04/15/2026
You know that moment when you finally decide it's time to talk about your family of origin issues? You’ve tackled almost everything else you could think of, putting that one off as long as you could?
I was only too happy when my husband, the Professor, did his work. I applauded him when he set things to right from his childhood, but mine? I’d get to that later, I reasoned. I knew it would open Pandora’s box and frankly, I knew there were snakes in there.
I've been dancing around this work for years. Circling it. Acknowledging it exists somewhere in the distance. But actually opening that box? It felt like inviting battles I wasn't ready to face.
Here's what nobody tells you about family of origin work: it's terrifying because you've spent your entire life carefully organizing the fragments of yourself into something that functions. The thought of unpacking where those fragments came from, why you’re the way you are, feels like it might shatter the whole carefully constructed person you've become.
For me, it took watching my husband dive into his own healing journey. His courage became a mirror. If he could face his past to build a better future with me, maybe I could too.
So, I'm finally doing it. Opening the door. And honestly? I'm still scared. But I'm also hopeful in a way I didn't expect.
If you've been avoiding this work, if the idea of exploring your family patterns makes you want to run in the opposite direction, I see you. You're not broken for being afraid. You're human for protecting yourself.
But when you're ready (and only when you're ready), there's so much freedom waiting on the other side of that fear.
I'm talking about all of this in my latest podcast episode. The messy truth about starting family of origin work, the fragmentation, the fear, and why it matters.
🎧 Link in bio to listen. Let me know if this resonates with you. Your story will be the encouragement someone else needs today.
