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Lisa Happ Coaching

Certified Divorce Coach, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and Brainspotting Practioner, Hypnotherapist

03/04/2026

Your nervous system adapted

to stay safe in something

that required constant vigilance.

It’s still trying to protect you.

Because you’re still navigating the complexity.

That doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It means you’ve been carrying a lot.

And now you and your nervous system need support

so you can move through this, feel safe

and trust yourself again. 🤍

02/24/2026

Healing takes rebuilding your nervous system from the inside out.

You can walk out the door and still feel shaky months later.
That doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. It means your body is still catching up.

So happy to write this for Fresh Starts Registry.

🔗 https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/blog/why-healing-can-feel-harder-than-leaving

02/21/2026

You can handle any crisis.

Plane emergency landing?

You’re already helping strangers find the exit row.

Category 4 hurricane headed your way?

You’ve got water, batteries, stocked do your entire street.

Kid projectile vomiting in the backseat?

You’re steering with one hand and passing paper towels like a field medic.

And somehow…

every person you’ve ever met calls you

to ask what they should do with their own life.

Career decisions.

Relationship drama.

Where to move.

What to text back.

You’re the crisis hotline.

In a real emergency,

you become laser-focused.

Like… Navy SEAL in yoga pants.

But ask you where you want to DoorDash from?

You freeze like it’s a high-stakes negotiation.

Suddenly you’ve never had a preference in your entire life.

“I don’t care.”

“You pick.”

“Actually I’m not even hungry.”

It’s not about the food.

It’s that you’ve been the emergency response team for everyone else.

At some point your brain just taps out.

And somehow Pad Thai feels heavier than the hurricane.

Does it make sense? (It does. You’re just tired.) 🤍

02/19/2026

My family and friends ask me almost daily how I can hold so much for so many women and not crumble under the weight of it.

Yesterday is why…..

This text popped up on my phone yesterday.

I just sat there for a second.

Because I remember the woman who used to sit in her car before court and throw up.

The one who couldn’t sleep the night before.

The one whose mind would spiral and ruminate for hours, trying to anticipate every possible move.

There was a time when one email from him could knock the wind out of her for days.

One shift in tone and she’d start questioning herself and blaming herself all over again.

Then Yesterday?

Same courtroom.

Same history.

Same man.

But he didn’t have control over her anymore!!!

She wasn’t bracing for impact.

She wasn’t scanning the room for danger.

She wasn’t shrinking.

She was calm. Clear. Solid in herself.

That shift doesn’t just happen.

It happens slowly.

When the trauma bond begins to loosen.

When the manipulation is recognized instead of absorbed.

When her nervous system starts to feel a little safer.

When she has steady support and real strategy, so she’s not walking into hard moments alone or guessing.

Yesterday she didn’t just show up.

She showed up as herself!!!

And if you’ve ever lived through this, you know how big that is.

That moment 🤍 when you can feel your own steadiness again 🤍 that’s why I’ve built my life and career around this.

Because watching a someone realize she’s going to be okay… and then actually feel it?

There’s nothing more powerful than that. 🤍

02/18/2026

It’s exhausting functioning day to day.

Pretending you’re okay. Showing up at work.

Standing in the grocery store line. Helping with homework. Answering texts like nothing is wrong.

Then you fall into bed and your body is shaking from the inside out.

Your heart won’t slow down. Your head won’t stop. You’re already wondering how you’re going to get through tomorrow.

And you know you will.

Because you have no choice.

You’re tired of smiling. Tired of acting normal.Tired of falling apart on the inside while everyone thinks you’re “handling it.”

Someone asks how you are. You say “I’m okay.”

Functioning is not okay.Functioning can mean you are hanging on by a thread.

If you’re not okay right now, that’s ok.

You are human. You are enough. And you are meant to do all of this alone. 🤍

02/17/2026

I joined Unpopular Decisions podcast to talk about one of the most misunderstood choices people make: divorce — especially leaving toxic or abusive relationships without waiting for approval.
We discussed why women often stay for years, the fear of uncertainty, and the truth that you don’t need anyone’s permission to choose yourself.
If you or someone you love is questioning what they’ve been taught to tolerate, this conversation is for you.
🎧 Show link: https://m.youtube.com/
P.S. We created a Spotify playlist to pump you up for your next chapter! 🎶 https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7lQvqKVKcCcZluz18m1Jje?si=XtjxhhffSEq9dwCDK0u_oA&pi=bCQz3GA_TvqLA

02/16/2026

I could run the meeting.
Smile at pickup.
Answer the group text.
Send the email to my lawyer.
Schedule the home appraisal.
Fold the laundry.
Make dinner.

No one would guess my hands were shaking in the car five minutes before I walked in.

No one sees me sitting on the edge of the bed at night staring at the wall because my brain won’t shut off.

I’m was the reliable one.
The capable one.
The one who always figured it out.

But my body is tired in a way sleep doesn’t fix.

If this feels familiar, nothing is “wrong” with you.

You’ve been holding up a lot. Quietly.

And at some point, even the strong ones need someone to lean back on.

You don’t have to keep carrying all of it by yourself. 🤍 If you’ve been holding it together for everyone else, there’s space for you here too.

And if it feels right, you can schedule a call when you’re ready. 🤍

02/13/2026

You pull into your driveway

and just sit there.

Because for those five minutes

no one needs you.

It’s the only place you don’t have to hold it all together.

Your body is buzzing.
Your hands are shaking.
Your heart is racing.

Your head spinning from a day of decisions, managing emotions, keeping the peace, protecting the kids, answering the emails.

You walk inside and everyone thinks you’re fine.

The Capable One.

The Strong One.

But in the car… for those 5 minutes you finally exhale.

I’ve sat there too.

This doesn’t have to be your forever. 🤍

02/12/2026

When someone finally feels grounded again… this is what it sounds like.

Not because I rescued them.
Because they came back to themselves.
Because their body isn’t bracing for impact anymore.
Because they can walk into court or mediation and feel clear instead of shaking inside.

That’s the work.

Divorcing someone who uses control tactics doesn’t just require a good attorney.
It requires support that helps you think straight, speak calmly, and sleep through the night again.

And if you’re in it right now… I want you to know this:

You won’t always feel this way.
Your body can soften again.
You can feel like you again. 🤍

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