09/22/2025
Expectations
Am I free to be me?
Yes. I feel like I am, but the unified mind keeps insisting that there are behavioral expectations in my life for myself, others, and in general. (i.e., The unified mind represents the collective mind shared between myself and another—or among myself and others.)
I know I choose to live from true self principles that are dear to me: integrity, presence, accountability, and unconditional love.
How does "being free" play out in my life, and specifically in my actions/behavior?
Freedom to me is felt when I align my ego self with my true self, as it is in this place that I feel I'm standing on a solid foundation.
Emotionally, I feel. . .
1. More at Peace with Acceptance
Without my or another's behavioral expectations, I'm not constantly measuring others against my or their ego scale, instead I’m viewing them from my true self.
I start accepting people's behavior as it is, not as what I expect it to be.
Meaning, I no longer take on behavioral expectations.
Instead, I offer my behavior in the moment, as is.
"They are on their path. I'm on mine."
2. Less Disappointment and Resentment
Most emotional pain in my relationships comes from what behavior I expected.
Releasing those expectations can soften or dissolve feelings of hurt, betrayal, irritation, or guilt.
"I'm not owed anything, and yet everything given is a gift."
3. Clearer, Cleaner Love
I stop loving people for what they do for me or how they behave.
And start loving them for who they are.
That's unconditional.
Relationships shift from transactional to spacious.
"I love you even if you don't always show up in the way I want."
Mentally, I Realize…
1. Another's Behaviors Aren't Reflections of Me
When I expect family or friends to behave a certain way, I often unconsciously want them to validate my own beliefs, values, or wounds.
Letting go means letting them be them, and not a reflection or a validator of my own beliefs, values, or wounds.
It is in this space that I can be accountable and responsible for my own behavior and emotions, stemming from my behavioral expectations, while not taking on another's behavioral expectations, as that is not my inner work.
"Their behavioral response reflects their alignment, and my behavioral response reflects my alignment."
"When I align my ego self with my true self, I know my wholeness, and I see it too."
2. My Emotional Responsibility is Mine
When I release behavioral expectations, I also reclaim emotional sovereignty.
I stop outsourcing my joy or stability to how another behaves.
When this happens, I have no need to turn to others for emotional support, as my true self is my foundation and support.
"My peace isn't conditional on their behavioral response."
Spiritually or Energetically I May Notice…
1. Freedom in My Field
Letting go of behavioral expectations clears energetic entanglements.
I am no longer silently controlling, manipulating, or waiting.
I am just being.
"I release them to their path, and I return to my path and continue to keep my heart and door open."
2. I Become a Safe Space
People can feel when they're being judged or measured because they judge themselves, not entirely because they are being judged.
When I drop behavioral expectations, my perceptions dissolve, and it assists people in releasing their own judgements of themselves, and they often feel safer around me and more themselves.
Some may draw closer.
"My presence becomes the permission they didn't know they needed."
But Also… I Must Then Accept Myself as I Am. That's Not Always Easy
• I might feel lonely at first. Especially if I realize how much of my identity was tied to others meeting my needs or reflecting or validating my beliefs, values, or wounds.
• Some relationships may shift or even fade when I stop performing or demanding.
• I might grieve. That's normal. I am letting go of illusions.
I Might Say to Myself:
"I can want, and in perfect resonance, have."
"I can give and receive."
"I can offer and not demand."
"I can love, as I am, and as you are."
"I can be and let be."
That is my gift.
It is in this space I can share information; in case it sparks something within.
I can share from the heart, with no pressure or behavioral expectations attached.
What does this response to life look like?
My response to life:
• It is shared from the heart.
• Acknowledges another's "no" without making it awkward.
• Reinforces my intention as giving, not asking.
• Holds no pressure or behavioral expectations, ever.
• Normalizes freedom and requests — a gift in itself.
What would my life look like if I offered this in all my responses to life? To my significant other, my family, my friends, and my acquaintances?
Namaste,
🌻 SisterSol
"As life itself isn't really the struggle, it is a mirror of something much deeper, your relationship with SELF." ~ SisterSol
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