Spears Retreat Counseling Center

Spears Retreat Counseling Center Spears Retreat Counseling Center, Oak Grove Community of Hattiesburg,Ms is the private counseling pr (601)261-9918

Spears Retreat Counseling Center, Oak Grove Community, Hattiesburg, MS. is the private counseling practice of Bill Spears, PhD and Mitzi Crawford Spears, LCSW.

12/30/2025

Anyone needing shelter from the cold will be able to stay overnight at the fieldhouse on Tuesday and Wednesday. The fieldhouse will have coffee, hot chocolate, caps, gloves, blankets and blankets on-hand.

Intuition is soft and whispers, if we can listen
12/28/2025

Intuition is soft and whispers, if we can listen

A Must Read*****
12/26/2025

A Must Read*****

At just nineteen years old, Kevin Hines stood on the edge of the Golden Gate Bridge believing his pain had finally become unbearable. In that moment, his mind was clouded by despair and untreated mental illness, convincing him that there was no other way forward. When he jumped, he fell more than 220 feet, accelerating to an estimated speed of around 75 miles per hour before slamming into the frigid waters of San Francisco Bay.

The impact should have been fatal.

Instead, Kevin survived, though his body paid a devastating price. Three of his vertebrae shattered on impact, and his spinal cord was spared by only two millimeters. Doctors later said that a fraction more damage would have left him permanently paralyzed or killed him instantly. Survival, however, was only the beginning of the fight.

The moment Kevin realized he was still alive, a powerful and unexpected shift happened inside him. The despair that had driven him to jump vanished instantly, replaced by an overwhelming will to live. He has since described that moment as one of immediate regret, a realization that every problem he believed was permanent was actually temporary — except the choice he had just made.

But the water was unforgiving.

His clothes became heavy as they soaked through, dragging him beneath the surface again and again. With broken bones and searing pain shooting through his body, Kevin struggled to keep his head above water. Each time he surfaced, he managed only a brief gasp of air before being pulled back under. Time lost meaning as panic and exhaustion set in, and survival became a second-by-second battle.

Then, in the middle of the chaos, something extraordinary happened.

Kevin felt a firm pressure beneath him, lifting him upward and keeping him afloat. At first, he could not understand what was happening. He was too injured to swim and too exhausted to fight the pull of the water, yet he was no longer sinking. His body stayed at the surface, supported from below, long enough for rescue crews to reach him.

When the Coast Guard finally pulled him from the bay, Kevin learned what had saved his life. Multiple eyewitnesses reported seeing a sea lion beneath him, using its body to hold him up and prevent him from drowning. Sea lions are known to be intelligent, curious animals, and while such behavior is rare, it has been observed in unusual rescue-like encounters. In Kevin’s case, it meant the difference between life and death.

September 25, 2000 became the day Kevin Hines survived.

Recovery was long and grueling. He endured surgeries, rehabilitation, and the emotional weight of confronting what had nearly been lost. Physical pain lingered, but the deeper work was learning how to live with purpose after surviving something so close to the end. Kevin committed himself to understanding his mental health, seeking treatment, and speaking openly about his experience.

Today, Kevin Hines is one of the most well-known su***de prevention advocates in the world. He has shared his story thousands of times across schools, conferences, and public platforms, emphasizing a message that has resonated with millions: suicidal crises are often brief, but their consequences can last forever. He reminds people that feelings lie, that help works, and that survival is possible even when hope feels unreachable.

Kevin does not frame his story as a miracle meant to romanticize suffering. He tells it as a warning and a promise. A warning about how quickly a temporary moment can lead to irreversible action, and a promise that recovery and meaning are possible after even the darkest chapters.

His survival stands as a testament not only to physical resilience, but to the fragile, powerful instinct to live that can return in an instant. One decision nearly ended his life. Another decision, made moments later, saved it.

And on that day in the cold waters below the Golden Gate Bridge, life reached back — from within him, and from an unexpected guardian beneath the surface.

♥️🙏
12/12/2025

♥️🙏

To the daughter who just lost her mother:

I see you eying up that long road ahead of you.
Without her.

First of all I want you to imagine a warm hug. I want to comfort you.

Because I have been in your place.
Im somewhere a little further up that same road.

Second of all I know that the only embrace you want right now is from your mother.

(Oh how I get that.)
But I want to give you a message.

When you lose her..
You will think that you cant live without her.
Because she was always there since day 1.
Even when you grew up. (But never grown up enough to not need her.)
She was just one phone call away.

When you lose her..

You will yearn for her voice.
Wonder how she could just leave..
Save all her text messages and voice mails..
And sob so deep it touches your soul.
Because this is all you have left of her.

The early days will feel like you are moving in slow motion as you try to process the shock of it all.

You notice everyone around you just keeps going about their days.
A rude awakening that the world just keeps on spinning..
Even when you just lost the center of yours.

When you lose her…
Even when there are so many people around you..
You will feel lonely.
And all you want is the word MOM to show up on your phone one more time.
She is the only one that can make this better.
Fix it all.

When you lose her..

You become a frightened child who is frantically trying to find her.

All of a sudden you notice daughters with their mothers everywhere. You are in the middle of jealousy and just wanting to tell them to never take this time with her for granted.

When you lose her..
you will have to go into survival mode.
Without your lifeline and her advice and someone to worry about you..
you have to step into her role and do this for yourself.

You have to dig deep inside and imagine what she would say to you..

“Breathe”
“Ask for help if you need it”
“Please don’t be too hard on yourself”
“Give yourself permission to grieve”
“Its ok to feel whatever you feel”
“One step at a time. One day at a time”
“You can do this”

On my journey without her..
This is actually where I found her.

When her voice merged into mine.
And when I realized..
Her advice to me then..
would become my lifeline now.
Her gentile encouragment throughout my life with her..
would ultimately be a guide for my days without her.

To the daughter who just lost her mother..

Close your eyes.
Imagine her voice..
Meet her in a beautiful place in your mind.

And follow the directions she always gave to you.

Breathe.

And try feel her right beside you..
And hear her whisper those words of encouragement..

As you (both) will yourself to take those next heavy steps forward.

♥️ hospice
12/06/2025

♥️ hospice

We don’t talk about it often, but the moment someone begins to decline, whether it’s subtle or sudden, caregiving quietly becomes a form of grieving. It doesn’t matter if you are caring for them for days, weeks, months, or years. From the first sign of change, anticipatory grief settles in. You begin preparing for a moment you can never truly be prepared for. You keep showing up, doing what needs to be done, holding the weight of each day because you have to. It’s an act of devotion, of responsibility, of love.

But behind every medication given, every appointment, every night of interrupted sleep, there is another story unfolding inside the caregiver. One of fear, tenderness, exhaustion, and a thousand small heartbreaks that rarely get spoken aloud. Caregivers often protect the person they are caring for by staying strong, staying steady, staying “okay” … even when they are quietly grieving the person right in front of them. This is the part most people never see.

And then the moment comes, the last breath. No matter how long you have been preparing, no matter how many times you told yourself you were ready, it still feels like the ground drops out from beneath you. Anticipatory grief shifts, blends, and becomes something new. It becomes grief in its truest form, wrapped first in shock. Because even when you have been expecting it, even when you have seen it coming, death still arrives like it wasn’t supposed to be today.

For every caregiver, personal or professional, what you carry is real, and what you feel is valid. Caring for someone at the end of their life means grieving them long before they are gone, and grieving them again when their absence becomes real. As you navigate that depth of love and loss, may you remember that your experience is not invisible. Your tenderness, your fatigue, your fear, your devotion, all of it deserves acknowledgment. So let this stand as a reminder: we see you. We honor you. And whatever you are feeling in this moment is not only understandable, it is human. We are standing with you, quietly, respectfully, gratefully.

xo
Gabby

You can find this blog here:
https://www.thehospiceheart.net/post/grief-and-caregiving

11/10/2025

Join us in this eye opening interview with Bill Spears, PhD, LPC, as he dives into his bold and transformative book, The Fcked Up Marriage: And What to Do About It*. With raw honesty and clinical expertise, Dr. Spears unpacks the struggles couples face, the patterns that keep relationships stuck, and the practical steps anyone can take to repair, rebuild, and reignite love. Whether you’re in a struggling marriage, a therapist, or simply curious about modern relationships, this conversation is packed with insight and real solutions.

The F*cked Up Marriage is available on Amazon!
https://www.amazon.com/cked-Up-Marriage-What-About/dp/B0FD4RZ2SL

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