07/23/2025
Something that has been going through my mind is the moments in life that I don’t share on social media. I live in the “grey” (middle ground) 99% of the time which is hard to fathom. I post about the highest highs (white) and my lowest lows (black). However, those black and white areas make up less than 1% of my time.
explanation of photos- sleeping way to long on vacation, only in the ER with me last week, giving myself IV antibiotics, before surgery, my central line that is always there, my first time outside in weeks when in the hospital, sleeping and getting IV medication during training with Only, white in inpatient rehab, at disney missing out because I needed to sleep
I’ll be real- all of these pictures were not meant for other people to see, but it’s hard to depict the grey area. I post the black when I’ve been in the hospital for long periods of time. However, it is starting to feel like I have serious medical issues daily. However, I post the white when I am on amazing vacations even when I feel terrible and doing very well at physical therapy. These moments all happen, but 99% of my life is lived in the grey area.
The grey moments are when I am flaring, but not in the hospital. I don’t post the hours doing physical therapy, hanging out with friends but having to leave early, say no, or cancel which is incredibly hard and breaking many of my friendships and my heart. The grey includes the weeks and months I stay in bed because I can’t even fathom getting up or fall asleep randomly. This is my life right now.
Lately, this has been hard. Since creating my “Jaclyn’s Journey” Facebook and Instagram, I chose to make my illness something that others saw details, yet the timeline is so hard to follow. I want to share my story in a positive standpoint and did for a long time, but honestly I don’t have many positive things happening and life is just so hard. (more in the comments)
I started posting during a 4 month hospitalization/inpatient rehab stay when I had wanted to keep others in the loop and it has become a place of prayer requests, hard times, and celebration that I have wanted to keep. After the 4 month hospitalization, my page has represented fun travel, intensive physical therapy, my service dog Only, celebration, and sorrow. However, these moments have happened in a very atypical pattern. My timeline of doing great and then crashing does not make sense because I do not share every detail of infections, other medical problems that I don’t want to share, and times where my body just doesn’t cooperate with me.
I have posted pictures and videos of walking on my own, with different levels of harnessing, with walkers, walking sticks, crutches, a person guiding me, looking unstable, or looking strong in an order that does not make sense. Instead of progressing always the downward spiral happens all the time. I still need my wheelchair all the time which sometimes makes me feel like I am failing. It’s so confusing to the outside world.
I left Jacksonville in May of 2024 for Alaska which was our first family vacation in years. I was walking over obstacles, needing very little help, and doing incredible. However, when I was in Alaska I got a UTI that wouldn’t go away. I have been on IV antibiotics for most of the last year. I’ve developed so many systemic issues from them, and I went downhill fast after coming back to Pittsburgh.
This is where my chronic illness, infection, and disability come in because that is why my progress has been in an order that does not make sense. In between all of the pictures and videos I post is the grey. I’ve found some pictures where I am in the grey.
Right now I am in the grey. I have been in bed sleeping for over a month and in excruciating pain any time i’m awake now. I have only been awake for small amounts of time and haven’t left my house in weeks other than going to the ER and doctor’s appointments which I’ve had to cancel often.
I can’t move my right ankle or toes, but waiting on testing. I am awaiting MRIs of my spine which is terrifying. I have spasticity that makes me fall over which is why it is not safe to walk and need to use my wheelchair and makes me feel miserable. Also, I’ve been beaten down by my Behçet’s Disease and infections. There is so much grey no one can see or understand and life is just hard right now! The grey is not in many social media posts, but that’s my life right now.
I started posting during a 4 month hospitalization/inpatient rehab stay when I had wanted to keep others in the loop and it has become a place of prayer requests, hard times, and celebration that I have wanted to keep. After the 4 month hospitalization, my page has represented fun travel, intensive physical therapy, my service dog Only, celebration, and sorrow. However, these moments have happened in a very atypical pattern. My timeline of doing great and then crashing does not make sense because I do not share every detail of infections, other medical problems that I don’t want to share, and times where my body just doesn’t cooperate with me.
I have posted pictures and videos of walking on my own, with different levels of harnessing, with walkers, walking sticks, crutches, a person guiding me, looking unstable, or looking strong in an order that does not make sense. Instead of progressing always the downward spiral happens all the time. I still need my wheelchair all the time which sometimes makes me feel like I am failing. It’s so confusing to the outside world.
I left Jacksonville in May of 2024 for Alaska which was our first family vacation in years. I was walking over obstacles, needing very little help, and doing incredible. However, when I was in Alaska I got a UTI that wouldn’t go away. I have been on IV antibiotics for most of the last year. I’ve developed so many systemic issues from them, and I went downhill fast after coming back to Pittsburgh.
This is where my chronic illness, infection, and disability come in because that is why my progress has been in an order that does not make sense. In between all of the pictures and videos I post is the grey. I’ve found some pictures where I am in the grey.
Right now I am in the grey. I have been in bed sleeping for over a month and in excruciating pain any time i’m awake now. I have only been awake for small amounts of time and haven’t left my house in weeks other than going to the ER and doctor’s appointments which I’ve had to cancel often.
I can’t move my right ankle or toes, but waiting on testing. I am awaiting MRIs of my spine which is terrifying. I have spasticity that makes me fall over which is why it is not safe to walk and need to use my wheelchair and makes me feel miserable. Also, I’ve been beaten down by my Behçet’s Disease and infections. There is so much grey no one can see or understand and life is just hard right now! The grey is not in many social media posts, but that’s my life right now.