S dot Baker LICSW, LLC

04/24/2026

04/10/2026

Boundaries don’t usually create new problems - they expose existing ones.⁣
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The reaction you get after setting a boundary is often more informative than the boundary itself.⁣
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Healthy relationships adapt. Unhealthy ones resist or escalate.⁣
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You’re not “starting conflict.” You’re uncovering it.⁣

02/12/2026

Black mental health matters.

Su***de touches those of all ages in Black communities, with 1 in 10 youth attempting su***de and the highest rates of su***de seen in 25–34-year-old adults.

With culturally relevant mental health resources we can fight su***de in historically marginalized communities and foster a better understanding of Black mental health.

Artwork by Lo Harris

02/12/2026

02/11/2026

I hate it when people say “If you love me, you’ll accept me as I am”.

Loving you doesn’t mean tolerating your refusal to develop emotional intelligence and heal your dysfunction.

If you loved you, you would do the work so people who love you don’t feel forced to walk away.

That’s the twisted part, isn’t it?

People use love as an excuse to stay stuck, to avoid accountability, to keep doing the same toxic patterns.

But real love, genuine love, is about wanting the best for the other person, even if that means having hard conversations, setting boundaries, or taking a step back.

It’s about recognizing that we’re all works in progress, but also acknowledging that we have a responsibility to ourselves and others to do the inner work.

If someone loves you, they’ll support your growth, they’ll encourage your healing, but they shouldn’t have to beg you to take care of yourself.

You should want to take care of yourself, not just for them, but for you.

That’s where the real change happens.