Sandra Clem Counseling Services

11/08/2025

11/08/2025

11/08/2025

Have confidence in your own judgment and break free from the hold that mistrust has on your relationship. Establish a secure emotional attachment as a couple by asking yourself these seven questions.

Learn how to take charge of trust in your relationship and what to do when it's been broken: http://bit.ly/383pSSv

11/08/2025

Which of these habits do you currently practice in your relationship? In which areas do you want to grow?

Your relationship is an ongoing journey of discovery. Like any skill, attuning to your partner takes practice.

Dr. John Gottman suggests building attunement through the “art of intimate conversation.” Intimate conversation includes learning to put your feelings into words, asking open-ended questions, and following up to deepen connection.

This open communication requires some vulnerability from you both, which can be scary. But remember: making these leaps of faith can dramatically improve your connection and enhance trust with your loved one. The risk is worth it.

Practice essential skills for a thriving romance by starting the Gottman Relationship Coach today: https://bit.ly/3ci5PUO

11/06/2025

When a child says “I hate you” or “I’m dumb,” they’re showing you their pain, not the truth.

“I hate you” often means “I’m overwhelmed and don’t know how to cope.”
“I’m dumb” often means “I feel like I’ve failed and I need reassurance that I’m still enough.”

Both are cries for connection, not correction.
Your calm presence helps them feel safe enough to see themselves differently. ❤️

📖 From my book, Guidance from The Therapist Parent — available at www.thetherapistparent.com and on Amazon.

11/06/2025

There’s a big difference between a threat and a boundary — even if the words sound similar.

⚡ Threat: “Clean your room or no TV.” (Comes from frustration and control.)
🌱 Boundary: “You can watch TV after your room is clean.” (Comes from calm guidance and clear limits.)

One triggers resistance. The other teaches responsibility and follows through with connection. 💛

👉 Learn more about setting boundaries that connect in Guidance from The Therapist Parent — available at www.thetherapistparent.com and on Amazon.

11/01/2025

11/01/2025

10/31/2025

Children express and experience love in different ways. For example, one of my kids prefers physical touch, whereas the other needs words of affirmation. Each of these expressions of love represents a different "language".

It’s common to have different love languages within a family and it can be tricky to navigate. However, once you do learn your child’s love language, it can make all the difference in your relationship and their happiness.

>>> https://biglifejournal.com/blogs/blog/connect-child-activities-love-languages?aff=55

10/31/2025

Want to know one of the simplest, most powerful tools in parenting?

👉 Catch your child being good.

Research from Yale psychologist Alan Kazdin shows that noticing and naming positive behavior — even tiny moments — shapes kids’ brains far more effectively than focusing on what they’re doing wrong.

Instead of: “Stop interrupting.”
Try: “I really like how you waited until I finished talking.”

Every time you name what’s going right, you strengthen the connection and increase the chances your child will do it again. 💛