Ira Kotlik, Psy.D.

07/24/2025

This Saturday, 14th episode will air, wrapping first season of our conversations with Dr. Norelyn.

In this episode, Dr. Ira and Dr. Norelyn discuss the toxicity of the men's sphere and red pill philosophy, emphasizing the importance of reclaiming sexuality and intimacy. They highlight the manosphere's negative impact on men's mental health and relationships, including the 80/20 rule, which falsely claims 80% of women compete for 20% of men. They stress the need for vulnerability and self-love, urging men to seek professional help and avoid toxic communities. They also address the role of parents in protecting their children from online dangers and the importance of genuine, non-manipulative relationships. The hosts encourage listeners to engage, ask questions, and consider joining their future group coaching sessions.

If you wish to listen to all the episodes, here is the link to the first one:

1. Body: Home of the Spirit
https://youtu.be/cytczdxNVBg

In recent years few things were coming into collective awareness. Fragility and strength of human Body, as well as vast differences between how various societies and individuals treat it. It is vivid now that the attitude we adopt to the body will define how we treat it, how we treat other people's bodies, and consequently - how healthy and happy it will be.

We can not make other people treat their body or ours well. To some extent, we can put boundaries, but as we see boundaries are wiped by decisions of psychopathic people to wage war, like it happened, for example to people in Ukraine.

So what is left?

To choose to be a Lover. To decide to treat your body and body of others you interact with, with great respect, attentiveness, discipline and compassion.
To feed it well (unfortunately, still not possible for millions of people out there; Yemen, for example, has been in hunger since 2015.. the estimate is that about 85,000 children under age of 5 have died of hunger since then).
To listen to it, to pleasure it, to caress it.
It is not unimportant, it is not excessive.
This shift in attitude is necessary for Spirit to continue to thrive and prosper.

05/11/2025

🌸 New Podcast 🌸
In this weekly podcast me and Norelyn will dive into topics that we usually do not dare to touch in our daily encounters. With education and ample experience guiding couples and individuals in the quest for more joy, aliveness and understanding of self and our partners, we are very much looking forward to share and ponder together with you.

05/07/2025

Last Saturday we set with Norelyn for a casual conversation, as friends and colleagues. We recorded 47 minutes of it, talking about how we met, Norelyn coming over to Encounterland, women retreat, power of being in Nature and situation in which many women find themselves in 2025 - disconnected from themselves, their sensuality and thus, living in consent to their bodies. If you just want to dive straight into the part where we talk about loss of eros and how we go from here back home, to body as sacred temple and our desires as spiritual guides, skip to 22nd minute.

04/18/2025

Edan Zanone, Californian 12th grader, created this year this ceramic piece titled "Through rose-colored eyes". You can see it in Crocker Museum along with lots of other heart-centered creations.

This piece really moved me because it expresses what more and more of us realize - our eyes and heart cannot only absorb reality around, they also can project and manifest reality they wish to see.

So please 🙏❤️ keep dreaming that which heals your heart. Take time to bring awareness to the tender part within your chest that knows and remembers from all the times she has been human what's possible.

As I watch life speeding up and grieve the disconnection of mind from heart.. from nature.. I am also reminded that I have choice of what I do with my own body, mind and time.

03/10/2025

The truth of what women have been going through for centuries under Islam is coming out. Dripping through stories of these brave souls who finally can speak up and yet must hide the face to protect their life. This can no longer continue and we have a role to play in changing it. We at least can hold this. The reality of at least forth of the sisters on the planet.. but really so much more, have been subdued like this. What's up with guys who don't understand that you must be chosen by your dream woman and for that you must treat every one as your Godly wife - Ashera.
Just think about it - if man is God, then woman is his match - Goddess. Think of such marriage and why would the couple want to have any type of life that is different from fun, exciting, peaceful, poetic, beautiful, in good taste...
This couple would be like a free run of two dragons, rivers of energy, who feel so amazing with each other they want to ride all the way together.
See?.. this kind of love, you can not have unless you have freedom and humility.. you need to be able to dancing with each other as husband and wife. In Tandav (happy dance) of Mahadev and Mahadevi (divine couple, yin and yang, initial duo after singular female cell divides itself in two for experiencing something new).

After enduring extensive clergy ab*se at the hands of her community’s trusted imam in her own home (detailed in part 1), Layla’s family gave her as a young b...

01/21/2025

In March I will take 4 people into a special hybrid program that includes 7 sessions, 90 min each and one Encounterland swaddling retreat.

This program is designed for those who wish to rewire their bodymind in all 6 aspects of experience: sexual, mental, emotional, spiritual, energetic and material.

After we connect to your heart's desire and vision of rebirthed self, that is aligned with life you wish to experience, we'll dedicate each week for healing trauma and empowering you in each of those aspects.

After years of working with other people and going through these processes myself, I decided to put up a program that I know now is extremely potent.

We will finish with your private retreat in beautiful Encounterland, "sealing" and celebrating with swaddling ceremony the new and liberated You.

Cost of the program is $3500 and has an option of payment plan.

I reallly want you to shine and that this will do it 🥰

01/14/2025

12/12/2024

It took me a while to understand that in a twin flame relationship the cool thing is that I can completely regulate the field just by aligning myself to light and what feels amazing all over. Of course he does the same thing, but because it is literally one energetic field upifting becomes mutually resonant option 😉
Check first comment 👇 let me know what happens
🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

10/30/2024

Все таки наиболее интимно и тепло я пишу на русском языке. Для моих клиенток - женщин, которых очень люблю.
Массу времени заняло понять, что люблю я и могу окружать себя только вот самыми вкусными людьми. Только теми, с кем уютно, тепло и легко. Нет, конечно, налаживать контакты приходиться с совершенно разными людьми (кто-то прямо налаживает международные конфликты.. не? ну кто-то же точно этим занимается.. я правда знаю ноль лично... думала, что знаю, но ошиблась)...
Вобщем, я соскучилась писать по русски, и вспомнила как это - писать честно и смело. Не скрывая от читателя никаких оттенков моей личности.
Как это, писать прямо как есть?
Играть с энергией жизни внутри, одевая ее буйную ярую силу в звуки, термины и образы, которые передают суть наиболее быстро в словах... а говорить я могу много.. муж столько выслушивать не может, а нереализованное желание вещать есть (не путать, плиз с поговорить... это ж значит и мне прийдеться слушать... не обижайтесь, но это я делала почти всю свою.. очень долгую жизнь).
Пришло время говорить 🙂
Прямо, искренне, по-русски.
Подписка на журнал из леса Encounterland тут:
forms.sendpulse.com/29185f8657

10/29/2024

I am back to working on my YouTube channel, big thanks to my Guyushka who is helping with staging and editing!
In this episode "7 signs to leave" I dive into the harsh realities of way too many women in the long-term romantic relationships and what I wish every girl in this world knew before she starts dating.
Link in the first comment. Your responses and shares are greatly appreciated 😊

10/23/2024

New website 💕 (first comment)