Beloved Coaching

Beloved Coaching Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach My name is Jess DeVries and I am a Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach trained in the Somatica® Method.

I partner with individuals interested in deepening their level of connection in interpersonal relationships, expanding their erotic know-how and having a greater self-understanding of their body, their needs and their desires. My heart's work is to meet people where they are and help them become as sexually fulfilled as they want to be. I specialize in working with folks who grew up in the Christian church and are seeking to undo early religious messaging around sex and sexuality. Work is done in one-on-one sessions at my office in Portland, OR, via Skype or over the phone. While not a comprehensive list, the following gives you an idea of what is possible within a session. Areas I can help you explore are:

*Learning more about your personal turn-ons, why they turn you on and how to incorporate your turn-ons into your sex life regularly.

*Boundaries: how to notice your own, how to hold them and how to honor the boundaries of others.

*Asking for what you want.

*Healing early emotional wounds through inner child work.

*Different types of touch and how to touch your partner(s) in ways that are pleasing to both of you.

*Exploring romance, passion and/or dominance in your relationship(s)

*Struggles and issues within your relationship with your partner(s) or with sex in general and how to address those issues.

*Insecure attachment and building more secure attachment. If you are interested in a session give me a call. I look forward to working with you.

Does your grief feel big this week, amplified by the winter holidays? We gather on Wednesday for the last Mindful Erotic...
12/22/2025

Does your grief feel big this week, amplified by the winter holidays?

We gather on Wednesday for the last Mindful Erotic Grief of 2025.

Your grief is not too much. It is welcome.

I'd be happy to hold a little bit of it with you. ❤️

Register in the link.

On this the darkest night, we ( and I) want to offer you a gift, a little light. It's something we made from little spar...
12/22/2025

On this the darkest night, we ( and I) want to offer you a gift, a little light.

It's something we made from little sparks and shimmers and glimmers that we each found in the dark.

As we welcome back the light, slowly, but surely, we also want to welcome you into a slow way to engage with the work that we do. Like the very gradual return of the sun, coming into our bodies, building practices for cultivating pleasure and finding ways to share embodied pleasure with others can't be rushed. It's slow going and often can involve a lot of time in the dark.

We know that the economics of currency, but also time and capacity, prevent folks from doing this slow and gradual work in 1-on-1 sessions because it feels out of reach. Or you don't feel like you deserve it.

We wanted to craft a way to share tools, activities, practices and frameworks that we have found useful in our own journeys through the long dark that you can engage with at your own pace, choosing your way through, and that led us to make Get Free!

Get Free (foundations of relational embodiment exploration) is a 3 part self guided course that can be purchased in Canadian dollars from softtouchbodies.com or in American dollars from belovedcoaching.net

Please check it out in the links and sign up to help yourself find and cultivate the little, but determined to return, light within.

A little double rainbow magic for this darkest day of the year. Happy Solstice loves! Welcoming back the light with you....
12/22/2025

A little double rainbow magic for this darkest day of the year.

Happy Solstice loves!

Welcoming back the light with you. 💖

*xCoach

In my second grade class we made these Christmas tree angels with our tiny school pictures. All these years later this m...
12/16/2025

In my second grade class we made these Christmas tree angels with our tiny school pictures.

All these years later this mulleted 80’s baby angel still lives with me. She’s not usually on the tree, but this year I wanted to bring her out and onto the sweet cedar I have decorated.

I’m sharing her here because a lot of us are scared right now. A lot of us are overwhelmed. All of us are grieving in some way. And the darkness of the season can amplify those feelings.

I’m scared and overwhelmed and grieving too.

I pulled little Jess out... little mullet baby angel Jess out… because I want to remember her this December and how she lives inside of me. Remember the kid that was full of love and anxiety with lungs that sent her to the hospital and remember how when I am scared and overwhelmed and grieving, a lot of the times I am her.

When I have the energy, or people to remind me to, I can show up for that Jess and sooth us both with things that would have made her feel loved and protected then.

* Holding the hand of my old stuffed bear
* Being creative
* Having my back gently scratched
* Playing in nature
* Reading (rereading) books in my bed

What did a younger version of you want or need to feel loved and protected?

What would make it possible for you to give yourself a little of that? Or to ask someone to offer it to you?

Winter holiday season is full of grief… missing our loved ones who have died, severed ties with family of origin, no lon...
12/11/2025

Winter holiday season is full of grief… missing our loved ones who have died, severed ties with family of origin, no longer being connected to seasonal traditions, too much, too little, and the seasonal darkness.

Our next Mindful Erotic Grief is on December 24th, Christmas Eve.

If you need a place for your grief this holiday season, there is space for you here. You don’t have to be alone with it.

❤️

*xEd *xualHealing *xCoach *xCoachPDX *xCoach

12/08/2025

This is just a little reminder to look up.

Or around.

Breathe a little deeper if that feels possible.

I love you.

The Beloved Coaching virtual office is pretty cozy this time of year. *xEd *xualHealing *xCoach *xCoach ...
12/04/2025

The Beloved Coaching virtual office is pretty cozy this time of year.

*xEd *xualHealing *xCoach *xCoach *xuality *xualEmpowerment

I caught these lines on my face from my 3M Aura this evening after leaving a friend’s house. There’s something about tak...
12/02/2025

I caught these lines on my face from my 3M Aura this evening after leaving a friend’s house.

There’s something about taking a mask off after spending time inside with folks outside my bubble... release, the fresh air, the lines that remain after a time of care and holding and sharing space with consent.

It doesn’t feel that dissimilar to the lines that remain after being tied with rope. Slightly different flavors, but also a time of care and holding and sharing space with consent.

This post is a little love letter to your mask lines and the care and holding we offer one another each time we decide to put on a mask.

❤️❤️❤️

*xEd *xualHealing *xCoach *xCoachPDX *xCoach

The cedars can hold it. We can hold one another together. Our breath out is their breath in. Their breath out is our bre...
11/27/2025

The cedars can hold it. We can hold one another together. Our breath out is their breath in. Their breath out is our breath in.

Today marks 2 years since my metamour Coco transitioned to the other side of the veil. Words about it feel unreachable this year, but just popping in to say grief and love are more vast than we can imagine.

So grateful for the cedars that held and continue to hold my grief so well.

Resting on a log by a little stream. Where can you find a bit of rest today? *xEd *xualHealing *xCoach *xCoach ...
11/18/2025

Resting on a log by a little stream.

Where can you find a bit of rest today?

*xEd *xualHealing *xCoach *xCoach *xuality *xualEmpowerment

Nearly six years ago I lost one of my significant people to a car accident. In the ways that polyamory and q***rness and...
11/09/2025

Nearly six years ago I lost one of my significant people to a car accident. In the ways that polyamory and q***rness and working with erotic energy make the term partner complicated, her death (coupled a number of other losses at the same time) was completely overwhelming and most people didn’t know how to understand my grief.

And those that did were also swimming deeply in the same waters of the grief of her death.

How do you talk about the person that you were building life plans with, but weren’t s*xual with, but also trained in flogging with and wanted to bring s*xual healing to evangelical communities as part of our magic…

Being q***r and kinky and non-monogamous allows for so many expansive relationships to exist, and when we lose someone, the standard of grief care does not know how to show up and hold that grief.

Tomorrow’s grief circle is just that. A place where we get to name things exactly as they are, and choose to share or not from a place of actual choice rather than trying to keep parts of our grief safe because we know people won’t understand.

If you are someone who is q***r, kinky and non-monogamous and you have had a partner die (comet, D/S, client/provider, spouse, f**k buddy… etc) and need a place to be with your grief with people who understand. This place is for you.

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and I would be so glad to have you there. ❤️

The moon is my girlfriend. Tonight she was flirting with all of us.
11/07/2025

The moon is my girlfriend. Tonight she was flirting with all of us.

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Welcome to Beloved Coaching

My name is Jess DeVries and I am a Somatic S*x and Relationship Coach trained in the Somatica® Method. I partner with individuals interested in deepening their level of connection in interpersonal relationships, expanding their erotic know-how and having a greater self-understanding of their body, their needs and their desires. My heart's work is to meet people where they are and help them become as s*xually fulfilled as they want to be. I specialize in working with folks who grew up in the Christian church and are seeking to undo early religious messaging around s*x and s*xuality. Work is done in one-on-one sessions at my office in Portland, OR, via Skype or over the phone. While not a comprehensive list, the following gives you an idea of what is possible within a session. Areas I can help you explore are: *Learning more about your personal turn-ons, why they turn you on and how to incorporate your turn-ons into your s*x life regularly. *Boundaries: how to notice your own, how to hold them and how to honor the boundaries of others. *Asking for what you want. *Healing early emotional wounds through inner child work. *Different types of touch and how to touch your partner(s) in ways that are pleasing to both of you. *Exploring romance, passion and/or dominance in your relationship(s) *Struggles and issues within your relationship with your partner(s) or with s*x in general and how to address those issues. *Insecure attachment and building more secure attachment. If you are interested in a session give me a call. I look forward to working with you.