Xavier Frye

Xavier Frye Holistic Therapist & Transformation Coach |
• Helping high performers change what years for doing "the work" couldn't with The R.E.B.I.R.T.H. Consultation 👇🏾

Process.
• DM "CHANGE" to get started
• Book a R.E.B.I.R.T.H. I am a light worker with 18 years of experience in divination and healing energy work. I am a Certified Reiki Master, master card reader, and talented lightworker. Talented and Accurate. My results speak for themselves. I can assess whats happening, and where to go from there, and even predict what may come a long, and tell you how to

make choices for the better. If you're feeling blocked, trapped, or without any motivation I can also clear you aura of any heavy or negative energies you may have picked up that are keeping you down. I have great references, if you need them.

04/12/2026

Those little things that get forgotten wind up being huge deals in the end. A little gratitude and acknowledgment goes a long way in love.

04/09/2026

DM or coment the word “CHANGE”.

If talking about and analyzing your problems were enough to fix them, you probably wouldn’t have any.

I’ve helped a lot of people, myself included, go from dealing with the same triggers for years to watching them lose their power completely, all thanks to The R.E.B.I.R.T.H. Process.

I want to pass on my knowledge and expertise to other high performers who’ve spent years doing the work and are ready for tangible and lasting change.

Let’s talk about it.

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04/08/2026

Just so you all know, I'm making some changes to some of my social media setups. Don't be alarmed, I'm not being hacked. Just making some necessary changes for my business marketing.

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I have been doing tarot and energy work since I was about 14. By the time I was doing it professionally, I'd gotten good...
04/03/2026

I have been doing tarot and energy work since I was about 14.

By the time I was doing it professionally, I'd gotten good at something most readers aren't comfortable with — following the reading wherever it actually went, not just where the client thought they were going. Someone would come in asking about their relationship or career, and the cards would pull up everything beneath the surface related to it. Old wounds. Patterns they'd buried. The real source of the problem they'd come in with. I'd lay it out. Sometimes they'd resist at first, and I'd keep going until the weight of everything I was seeing made resistance impossible. Sometimes they'd hear it and just nod — they already knew. Sometimes they'd leave convinced I was wrong, and come back years later to tell me it had happened exactly the way I said it would.
The readings were accurate. That wasn't the problem.

The problem was what happened after. I was cracking things open — real things, old things — and I had nothing to hand people once they were open. No way to help them actually move what I'd just brought to the surface. They'd leave with clarity they didn't have before, and I'd watch them come back months later, still dealing with the same thing, sometimes worse, because now they could see it and still couldn't shift it.

I put it out to the universe that I needed something to help with the problems I was uncovering. I reached out to someone I trusted, and they pointed me to their teacher, who became my first teacher.

I came in with EMDR on my radar. It seemed like the obvious tool for what I was dealing with — clients carrying old trauma that kept resurfacing. My teacher steered me away from it, and multiple experts in the field have since said the same thing: depending on how traumatic the experience of being revisited is, it can make things harder for the client, not easier. There were gentler and more efficient tools that could help with those issues without that potential risk. I signed up for her program, and as I went through the curriculum, I kept noticing that many of the things I was doing intuitively were quite similar to what I was learning in school. The way I'd drop into trance work with certain clients when I felt guided to do so. The way I'd work with someone's identity when I could see it was the thing in the way. I hadn't had names for any of it. The training gave me the names, the structure, and the precision to do deliberately what I'd been doing by feel for years.

And then I had to go through the process myself.
Right in the middle of the curriculum, I started avoiding the modules. Finding other things to do that suddenly felt more important. Freezing at the thought of sitting down and doing the work. And underneath it all, my inner critic was having a field day. "See, look at you. You're not going to finish this either." "You always do this." "You never finish anything you start, and you wasted so much money." "Your mother was right — you should just get a real job."

My entire life, I had dealt with procrastination and a block around finishing what I started. I can't tell you how many things I began because they were going to further me in life, and never saw them through. Things that mattered. Things I wanted. And there I was, doing it again, mid-curriculum on the exact training I'd gone looking for.

After weeks of stewing in it, I reached out to my teacher and asked her directly — "Hey, does this stuff really work? I mean, does this really work for real?" She looked me dead in the eye and said, of course it does. What do you want to work on?
In one session, she used a technique that changes the way you perceive yourself — your identity. In 45 minutes, I went from someone who "never finished anything they started" to an entrepreneurial renaissance man who crushes his goals and finishes what he sets out to do. Not only did I finish that 500-hour program in less than 2 months, but I've also since earned 11 certifications.
My own experience, and the transformation I've witnessed with the clients I've worked with over the years, has taught me one thing: awareness and understanding of the problem you have and why you do it doesn't change the fact that you're still doing it. That's only part of the problem. That's why you can go to therapy and work on yourself for years and still feel like you aren't getting anywhere.

The people who come to me have been actively working on themselves for a long time and are ready to create change that lasts. As it turns out, the problem I went looking for a solution to — not having anything to help people move what I was bringing to the surface — was the exact problem my clients needed help with, too. So I built a process to help them achieve that—the R.E.B.I.R.T.H. Process.

Most people doing “the work” aren’t stuck because they’re lazy.They’re stuck because they’ve been working in the wrong p...
04/02/2026

Most people doing “the work” aren’t stuck because they’re lazy.
They’re stuck because they’ve been working in the wrong place.
They’ve journaled about the trauma. Talked about it in therapy. Named the triggers.
They know exactly why they react the way they do.
And the reaction still happens.
Not because they don’t understand the problem.
Because understanding the problem doesn’t change the problem.
Insight lives in the conscious mind.
Your reactions don’t.
Your unconscious mind learned how to survive long before you had language for what was happening. Those rules of life became your identity.
Later, when you started working on yourself, you aimed at the symptoms.
Anxiety. People-pleasing. Avoidance. Conflict.
But those aren’t the problem.
They’re symptoms of the problem.
Trying to fix them without changing the structure underneath is like pulling weeds by the leaves.
It looks productive.
Then the same thing grows back.
If the same problems keep showing up with a different face, it’s probably not because you’re missing effort.
You may just be working on the wrong layer.
Get at me.

Photo by Tim De Pauw on UnsplashYou feel drained from constantly giving to people who don't give back. You're always fix...
04/02/2026

Photo by Tim De Pauw on UnsplashYou feel drained from constantly giving to people who don't give back. You're always fixing someone else's mess. You call yourself a people pleaser, but no one is actually pleased — least of all you. Tell me I'm wrong. I'll wait. 😘

Being numb to your emotions doesn’t mean you’re “calm.” It means you’re disconnected from your emotions. You learned ear...
04/01/2026

Being numb to your emotions doesn’t mean you’re “calm.” It means you’re disconnected from your emotions. You learned early that feeling made you look weak and hurt too much, so you shut them off, and now you confuse not feeling with not hurting.
You didn’t evolve—you just stopped feeling.

Suppressing your feelings isn’t the same thing as regulating them.
Be with that as long as you need. 😘

You keep rescuing people who never change. You mistake their dependence for connection. The length of a relationship doe...
04/01/2026

You keep rescuing people who never change. You mistake their dependence for connection. The length of a relationship does not equal the strength of one. You call it loyalty, but in reality, it's codependency. Learn the difference.

I have been doing tarot and energy work since I was about 14 years old. By the time I was doing it professionally, I'd g...
03/31/2026

I have been doing tarot and energy work since I was about 14 years old.

By the time I was doing it professionally, I'd gotten good at something most readers aren't comfortable with — following the reading wherever it actually went, not just where the client thought they were going. Someone would come in asking about their relationship or career, and the cards would pull up everything beneath the surface related to it. Old wounds. Patterns they'd buried. The real source of the problem they'd come in with. I'd lay it out. Sometimes they'd resist at first, and I'd keep going until the weight of everything I was seeing made resistance impossible. Sometimes they'd hear it and just nod — they already knew. Sometimes they'd leave convinced I was wrong, and come back years later to tell me it had happened exactly the way I said it would.

The readings were accurate. That wasn't the problem.
The problem was what happened after. I was cracking things open — real things, old things — and I had nothing to hand people once they were open. No way to help them actually move what I'd just brought to the surface. They'd leave with clarity they didn't have before, and I'd watch them come back months later, still dealing with the same thing, sometimes worse, because now they could see it and still couldn't shift it.

I put it out to the universe that I needed something to help with the problems I was uncovering. I reached out to someone I trusted, and they pointed me to their teacher, who became my first teacher.

I came in with EMDR on my radar. It seemed like the obvious tool for what I was dealing with — clients carrying old trauma that kept resurfacing. My teacher steered me away from it, and multiple experts in the field have since said the same thing: depending on how traumatic the experience being revisited is, it can make things harder for the client, not easier. There were gentler and more efficient tools that could help with those issues without that potential risk. I signed up for her program, and as I went through the curriculum, I kept noticing that many of the things I was doing intuitively were quite similar to what I was learning in school. The way I'd drop into trance work with certain clients when I felt guided to do so. The way I'd work with someone's identity when I could see it was the thing in the way. I hadn't had names for any of it. The training gave me the names, the structure, and the precision to do deliberately what I'd been doing by feel for years.

And then I had to go through the process myself.

Right in the middle of the curriculum, I started avoiding the modules. Finding other things to do that suddenly felt more important. Freezing at the thought of sitting down and doing the work. And underneath it all, my inner critic was having a field day. "See, look at you. You're not going to finish this either." "You always do this." "You never finish anything you start, and you wasted so much money." "Your mother was right — you should just get a real job."

My entire life, I had dealt with procrastination and a block around finishing what I started. I can't tell you how many things I began because they were going to further me in life, and I never saw them through. Things that mattered. Things I wanted. And there I was, doing it again, mid-curriculum on the exact training I'd gone looking for.

After weeks of stewing in it, I reached out to my teacher and asked her directly — "Hey, does this stuff really work? I mean, does this really work for real?" She looked me dead in the eye and said, of course it does. What do you want to work on?
In one session, she used a technique that changes the way you perceive yourself — your identity. In 45 minutes, I went from someone who "never finished anything they started" to an entrepreneurial renaissance man who crushes his goals and finishes what he sets out to do. Not only did I finish that 500-hour program in less than 2 months, but I've also earned 11 certifications since then.

My own experience, and the transformation I've witnessed with the clients I've worked with over the years, has taught me one thing: awareness and understanding of the problem you have and why you do it doesn't change the fact that you're still doing it. That's only part of the problem. That's why you can go to therapy and work on yourself for years and still feel like you aren't getting anywhere.

The people who come to me have been actively working on themselves for a long time and are ready to create lasting change. As it turns out, the problem I went looking for a solution to — not having anything to help people move what I was bringing to the surface — was the exact problem my clients needed help with, too. So I built a process to help them achieve that—the R.E.B.I.R.T.H. Process.

Boundaries and walls are not the same thing. Boundaries define the rules of engagement and what respect looks like. Wall...
03/31/2026

Boundaries and walls are not the same thing. Boundaries define the rules of engagement and what respect looks like. Walls sever the connection altogether. Both can sound like no, but they carry different intent. A wall cuts contact to avoid vulnerability and accountability. A boundary defines how interaction continues while maintaining respect.

Walls feel absolute and self-protective. They keep you in control, but nothing genuine can get through. Boundaries create structure without shutting down the connection. When they’re set, maintained, and observed, they foster mutual respect rather than one-sidedness.

Most of what people call “boundaries” are just power plays wrapped in self-help language. You’re not setting limits, you’re issuing ultimatums you don’t enforce. “If you do that again, I’m done.” Then they do, and you stay. That moment teaches your system one thing: your talk is cheap. That’s not self-respect. That’s insecurity masquerading as strength.

Integrity means your actions match your words. When they don’t, your unconscious mind stops trusting you. Every time you announce a consequence and don’t follow through, your unconscious stops taking you seriously.

Keep it simple. Identify the behavior. State what you’ll do. Follow through with firmness, not fire. “If you raise your voice, I’ll pause the conversation and continue when we can speak calmly.” Then do exactly that.

People wait for readiness like it’s a train they can hear coming. It isn’t. It’s a story the mind tells to stall the bod...
03/31/2026

People wait for readiness like it’s a train they can hear coming. It isn’t. It’s a story the mind tells to stall the body.
Readiness isn’t a prerequisite. It’s a byproduct. The brain wants guarantees, proof, and a signed note from the future. That’s not how anything real begins.

Perfection dresses up as “preparation.” You gather books, binge courses, and tweak the plan for the fifteenth time. You call it responsibility. It’s fear in a collared shirt. You don’t need more data. You need contact with reality. Action clarifies. Movement regulates. One small, public commitment collapses a hundred private doubts.

Send the email. Make the ask. Publish the post you keep “polishing.” Book the conversation you keep postponing because “the timing isn’t right.” Timing becomes right when you step into it. Will you make mistakes? Yes. Good. Mistakes mean you’re learning through contact, not theory.

Will people judge? Yes. Good. Let their opinions expose where you’re still renting out to approval.

Stop worshiping readiness. Build evidence of it. Move. Confidence will catch up later.

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In My Own Lane, Minding My Business
Portland, OR

Opening Hours

Monday 12pm - 8pm
Tuesday 12pm - 8pm
Wednesday 12pm - 8pm
Thursday 12pm - 8pm
Friday 12pm - 8pm

Telephone

+19719991136

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