12/12/2025
✅On December 11, 2025, the person who harmed me DEEPLY was found guilty of a felony involving the non-consensual sharing of intimate images— all part of the BIG SMEAR campaign you saw all over the media! 💥Those images and more were used as part of a deliberate attempt to destroy my reputation, my business, my name—and to intimidate me into silence. (There are more charges that Carver County has against him that have not gone to court yet as well)
This week, I did one of the most courageous things I have ever done in my life.
After years of abuse, threats, manipulation, and an ongoing smear campaign that began two years ago, I had to take the stand in a jury trial as both the victim and a witness. I had to tell my story to a jury in a courtroom filled with strangers—and face the humiliation of knowing intimate, extremely vulnerable images of me would be shown as evidence. (Not to mention, see “his” face and to be drilled with questions by attorneys)
I want to say this clearly:
Over the past 2 years,
✅I did not retaliate.
✅I did not run a smear campaign back.
✅I did not post “my side” online for two years.
✅I tried my best to NOT talk about him & her AT ALL even though they harassed me (& many of you about me).
I did the bravest thing I could do—I let the justice system handle it, even when it felt like it was breaking me. I did my best to keep a smile on my face and hold my head up high even when I knew people were whispering behind my back.
At times, I felt ashamed that I ever trusted someone capable of doing this. I felt sick knowing how much I gave to the relationship and how wrong I was. I never imagined someone could be so cruel to a person they once claimed to love.
I’m also grateful—because there were people who tried to warn me before it got worse, his ex-wife, his 2 sisters, his friend. They told the TRUTH about why he doesn’t have contact with his 6 children and why his siblings will not see him either. The abuse his ex-wife & family endured is heart breaking!
My children drew a line in the sand on Nov 15, 2023 and said, “this is not normal, and it is not safe for any of us to allow him to live with us anymore”. That was the day we made him move out.
I had to let him go,
even though I was afraid of his threats. He told me he would destroy me, my family, my business, and my reputation if I kicked him out. That was the risk I had to take.
It was very difficult. Trauma bonds can be very hard to break.
✅Do I take responsibilities for decision decisions I have made? YES.
✅Did I get caught up in the highs and lows of our relationship? Yes.
✅Am I a fixer with a huge heart? Yes.
✅Am I a quitter? No.
But some things cannot be fixed. And the only thing I can fix now is me—my healing, my peace, and my future.
Over the past two years, the fallout has been devastating. I’ve lost my livelihood, my reputation, money I worked hard for, my home, relationships, and the sense of safety I used to have in my community. I’ve felt judged in ways that are hard to describe. When he took his lies & manipulated content to the police and to the media that was the final straw. He accomplished everything he set out to do and he even got his girlfriend and a couple of other competitors locally in my field to help him do it. I will never understand this. This is my chance to get the truth out, to rebuild my reputation, and to help others avoid situations like this.
I’ve already lost everything so I really have nothing to lose and everything to gain by sharing this information.
BUT
✅I have not lost my faith or my courage to STAND UP FOR WHAT’s RIGHT!
✅And I have not lost my voice!
✅ and I do believe something GOOD has to come out of something so horrific and traumatic! is REAL
I’m sharing this now because I have stayed quiet long enough—and because I refuse to let intimidation and gossip define my story. This is not posted to attack anyone. It is posted to tell the truth, to clear my name, and to help other women recognize abuse before it escalates.
💥💥I AM ALSO POSTING THIS BECAUSE WHAT THE MEDIA HAS DONE TO ME IS WRONG. PEOPLE ARE NOT GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT. THEY ARE INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY! 💥💥
One important request:
If you receive messages, claims, packages, or “information” about me (or anything tied to my former business or associates), please let me know directly.
🩷And I’m asking—please do not gossip about me. I’m an open book. If you want to know something, call me or meet me. Please don’t help carry forward a smear campaign that has already cost my family and me so much.
🙏I am hanging onto my mental health by a thread right now, and I need prayers. I need support. I need kindness. If you know me—if you’ve seen my heart—❤️please leave an encouraging comment. Even a few words help more than you know.
Thank you for listening. This is just the beginning of me reclaiming my life, my faith, and my name. KARE 11 Fox 9 WCCO & CBS News Minnesota Star Tribune City of Prior Lake - Government Prior Lake Chamber of Commerce
