Thrive Counseling

08/10/2022

One of the strategies we incorporate for some clients is writing down or saying one things they are grateful for in the day. As I was in Hot Springs, AR I saw this bracelet and had the most amazing story to go with it. Depression can touch many and it can feel lonely. Know that you are not alone and a counselor is sometimes a phone call away. What are you grateful for today?

07/16/2022

07/07/2022

Constantemente estamos emitiendo juicios acerca de todo pero sobretodo acerca de nosotros mismos. Tanto, que la autocritica se vuelve nuestro lenguaje automatico con nosotros mismos. Creemos que si nos damos duro seremos mejores personas, tendremos motivación para cambiar o para esforzarnos. Pensamos que la autocritica es el motor que nos impulsa a seguir. Pero la verdad es que no. Si te pones a pensar la autocritica lo único que hace es hacerte sentir peor. No te motiva, te debilita. No te impulsa al cambio, te baja el autoestima. Para ser mejor solo basta con reconocer los errores y tomar acción para mejorar, no hace falta tratarse mal.

07/04/2022

No one is responsible for your happiness, only you. No one has the power to make you happy or unhappy, only you. If you don't take care of making yourself happy, nobody will. It is your responsibility to take control of your happiness, it is your responsibility to know what things make you happy and carry them out.

07/03/2022

La alimentación y la salud mental están estrechamente relacionadas. Evolutivamente cuando tenemos una emoción y empezamos reaccionar fisiologicamente, uno de los efectos es que el sistema digestivo se pone en pausa porque a la hora de sobrevivir (pelear o huir) realmente no lo necesitamos. Por esta razón muchas veces se nos quita el apetito cuando sentimos malestar emocional. Sin embargo, hay personas a las que les sucede lo contrario; cuando sienten malestar emocional sienten la necesidad de comer ya que es la estrategia que tienen para regularse emocionalmente. De esta manera muchas veces las personas se ven enredadas con la comida o porque no están comiendo o porque comen en momentos donde no es necesraio comer o porciones que no son las adecuadas.
Es importante entender que si el problema no es de hambre la comida no es la solución tanto si se me quita el apetito por un malestar emocional como por si quiero comer para regularme.

07/02/2022

It is logical to want things to be one way or another and it is logical that it is difficult to accept reality as it is. But it is necessary to take off the glasses through which we filter what we see. It is necessary to begin to see reality without a filter and take charge of what we are seeing, experiencing or feeling without focusing on how much we want it to be different.

06/29/2022

Mental health is a state of well-being in which we can live our lives and respond to the demands of the environment. It allows us to carry out the activities that are important to us, manage stress, create relationships with other human beings, and generally enjoy life.

06/24/2022

Si es una buena idea ahora, seguirá siendo una buena idea en 2 días, pero si es una mala idea, puede que pasen 2 días antes de que te des cuenta. Nuestras emociones nos da información importante acerca de las situaciones que nos ocurren pero no siempre tenemos que actuar de acuerdo a ellas.

06/22/2022

Although negative emotions and emotional discomfort sometimes seem eternal, the reality is that they always pass. Emotions only last minutes or seconds, never hours, or days, or weeks. The discomfort will pass faster than you think. You can be in pain but it does not mean you have to suffer for a long period of time. As we process our emotions we are able to surpass the suffering.

06/19/2022

An anxiety disorder is when the alarm is bigger than the fire. In some cases, clients are dealing with a real fire. So the anxiety, for the most part, is warranted if not useful.
Still these questions may still be useful.
• What is the risk? Am I maximizing it, exaggerating it?
• What are my resources? Am I minimizing my ability to prevent or deal with the consequences of the risk?
• Am I afraid of the anxiety itself? How can I practice accepting and using anxiety constructively?

We can distinguish between clean and dirty anxiety. Clean anxiety is anxiety about a realistic threat. We use it to garner resources, to problem solve, to weigh the costs and benefits of the options before us. Dirty anxiety is anxiety about anxiety. Dr. Beck stated that an anxiety disorder is when the client is more afraid of the alarm than of the fire, and all their efforts are spent in putting out the alarm.

06/18/2022

Vivir la vida pensando que hay un manual que dicta cómo debe funcionar el mundo, las personas o incluso nosotros es muy frustrante porque ese manual realmente no existe. Las cosas no son como deberían ser según nosotros sino como son. Podemos pensar que el cielo debería ser verde, pero la realidad es que es azul. No importa si debería ser o no de otro color, lo importante es darnos cuenta de la realidad. Esa realidad no nos tiene que gustar pero si la tenemos que aceptar.

06/14/2022

Sometimes when we lose someone we feel like it's the end of our lives. Many of the things we did with that person begin to be painful and we think that they have lost their meaning or their importance. Although grieving is a process, part of it is giving a new meaning to everything without the presence of this person. Give meaning to death, give meaning to important dates, to plans. Give a new meaning to memories.