Mishele L. Hart, LCSW

11/06/2025

11/05/2025

💫 The pause before your reaction holds power...
it teaches them what love feels like under pressure.
Not every mistake needs fear to correct it...
sometimes, it just needs understanding to guide it.

11/04/2025

The child who grows up with two homes but one team of parents…
learns that family isn’t broken, it’s just built differently.

They learn that love doesn’t disappear just because it has two addresses.
That home can be found in both places
in the smell of mom’s cooking,
in the sound of dad’s laughter,
in the safety of knowing they’re wanted in both spaces.

They don’t feel torn when both parents choose to work together.
Instead, they feel doubled.
Double the cheers at games.
Double the hugs at milestones.
Double the support when life feels heavy.

They don’t see parents competing for their attention.
They see parents sharing it.
They don’t feel pressure to choose sides.
They feel the freedom of knowing they don’t have to.

And that changes everything.

Because kids who grow up with two homes but one team of parents
learn that love isn’t defined by walls or a roof.
It’s defined by consistency.
By presence.
By showing up.

One day, they’ll become adults who know that “different” doesn’t mean “less than.”
They’ll believe in healthy love, because they saw respect outweigh resentment.
They’ll build families of their own without fear that love can’t survive change.

So when you see a child running between two homes with a smile,
know this:
They’re not broken.
They’re not missing out.
They’re whole.

Because family isn’t about where you live.
It’s about who shows up.
And kids who have two homes but one team of parents?
They grow up knowing they are loved everywhere.

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07/18/2025

For decades, the prevailing message to children was: “Your feelings don’t matter. Just do what you’re told.” Emotions were seen as inconvenient, even disruptive. As a result, many adults today are unlearning emotional suppression.

But in our effort to correct the past, we’ve overcorrected.

We’ve gone from ignoring kids’ feelings to letting them run the show. A child is disappointed, so we cancel the plan. A child is frustrated, so we change the rule. A child is anxious, so we remove the challenge.

Here’s how I see it: We need to do something no generation before us has done: not shut down our kids’ emotions, not let kids’ emotions dictate what we do. We need to learn to hold both: Feeling and boundary. Expression and leadership. Validation and authority.

It’s our job to make decisions we believe are best for our kids. And it’s our kids’ job to have feelings about those decisions.

Our boundaries shouldn’t dictate their feelings... and their feelings shouldn’t control our boundaries.

This is what sturdy parenting looks like.