EMDR Counseling and Consultation

01/26/2026

Trauma isn’t only about the past — it’s about how the past continues to live in the present.
Sometimes the impact comes from what happened.
Other times, from what didn’t happen when it was needed most.
These experiences shape the nervous system and the body’s responses over time.
Healing is less about fixing or judging and more about understanding how those adaptations are showing up now —
in our bodies, emotions, and patterns of connection.

12/08/2025

Many people believe healing means “moving on” or forgetting. But healing rarely looks like erasure.
It looks like loosening.
Softening.
Making new meaning.
Letting your system reorganize itself in the presence of safety and connection.
Your history becomes something you can hold with steadiness rather than fear.
This is the heart of relational EMDR work: transforming how the past lives in the present—without pretending the past didn’t happen.
If you’d like to explore this more deeply, I share more reflections on the blog.
I’d love to hear: How do you understand the difference between erasing the past and transforming it?

12/03/2025

Your nervous system was shaped by every moment you had to navigate without enough support, safety, or connection.
So many of the responses that feel “too much” or “not enough” now were once necessary forms of protection.
This doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you.
It means your system learned to survive in the best ways it could.
In relational EMDR, we move slowly and with curiosity—understanding how these patterns formed and what they’ve been protecting.
Your system has been doing its best with the conditions it had.

Does this shift how you see one of your own patterns?

11/21/2025

This morning’s Dunkin run hit me with some unexpected wisdom:

“𝐂𝐨𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐞 𝐚𝐬𝐤𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐬 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐧.”
Honestly… same.
If only our trauma responses were that low-maintenance.
Instead they’re like:
“Hold my emotional baggage, fix my childhood, read my mind, and also… stay regulated.”
Sir… I literally just woke up. 😅

𝐴𝑛𝑑 𝑖𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢’𝑣𝑒 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑘𝑒𝑑 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑚𝑒—𝑐𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑐𝑜𝑙𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑔𝑢𝑒, 𝑜𝑟 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑢𝑙𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑡—𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑙𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑦 𝑘𝑛𝑜𝑤 𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑎𝑙 𝑡𝑟𝑢𝑡ℎ 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑅𝑎𝑐ℎ𝑒𝑙 𝑇𝑜𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑛:
𝐈 𝐦𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠.

No judgment on the double cups today. ☕️☕️
So here I am, upcycling trauma and caffeine at the same time. One sip, one phase, one nervous system moment at a time.

𝐎𝐤𝐚𝐲, 𝐬𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞: 𝐃𝐮𝐧𝐤𝐢𝐧, 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐛𝐮𝐜𝐤𝐬, 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐞-𝐨𝐫-𝐝𝐢𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐞 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐝?
Tell me your loyalty in the comments. 👇

10/27/2025

In EMDR therapy, healing doesn’t always begin with words.

Sometimes a client says, “I can feel it, but I can’t describe it.” That’s not resistance—it’s the body doing exactly what it needs to do.

When we rush clients to put language to their experience, we risk pulling them into logic before the emotional and sensory networks have finished processing.

The body speaks first. The words come later.

I shared more about this in my latest reflection: Why You Shouldn’t Rush Clients to Find Words in EMDR Therapy.

💻 Read the full post here →https://www.emdrcounselingandconsultation.com/blog/emdr-consultation-implicit-memory

10/14/2025

08/13/2025

Soaking up the last splashes of summer before I trade my captain’s hat for my consultation hat.

Fall EMDR consultation groups are coming—and I’m ready to help fellow clinicians chart a course toward more confidence, clarity, and connection in their work.

Monthly groups start soon.
Limited spots so everyone gets plenty of room at the “helm.”

11/29/2023

I am an EMDR therapist working exclusively online. I help high achieving women let go of the little voice in their mind that tells them they are not good enough and lean into their amazingness. EMDR helps my clients rewrite the old tapes from the past that hold them back. If this sounds like a fit for you, send me a DM and I'll get you the details to make your next move.

11/21/2023

Embracing open communication within our families is key! Let's practice active listening, hold regular family meetings, encourage the expression of all emotions, and lead by example in sharing our own thoughts and feelings. By doing so, we create a loving environment where every voice is heard and valued. Let's nurture our family bonds through understanding and respect.

11/21/2023

This holiday, let's embrace the beauty of moving at our own pace. Whether you're in the midst of a busy kitchen, enjoying a quiet moment of gratitude, or sharing stories with family and friends, remember that the speed of our journey is ours to set.

11/16/2023

In relationships, don't assume - ask! Open dialogue builds trust and deepens connections.

11/16/2023

Ever wonder how our body heals a cut? Just like that, it is possible for our minds to heal from hurt feelings or tough times too! The Adaptive Information Processing Model shows us how. Connect with me to learn more and become stronger inside!