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Lisa Happ Coaching

Certified Divorce Coach, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and Brainspotting Practioner, Hypnotherapist

04/07/2026

Trying to send one text
during a divorce
and suddenly you’re in a full blown
legal / emotional / psychological breakdown

keep it neutral
don’t sound reactive
don’t give him anything he can use later
reading it 5 times like

is this going to set them off
did I just open a door
should I delete the whole thing

this is the part
no one else sees on understands…..
not court
not the big stuff

this ~

the daily, exhausting,
what the hell do I even say moments

especially with coercive control

where a simple text
is never just a text

04/02/2026

You can have all the information in the world
and still feel completely stuck

Because divorce
especially from a high-conflict partner
isn’t just legal

It’s physiological

If your nervous system is overwhelmed
clarity is hard to access
and strategy starts to fall apart

This is the part most people aren’t talking about

Grateful to have this featured in
Divorce Guide Magazine 🤍 🔗https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/divorceguidemagazine

03/29/2026

Most people don’t see this part.

The texts you sit there staring at.
Rewriting. Deleting. Starting over.

Trying to keep it calm.
Not too much.
Not something that’s going to come back on you later.

Reading it again thinking…
is this going to set him off
did I say too much
not enough

It’s exhausting.

And this… this is actually where everything shifts.

Not in court.
Not in the big moments everyone else sees.

Right here
in these exhausting, everyday interactions that slowly break you

where you want to react
you want to defend yourself
you want to just say what you really feel

and you don’t

you stay clear
you stay grounded
even when it’s the last thing you feel like doing

and you don’t abandon yourself
just to keep things from escalating

And having someone there
who knows how to guide you through it
changes everything.

Because doing this alone?
it’s really hard to hold that line

And this is the part no one talks about

but it’s the part
that slowly gives you
yourself back 🤍

03/25/2026

Grateful to have this conversation featured here 🤍

When everything feels like it’s unraveling
you don’t need more opinions.

You need clarity.
You need regulation.
You need strategy that actually holds under pressure. 🔗 https://thereignelle.com/finding-clarity-when-everything-feels-unraveling/

03/23/2026

I have stayed quiet until now but I been following this case incredibly closely. As Kelsey’s trial begins today please send her 🤍 love and postive vibes as she navigates a system that is so corrupt. As a Mom and someone who fights for women everyday this case is so close to my soul for so many reasons that I cannot share here. So many people are thinking of you today Kelsey 🤍 Learn more about Kelsey here 🔗 https://crimetimelines.com/kelsey-fitzsimmons-case/?fbclid=IwdGRjcAQuELBleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZAo2NjI4NTY4Mzc5AAEeH9aMgY_Ud6YLIIZgFH9o9IqzuDZJ7QzkEDmOucTmZF-dHt7cl4APO0MLxPE_aem_L0SZ126M0_bqV9mJ-SSDnA

🤍 Support Kelsey here: https://www.givesendgo.com/HelpKelseyHeal?utm_source=sharelink&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_campaign=HelpKelseyHeal&fbclid=IwdGRjcAQuE65leHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZAo2NjI4NTY4Mzc5AAEebPgWrk7V0ajwKD8MmM-pAqyxMrNhaIRuqlwPiCJVuzNFewrCK06CH3gkwBc_aem_MVsg3V14gJGJo8enXhM4YA

03/20/2026

Sometimes leaving doesn’t look dramatic.
It looks like 2am, wide awake,
going in circles in your own head
trying to make it make sense.

At some point… you realize
it’s not going to.
And that’s the moment everything starts to shift.

That’s when you leave. 🤍
And little by little,
you’ll be more than okay.

03/15/2026

There was a time Sundays made my stomach tight.

Before my eyes were even open my brain was already scanning…

What mood is he in today?

Nice.
Drunk.
Angry.

Would today be peaceful…
or another day walking on eggshells.

When you live like that long enough your nervous system forgets what calm feels like.

Now my Sundays look very different.

Travel, Coffee. Quiet. Space to breathe.

Sometimes I stop and think…
I cannot believe that used to be my life.

If you’re in that place right now where your body never really relaxes around someone, I want you to know something.

Peace and freedom can absolutely be your future.

And when you get there… it feels pretty amazing.

Turns out Sundays are actually pretty nice when the only drama is deciding where to get coffee.

03/11/2026

A lot of the support I give clients happens in those quiet moments no one else sees…

when their ex’s name pops up on their phone

and their stomach drops for a second

and they just sit there staring at the screen thinking,

what do I even say to this?

Not because they don’t know themselves.

But because after everything they’ve been through, even a simple message can bring that old feeling rushing back.

Sometimes it just helps to have someone beside you in that moment helping you find words that protect your peace, hold your ground, and remind you that you don’t have to keep yourself small anymore.

And I truly love…

watching women take their power back from these asshats! 🤍

03/09/2026

Have you ever sat in your driveway and just… not been able to go inside?

Or spent years managing someone else’s emotions just to keep the peace?

This conversation on Divorce Happens with Olivia Howell was created for exactly that moment.

We talk about high-conflict divorce, coercive control, and the truth most people miss:

You cannot out-strategize a dysregulated nervous system.

When your body has been living in survival mode for years, logic alone won’t get you through. Regulation is what allows clarity, strategy, and real decisions.

In this episode we talk about:
• the difference between venting and processing
• how to set boundaries with intrusive questions
• simple nervous system resets that actually work
• what support really looks like in a high-conflict divorce

I share tools I use with my clients every day — and the deeper truth behind my work:

You can rebuild a life after coercive control.
I did. My clients do.

If you’re navigating something like this right now, you don’t have to figure it all out at once.

Just take the next step.

Listen to the full episode 🎧https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/divorce-happens/id1750848914?i=1000753151387

03/07/2026

You stay.
Not because you’re not strong enough.
Because the whole thing
just feels impossibly big.
You know that moment
when you realize
you probably need to leave…

but it feels about as doable as

climbing a giant sequoia
in heels
naked
with no plan
and everyone watching
while carrying everyone else’s emotions.

03/04/2026

Your nervous system adapted

to stay safe in something

that required constant vigilance.

It’s still trying to protect you.

Because you’re still navigating the complexity.

That doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It means you’ve been carrying a lot.

And now you and your nervous system need support

so you can move through this, feel safe

and trust yourself again. 🤍

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