02/06/2025
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but I’ve been debating for months to say what I am about to say!!!
Let me begin by saying my name is Jennifer and I am a VERY GRATEFUL recovering addict. I may not be back FULL TIME at home (Sobriety Living Center) but God… is working that out. In the meantime if you have a loved one that suffers from addiction DO NOT give up on them! I’ve been to treatment SEVERAL times before I finally could not take the hurt & shame anymore. I was a chronic relapser until I decided my girls, my parents, and my husband meant more to me than that corner of a baggie. FINALLY in 2013 God placed the right people in my path to tell me I AM FORGIVEN!!!
You see, I believe our addictions are the same, but recovery for us ALL is different. I was SO BLESSED I always had family support, many do not. They arrive to a place of what should be safety and healing with no one left by their side. They’ve either burned all their bridges or their family members have died and left them alone!!! Stop and think about that, being in this cruel world alone, both parents gone, never really had an honest job because well you was addicted to the “fast money” can’t read or write too good because you were skipping school to get high!!! I could go on and on EVERY case is different and EVERY human being in recovery is different there is no “cookie cutter” formula in recovery!!! ( I wish there was)
I say all this to say what your loved one needs in a recovery environment is love & care, after all we forget how to love ourselves. Some of us have suffered abuse at the hands of others and have repeated daily, the hurtful things said to us that cut to the core by the ones who claimed to love us. The drugs and alcohol are just a SMALL part of the turmoil inside.
So if you are seeking help for your loved one be sure you do it thoroughly!!! Idc if the facility looks like a resort or an old remodeled nursing home. What matters are the people there. Are they helping out of their own ego? Are they hiding behind God in an almost a cult like manner? Yep I said that !!! because it goes on!!! Be careful and do not allow your loved one to be helped by someone who posts all over Facebook about what a wonderful Christian they are that “claims” they wanna help and love our community!!!! ( miss me with your bs because I SEE YOU)but when told we hire felons all the time from SLC & other places that SAME person wanting to help literally turns their nose in the air and walks out!?!?!
These people exists folks and they are bigger predators than the suffering addict ever thought about being!!! They will use your loved ones SUFFERING to glorify themselves and their wallet, hell some even do it to keep the casino afloat!
Do NOT send your loved one off to be mistreated and their self worth be injured even more than what it is! People in recovery are very broken it takes us being as one to begin to feel whole again! I suck at fb messenger, but if you have a suffering addict/alcoholic that needs help send me a message I have facilities I recommend and some I wouldn’t send my worse enemy to. Do not allow your loved one to be made to feel smaller than they already feel.
Thanks for letting me share. Much love, Ms. Jenn 🙏❤️
