12/19/2025
It’s one thing to work with a client’s firefighter.
It’s another when that firefighter is pointed straight at you.
Anger. Frustration. “You’re not helping me.”
Every therapist knows the jolt that comes with this moment.
Paul teaches a powerful move:
💛 Notice your own parts
💛 Let them soften just enough
💛 Stay with the relationship instead of the reaction
Often, what the client needs most is to feel that you can stay connected even when their protector is big and scared.
This is advanced clinical work.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
