07/10/2024
โค๏ธ Before we can talk about loving someone else, we need to talk about loving ourselves. It can be hard to assert your needs in relationships when you struggle to value your own needs and donโt consider your voice to be important. But your loved ones want you to feel heard and your needs acknowledged. Asserting them means being confident in yourself and that requires self love.
โค๏ธ The only people who benefit from the version of you who doesnโt assert your needs are people who preyed on your low self esteem, silence or passivity. But everyone does have a limit and you matter even if it inconveniences someone. Someone who loves you will honor your needs and treat them with care and safety.
โค๏ธ Relationships will take both people being vulnerable about their needs and those needs being honored without it compromising what your needs are. It will involve respectful communication, no defenses, no assumptions or accusations. If you donโt value yourself, any feedback anyone has will make you feel like they donโt value you.
โค๏ธ Love is more than a feeling, itโs also an action and a choice. There is a give and take is a big part of successful relationships and that comes with both people feeling confident in themselves to share their needs, communicate and being vulnerable. But if there an inherent imbalance in the give and take, one benefits at the expense of the other.
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