder, N. (2014). Post-stress rumination predicts HPA axis responses to repeated acute stress. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 49, 244-252.

12/18/2025

The way couples therapy in January is just refereeing who had the more triggering family Christmas .

Cheers 🥂

12/16/2025

The stigma around psychedelics exists because people like me stay quiet. And I realize that silence makes me complicit. 🍄

So I’m done being quiet about the fact that I’ve been microdosing with

What it’s actually done for me: My baseline mood is more stable during winter. Not artificially happy, just steadier. The seasonal dip that used to flatten me for months feels manageable now. I have more motivation for basic things. Getting out of bed, making food, showing up for my life instead of just surviving it.

My nervous system has more capacity before it hits overwhelm. The fog lifts enough that I can think clearly and make decisions. And I don’t feel dependent on it. I take breaks, adjust as needed. It’s a tool, not a crutch.

The research backs this up. Improvements in mood regulation, neuroplasticity, emotional flexibility. Studies from Johns Hopkins, Imperial College London. This isn’t fringe science anymore.

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This is my personal experience, not medical advice. Do your own research. Make informed decisions for your own healing.

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12/12/2025

Rapport level 10 unlocked.

Fifty emails before lunch becomes three and you’re exhausted. The side hustle that felt manageable now feels impossible....
12/11/2025

Fifty emails before lunch becomes three and you’re exhausted. The side hustle that felt manageable now feels impossible. And the first thought is always: am I broken? Am I regressing?

No. You’re finally working properly.

Here’s what’s happening: when your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, you don’t feel tired the same way. Your body’s threat detection system overrides your rest signals. You keep going because your system genuinely believes stopping isn’t safe.

Research on the polyvagal theory shows that as we heal from trauma, our nervous system shifts.
The hypervigilance that kept you moving starts to settle. And suddenly you can feel things you’d been overriding for years (fatigue, boundaries, actual human needs.)

When you’ve spent years performing your way through pain, slowing down feels wrong. But that dip in productivity isn’t laziness. It’s your nervous system learning it doesn’t have to sprint anymore.

The exhaustion was always there. You’re just finally able to do something about it.

12/10/2025

The next time you catch yourself reaching for the old pattern, don’t spiral into shame about it.

Notice it. THATS 👏🏼THE 👏🏼WORK👏🏼!

Most people think awareness without immediate behavior change means they’re failing. But noticing is literally how you build new neural pathways. Your brain has to catch the pattern before it can choose differently.

That split second between impulse and action where you go “oh, I’m doing the thing again”? Even if you proceed with the old behavior anyway, that’s new neural traffic. You’re training your brain to see the pattern in real time.

The shame spiral is what keeps you stuck. Not the backslide itself.

Your job right now isn’t perfection. It’s awareness.

I’ve watched this pattern repeat itself hundreds of times. People apologizing for not doing enough self-care while simul...
12/02/2025

I’ve watched this pattern repeat itself hundreds of times. People apologizing for not doing enough self-care while simultaneously drowning. As if adding more tasks to an impossible schedule is somehow the answer.

What strikes me most is how lonely we’ve made the whole thing. Self-care has become this individual responsibility, like if you’re burnt out it’s because you’re not trying hard enough to take care of yourself. But humans aren’t designed to function in isolation. We’re not supposed to carry everything alone and then squeeze in a face mask to recover.

Sometimes the most radical form of self-care is admitting you can’t do it all by yourself. Asking someone to watch your kids so you can sleep. Letting a friend bring you groceries when you’re too exhausted to go to the store. Accepting that needing other people isn’t a personal failure.

82% of employees are at risk of burnout, and the solution isn’t more individual wellness apps. It’s fundamentally rethinking how we structure work and community support.

Your needs matter because you’re a human being. Not because meeting them will make you more productive or better at serving others. Just because you deserve to have needs.

11/26/2025

These people aren’t looking for understanding or resolution. They’re looking for fuel. Your reaction, your defensiveness, your hurt, your anger… that’s what they came for. When you just refuse to play it breaks the entire script they had in their head.

It has nothing to do with you. Not your worth, not your value, not whether you deserve to be heard. It has everything to do with them and what they’re getting from the chaos.

Let them yell into the void.
Your nervous system will thank you for it.

11/25/2025

Daylight savings. Political trash. The cost of eggs. 100 New Black Friday Sale emails a day. Holiday gatherings. Seasonal depression. Countdown to deductibles restarting… everyone’s nervous systems are just out here playing the ultimate game of chicken.

11/21/2025

You are allowed to heal even if they never apologize, even if they never admit what happened, even if they die before acknowledging the harm they caused.

I know that’s not the closure you wanted. It’s not fair. And it’s okay to grieve what you’ll never get.

But waiting for their apology and changed behavior or acknowledgment, keeps you tethered to people who already took enough from you. Your healing can’t be held hostage by someone who may never be capable of giving you what you deserve.

The truth is your nervous system doesn’t need their confession to know what happened. Your body already knows and it’s ready to heal without permission from anyone who hurt you.

This doesn’t mean what they did was okay. It doesn’t mean you have to forgive them. It means you get to stop waiting and start living.

11/20/2025

You are allowed to heal even if they never apologize, even if they never admit what happened, even if they die before acknowledging the harm they caused.

I know that’s not the closure you wanted. It’s not fair. And it’s okay to grieve what you’ll never get.

But waiting for their apology and changed behavior or acknowledgment, keeps you tethered to people who already took enough from you. Your healing can’t be held hostage by someone who may never be capable of giving you what you deserve.

The truth is your nervous system doesn’t need their confession to know what happened. Your body already knows and it’s ready to heal without permission from anyone who hurt you.

This doesn’t mean what they did was okay. It doesn’t mean you have to forgive them. It means you get to stop waiting and start living.

Your brain constantly scans for danger, mostly without you knowing. You’ve driven somewhere while your mind was elsewher...
11/18/2025

Your brain constantly scans for danger, mostly without you knowing. You’ve driven somewhere while your mind was elsewhere and arrived safely because your nervous system monitored everything. When a car suddenly swerves into your lane, everything sharpens instantly before you’ve consciously processed what’s happening.
That’s anxiety functioning as designed.

The Yerkes-Dodson law shows moderate arousal can enhance performance up to a point. That nervousness making you prepare thoroughly for the presentation is not a malfunction.

But here’s where it gets complicated, research shows people with clinical anxiety actually have reduced working memory accuracy. When your system is already in overdrive, it stops being helpful.

Your nervous system learned to be this vigilant. Usually because at some point, that vigilance kept you safe. Maybe you grew up monitoring mood shifts constantly. Maybe something taught your body the world isn’t safe. Your threat detection isn’t broken. It’s just calibrated for a level of danger that doesn’t match your current reality.
Trauma therapy helps your nervous system recalibrate.

You’re not overreacting. Your system is just incredibly sensitive. And it can learn new patterns.

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