Karen Streeter, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist

03/18/2022

"You can hope for a better world, and still struggle with thoughts of wanting to die. You can encourage your friends to pursue their dreams and still struggle to get out of bed. You can be a strong advocate for anti-racism, and still struggle to love yourself, just as you are."

Andre Henry ,Thank you for inspiring me to be part of positive change.i

You can hope for a better world, and still struggle with thoughts of wanting to die.

02/26/2022

A staggering number of men are victims of domestic violence by their female partners. One speaks out to break the taboo.

02/20/2022

Lauren Brown began suffering from dermatillomania — obsessive-compulsive picking at the skin – after years of anxiety.

02/20/2022

Cheers to each of you doing the hard work to create safety inside your mind and body. No matter where you are on that path, you deserve a pause and to show respect of how hard that can be after experiencing the changes of traumatic impact.

***We are doing early registration this weekend for Healing The Younger You. Check out details in the about section****

What has helped you feel connected, calm, peace during healing??

I’m so glad you’re here!💪🏻❤️

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Setting boundaries is often difficult but worth the discomfort. We can help support you in this process.

Raise your hand if you can relate!

I felt like I was being a horrible person…so I’d engage in the Do It Perfectly Method.

Meaning, I’d wait and wait (and wait) to find the absolutely perfect time to maaaybe sorta possibly express a wee bit of my needs.

By the way, there was no perfect time, nor did my needs ever clearly get expressed that way. 🙄

Others share similar stories, ways in which they tried to set boundaries while feeling bad about setting boundaries.

Some try the Stuff It Method.

They stuff their feelings about a problem….

(Stuffing, stuffing, stuffing)…

Until they explode.

And then they feel even guiltier. 😩

Still others never set the needed boundary at all.

That’s what I call the Avoid It Method.

They “solve” their problem by distancing themselves further and further from the potentially-solvable-situation.

Which is to say that they don’t ever address the actual problem, and they feel a greater sense of disconnection in the process. 😞

Man.

We do so many things to avoid doing the one needed thing, don’t we?

Our goal becomes to *avoid feeling uncomfortable.*

And that’s where we went wrong.

We accidentally set the wrong goal.

The goal we need is to learn how to set boundaries...

(Even though we may feel uncomfortable at times, especially at first).

Because, just sayin, it seems pretty clear that we aren’t avoiding discomfort using the other methods… 👀

When I realized I was gonna be uncomfortable either way, things began to change.

I decided I might as well be uncomfortable learning how to do the healthy thing.

I’m so glad I did.

You can, too.

❤️

Molly
Cartooning the boundaries every day

PS. If doing some boundary work might be of interest, come check out my Free Intro Class.

It’s designed especially for women who are compassionately-hearted, who feel guilty for setting boundaries, and want to learn a way that is kind, respectful, but firm. Register to get the link and then watch it anytime. 💛
Http://boundaried.com