Beloved Coaching

Beloved Coaching Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach My name is Jess DeVries and I am a Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach trained in the Somatica® Method.

I partner with individuals interested in deepening their level of connection in interpersonal relationships, expanding their erotic know-how and having a greater self-understanding of their body, their needs and their desires. My heart's work is to meet people where they are and help them become as sexually fulfilled as they want to be. I specialize in working with folks who grew up in the Christian church and are seeking to undo early religious messaging around sex and sexuality. Work is done in one-on-one sessions at my office in Portland, OR, via Skype or over the phone. While not a comprehensive list, the following gives you an idea of what is possible within a session. Areas I can help you explore are:

*Learning more about your personal turn-ons, why they turn you on and how to incorporate your turn-ons into your sex life regularly.

*Boundaries: how to notice your own, how to hold them and how to honor the boundaries of others.

*Asking for what you want.

*Healing early emotional wounds through inner child work.

*Different types of touch and how to touch your partner(s) in ways that are pleasing to both of you.

*Exploring romance, passion and/or dominance in your relationship(s)

*Struggles and issues within your relationship with your partner(s) or with sex in general and how to address those issues.

*Insecure attachment and building more secure attachment. If you are interested in a session give me a call. I look forward to working with you.

Resting on a log by a little stream. Where can you find a bit of rest today? *xEd *xualHealing *xCoach ***rS*xCoa...
11/18/2025

Resting on a log by a little stream.

Where can you find a bit of rest today?

*xEd *xualHealing *xCoach ***rS*xCoach ***rs *xuality *xualEmpowerment

Nearly six years ago I lost one of my significant people to a car accident. In the ways that polyamory and q***rness and...
11/09/2025

Nearly six years ago I lost one of my significant people to a car accident. In the ways that polyamory and q***rness and working with erotic energy make the term partner complicated, her death (coupled a number of other losses at the same time) was completely overwhelming and most people didn’t know how to understand my grief.

And those that did were also swimming deeply in the same waters of the grief of her death.

How do you talk about the person that you were building life plans with, but weren’t s*xual with, but also trained in flogging with and wanted to bring s*xual healing to evangelical communities as part of our magic…

Being q***r and kinky and non-monogamous allows for so many expansive relationships to exist, and when we lose someone, the standard of grief care does not know how to show up and hold that grief.

Tomorrow’s grief circle is just that. A place where we get to name things exactly as they are, and choose to share or not from a place of actual choice rather than trying to keep parts of our grief safe because we know people won’t understand.

If you are someone who is q***r, kinky and non-monogamous and you have had a partner die (comet, D/S, client/provider, spouse, f**k buddy… etc) and need a place to be with your grief with people who understand. This place is for you.

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and I would be so glad to have you there. ❤️

The moon is my girlfriend. Tonight she was flirting with all of us.
11/07/2025

The moon is my girlfriend. Tonight she was flirting with all of us.

Covid Cautious Loves… Our next grief gathering has been scheduled! This is a space for C*vid cautious folks to gather vi...
10/26/2025

Covid Cautious Loves… Our next grief gathering has been scheduled!

This is a space for C*vid cautious folks to gather virtually and tend the various griefs that we have experienced since March 2020 and the specific grief of watching the world go back to “normal” when the pandemic is still very much here. With so much isolation in the last 5 years we are excited to gather and tend grief together, to know that we are not alone and that we are held in community.

We will begin with some somatic exercises to open and ground into the space.
Depending on numbers we may go into breakout rooms, or stay in one room together.
There will be time for each person to share.
In the last 15 minutes we will come back together as a group to engage in a closing for our gathering.

Wednesday, November 5th
12:30pm - 2:00pm PST / 3:30pm-5:00pm EST / 9:30pm - 11:00pm GMT +1
Zoom Room with Captions

PLEASE RSVP via the link in my bio so that we can plan for numbers & accessibility needs.
We will send you the zoom link a couple of hours before we meet.

These grief gatherings are offered on a sliding scale basis, with a suggested donation of $5-$25 (USD), with no one turned away for lack of funds.

We also encourage those who are able to "pay it forward" and offer more.

Please send payment to Jess DeVries (**write Cozy Grief or Covid Grief in the note**):
PayPal.me/BelovedCoaching
or Venmo

We (, , and I) offer this circle the first Wednesday of every month, so we can have a regular time to gather and grieve. We send out an email inviting folks to RSVP for the upcoming session 7-10 days before that session. If you want to be notified by email of upcoming gatherings, please note that in the RSVP.

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We are so excited to announce this new grief circle for those of us who are q***r non-monogamous kinky widows to talk op...
10/24/2025

We are so excited to announce this new grief circle for those of us who are q***r non-monogamous kinky widows to talk openly about our grief.

This is a monthly grief circle for widows who are q***r, non-monogamous, and kinky to grieve the death of your partner(s) and the shifts in relational dynamics with the relational constellations of your erotic and romantic connections, as well as, the shift in the way you show up to your s*xual self.

Polyamourous/non-monogamous experience doesn’t always fit within traditional bereavement spaces. The additional layers of q***rness, transness, kink dynamics, etc all add to the sense of isolation when attempting to access peer spaces for widows. Maybe that word is not even quite right for you, terminology is often deep in the het-norm of it all, and this space is created from a sense of needing to have something that is as q***red and expansive as the relationships that we live and die in.

This grief circle centers the grief of partner death loss, whatever partner means to you. D/S dynamics, comets, spouses, f**k buddies, play partners, situations where your relationship was unknown to their family/community, s*x work clients/providers, etc.

If you are q***r, non-monogamous, and kinky, grieving the death of a partner, this space is for you.

*LGBTQIA2+ Space
*18+
*No prior grief circle experience is required.
*Drop in sessions. Come when you can, as you can.
*Participation is by choice. You will never be required to share.
*No sharing advice unless explicitly asked for.
*No homework/worksheets, but grief tending suggestions and resources will be sent to the group after.

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We would love to have you there!

It’s my birthday! This double Libra is 43 and feeling wild about being alive right now and so happy to be here with all ...
10/22/2025

It’s my birthday!

This double Libra is 43 and feeling wild about being alive right now and so happy to be here with all of you! Thank you for sharing this corner of the internet with me. ❤️

If you would like to help me celebrate my birthday there are a few ways that would feel good to me.

1.) Monetarily Support Fighting Food Insecurity ��

You may have heard the news that if the US government shut down continues, SNAP benefits will not be disbursed for November. This will leave many people with extreme food insecurity. Giving money to organizations who have reliable food distribution processes is an excellent way to love on people right now. Two of my favorite places to support getting food and household supplies into the hands of families who need them are Equitable Giving Circle and Voix Noire.

2.) Beloved Coaching Community Supported Care ��

My practice, Beloved Coaching, provides many sliding scale sessions and low to no cost workshop spots each month. If you love the work I do and want to support it on a monthly basis, or with a one time gift, you can help me continue to provide needed care to folks who do not have the financial means to do so. ��You can to contribute to the Community Supported Care Fund: https://www.belovedcoaching.net/community-supported-care

OR

Venmo @ BelovedCoaching
Paypal.me/BelovedCoaching

3.) DM me and share something that has brought you a glimmer of joy or hope or whimsy in the recent days.

4.) Reach out to someone to tell them something you appreciate about them.

5.) Listen to your favorite song or album.

*xEd *xualHealing *xCoach ***rS*xCoach ***rs *xuality *xualEmpowerment

This little altar helped hold the Q***r Death Salon folks today as we discussed S*xual Bereavement, embodiment, bringing...
10/22/2025

This little altar helped hold the Q***r Death Salon folks today as we discussed S*xual Bereavement, embodiment, bringing pleasure and or**sm into palliative care and death, and so many things that the larger world considers taboo… especially when discussed together.

Thank you ***rcommunitydeathcare for having me and to everyone who attended, shared, listened and supported one another with your presence.

It really is a joy and honor to do this work. 💖

*xEd *xualHealing *xCoach ***rS*xCoach ***rs *xuality *xualEmpowerment

This sweet pea caught my attention all weekend. Plump petals. Bright hues agains the grey sky. An unseasonal bloom. Some...
10/21/2025

This sweet pea caught my attention all weekend. Plump petals. Bright hues agains the grey sky. An unseasonal bloom.

Something about it felt like a gift.

I wanted to share it with you. 💖

*xEd *xualHealing *xCoach ***rS*xCoach ***rs *xuality *xualEmpowerment

We're two days away from the Q***r Death Salon about S*xual Bereavement with ***rcommunitydeathcare ! Let’s gather and e...
10/20/2025

We're two days away from the Q***r Death Salon about S*xual Bereavement with ***rcommunitydeathcare ! Let’s gather and engage with our questions and feelings about:

-s*x after the death of a loved one.
-the disenfranchised grief of polyamorous and kinky relational loss.
-how pleasure and erotic energy can support our mourning.
-changes in desire as death approaches for ourselves or a loved one.
-cultural expectations of how a widow should act and our internalized stories about that.
-anything s*x/pleasure and bereavement related.

No question is too taboo.

You will be invited to participate in embodiment exercises, freewrite and consider the ways you want to be in relationship to your s*xual expression within your (anticipatory) grief.

Jess DeVries is a q***r somatic s*x coach and grief worker. She primarily serves the q***r/trans community supporting folks in reclaiming body autonomy and to inspire curiosity about pleasure and s*xual expression, guiding folks to define and pursue pleasure on their own terms. She is a grief advocate who regularly facilitates spaces for people to grieve, inviting the wisdom of the body to guide the grief process.

Q***r Death Salon is a community space for all 2SLGBTQIA+ people to come together to discuss death, dying and grief. It is a facilitated drop-in discussion space, with the purpose of building connection, skill, and resources for 2SLGBTQIA+ people navigating end of life in our personal lives and in our communities.

Participants are encouraged to bring their own questions, stories, and complexities to share.

Automatic closed captioning is enabled for the zoom session. Follow the link in bio to get more info on format and accessibility, and to get the zoom link.

Hope to see you there!

Just me and my sprinkle covered pink triangle sending some extra love to all the q***rs. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
10/14/2025

Just me and my sprinkle covered pink triangle sending some extra love to all the q***rs.

💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

Sometimes sitting with our grief or discussing desire and pleasure can be too much without something to do with our hand...
10/10/2025

Sometimes sitting with our grief or discussing desire and pleasure can be too much without something to do with our hands.

Whether it’s a stim or part of the way your brain process information, inviting crafts or artistic practices into session is always welcome.

As provider working with my hands while holding space can be a supportive and magical process as well.

There’s also a metaphor here… slowly stitching our parts back into a whole, or something like that. I’m not going to think too hard about it, I’m just going to let the pleasure of hand sewing brightly colored scraps be enough.

What’s your favorite way to keep your hands busy?

*xEd *xualHealing *xCoach ***rS*xCoach ***rs *xuality *xualEmpowerment

I’m just sitting in the dark listening to the sounds of water at the lake. The air is cool. And my heart is so heavy. To...
10/01/2025

I’m just sitting in the dark listening to the sounds of water at the lake. The air is cool. And my heart is so heavy.

Today I fell asleep after work because my little system needed to shut all the way down. The news, my own grief, the grief I am holding with others shut me down.

When I woke up my wife asked if I felt like I wanted to walk around the tiny lake. It took me a bit, but I got on pants and out the door.

Everything is still overwhelmingly hard and heartbreaking.

And right now I can also hear the water at the lake, air cool on my face.

What else is here with you in the midst of all the heartbreak and overwhelm?

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Welcome to Beloved Coaching

My name is Jess DeVries and I am a Somatic S*x and Relationship Coach trained in the Somatica® Method. I partner with individuals interested in deepening their level of connection in interpersonal relationships, expanding their erotic know-how and having a greater self-understanding of their body, their needs and their desires. My heart's work is to meet people where they are and help them become as s*xually fulfilled as they want to be. I specialize in working with folks who grew up in the Christian church and are seeking to undo early religious messaging around s*x and s*xuality. Work is done in one-on-one sessions at my office in Portland, OR, via Skype or over the phone. While not a comprehensive list, the following gives you an idea of what is possible within a session. Areas I can help you explore are: *Learning more about your personal turn-ons, why they turn you on and how to incorporate your turn-ons into your s*x life regularly. *Boundaries: how to notice your own, how to hold them and how to honor the boundaries of others. *Asking for what you want. *Healing early emotional wounds through inner child work. *Different types of touch and how to touch your partner(s) in ways that are pleasing to both of you. *Exploring romance, passion and/or dominance in your relationship(s) *Struggles and issues within your relationship with your partner(s) or with s*x in general and how to address those issues. *Insecure attachment and building more secure attachment. If you are interested in a session give me a call. I look forward to working with you.