03/24/2026
“What was the hardest part about growing up with one hand?” I was recently asked this by a colleague.
I think they expected a physical answer like climbing monkey bars, playing sports, or some everyday tasks.
But that was never the hardest part. The hardest part was the assumptions people made. What others believed I could or couldn’t do.
The opportunities I wasn’t given because they thought I couldn’t do it or would fail at it. The moments where someone stepped in too early to “help” not because I couldn’t do it, but because they weren’t sure how I would.
Sometimes it came from a good place. They were concern, uncertainty, or wanting to help. Other times, it came from bias or discrimination about what someone with a disability should or shouldn’t be able to do.
Those moments add up. And they limit the very opportunities that drive learning, growth, and development.
The most disabling thing for me was other people’s assumptions, not my actual disability.
Because the biggest limitation wasn’t the physical difference.
It was the ceiling others placed on what was possible.
We assume limitations before giving people the chance to explore their capacity. Sometimes the most disabling factor isn’t the condition but the expectations and assumptions.