10/24/2018
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There is so much pressure and so many marketing messages about how to “get our body back” after babies. ✨Our bodies have changed, transformed, and accomplished one of the greatest physical and emotional feats possible during pregnancy and birth. Why are we erasing that. ✨We need to change the conversation and change the expectation for women to bounce back. We instead need to look at how we can bounce forward with compassion, love and awe at all that our bodies can do. ✨I love this post from about how this pressure and mindset affects us. . . .
Let’s look at reasons why diets/disordered eating/eating disorders emerge following pregnancy. First: Our culture is obsessed with looking like we never had kids - and as quickly as possible after giving birth. Before that, there’s even pressure to look like you are only pregnant in your stomach. What an unrealistic goal for most, that’s not something we have control of.
Next let’s throw in four trimesters of constant body comments made by your closest family, friends, doctors, and strangers. You’re already hyper aware of the changes in your body and now you know what everyone else thinks about it. Even the positive, well intentioned comments can impact our body image.
Here’s the thing, dieting is a life thief and 1 in 4 people who go on a diet will develop an eating disorder. They are the best distractions from something really difficult - like a huge change in your identity as a person, a parent, a partner... add in a lack of restful sleep, inconsistent feeding, hygiene, and personal space, turn up the volume on that Shame voice telling you you’re a bad mom, oh, and don’t forget to throw in the anger and resentment of the unequal division of parenting responsibilities or disappointment of how your partner is adjusting to this new role. This is probably one of the most difficult things you’ve ever experienced. . . .
Molly is an HAES therapist and has a great book about intuitive eating that offers guidance on navigating this process. 💕 .