02/23/2026
I recently started a TikTok page, but I wanted to share this here too 🤍
3 things I knew as a doula that still hit completely different as a first-time mom:
1️⃣ The EXHAUSTION.
I’ve supported so many families through postpartum. I’ve seen firsthand how tired new parents are.
But nothing prepares you for being the one running on broken sleep while caring for your brand new little person.
Even with a supportive partner.
Even with helpful friends and family.
Even when you “know what to expect.”
Those first weeks are SO heavy — physically, emotionally, hormonally. Baby is adjusting. Mom and dad are adjusting.
It’s okay if you’re exhausted. It doesn’t mean you’re failing.
2️⃣ Breastfeeding.
You can hear all the struggle stories.
You can take all the lactation classes.
You can know the latch positions and supply basics.
And it still might not “click.” And that can feel heartbreaking.
There is something uniquely vulnerable about wanting to nourish your baby with your own body and feeling like you can’t figure it out.
And then on the other side — when it DOES click? When your persistence and continued learning finally turn into a calm nursing session?
Nothing prepares you for that either.
And even when breastfeeding isn’t a struggle, it’s such a beautiful, wild thing to witness your body sustaining the human you created.
Fed is best. Supported is better.
3️⃣ Support matters more than you think.
We hear “it takes a village” all the time.
But no one prepares you for how lonely postpartum can feel — even when you have support.
You can be surrounded by help and still feel overwhelmed.
You can have a loving partner and still feel isolated.
You can have visitors and still feel unseen.
And when you don’t have a village? The weight is even heavier.
Postpartum is supposed to be a season of healing.
When it’s not supported well, it can feel like survival.
I also want to take a moment to acknowledge postpartum mental health.
I’ve supported clients through postpartum anxiety, depression, and OCD — and walking my own path with postpartum anxiety and OCD humbled me in a completely new way.
If you’re struggling with intrusive thoughts, constant worry, rage, sadness, or feeling unlike yourself: you are not broken. You are not alone. And you are not the only one feeling this way.
Knowing something as a professional is one thing.
Living it is another.
If you’re in this season, be gentle with yourself 🤍
What about postpartum surprised you the most?